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is highly recommended if you want to learn more about attachment styles

This book

Exert from a conversation

I wrote a more deliberate version in the comments if you prefer to read

Thoughts on gullibility and manipulation

Libro esencial que viene a saldar parte de la deuda que tenemos con las mujeres en el psicoanálisis

Essential book that comes to settle part of the debt we have with women in psychoanalysis

No último dia 6 de Maio,nascia uma das personalidades mais brilhantes,originais e geniais da história da humanidade e da psicologia, Sigmund Freud,o homem que desvelou o lado obscuro da mente...... #Psicanálise #Freud #Id #Ego #SuperEgo

O pai da ciência que desvendou o lado oculto da psique

On the last day of May 6th, one of the brightest, most original, and genius personalities in the history of humanity and psychology was born, Sigmund Freud, the man who revealed the dark side of the mind...... #Psychoanalysis #Freud #Id #Ego #SuperEgo

The father of science who unveiled the hidden side of the psyche

Grandes psicanalistas brasileiros: Christian Dunker

If you can't change a situation, change your perception of it. Remember, most of your stress comes from the way you respond, not the way life is.

when patients go well, their analysts feels happy. :)

when patients go well…

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Because you in your waking consciousness completely refuse to accept these parts of yourself, they exist in your perception as parts existing only in others. This is why many people have nightmares about ghosts staring at them or chasing them: these are also parts of our selves that we do not want to accept, that are seeking to be seen, understood and accepted by us, and because of our total refusal to accept them, we perceive their presence in our dreams as horror. This is the same reason why many people are afraid of the dark: they always feel that there is something in the dark, staring at them: these so-called "ghosts in the dark" are nothing else but a part of your self that you don't want to accept.

So it is obvious now that you are afraid of them not because they are truly something "scary", but simply because you aren't willing to recognize and accept these parts of yourself, so you "otherize" them completely and subconsciously perceive their constant search for your acceptance as horror.

This is also the root cause of your criticism and condemnation or loathing against any other people: you are actually loathing parts of your self that you don't accept at all, and because you are so completely unwilling to accept or acknowledge that they are in fact part of your self, you subconsciously "otherize" them completely. So in your world, these parts of your self appear as  others that are annoying or scary in your waking life, and as "ghosts" in your dreams. Each of us has been so unwilling to accept many parts of ourselves, and this behavior is completely repressed below the conscious mind, buried in the subconscious, that the collective consciousness of the whole world has co-created all kinds of "ghost" cultures, sayings, stories, fears and everything about ghosts, all over the world.

So what can you do?
One of the things I've learned and found to be very effective is to make a list of the parts of yourself that you do accept. You'd realize that most of these are things that you like about you and others (e.g., kindness, sincerity, politeness, respect for people, respect for rules, intelligence, etc.)  List them all.

Then, the most important step: list the opposites of all those parts. Whether you're willing to accept this or not right now, these opposites are the very parts of yourself that exist in you that you've been in total denial about and unwilling to recognize. They are the "ghosts" you fear in dark places or at night in your bedroom, and "other people" in your life or on the internet that you criticize, condemn and judge. You'll find that the points in your list are the exact very points you loathe in other people. You must remember: everything positive you see in yourself has a negative counterpart that exists equally in you. 

Finally, intend in your mind or say it out loud:
"I fully accept all parts of myself, whatever they may be: when I'm kind and when I am malicious; when I am intelligent and when I am clumsy and blind; when I am polite and when I am vulgar; when I have a unique taste and when I have a lousy taste; when I love some animals and when I dislike them; when I want to help others and when I want to priorize myself; when I obey public order and morals and  when I want to spit and litter and jump in line and fight others and murder; when I want to accept myself and when I can't accept myself; when I am profound and when I am superficial; when I am fit and when I am fat..." etc.

Acceptance of all that is possible and impossible in your entirety, which is, one hundred percent unconditional acceptance of yourself. This is the prerequisite for love, or actually - love itself. You have taken an extremely important step by simply being willing to do this. You have to do it. You have no choice. You desire to do it. You've been wanting to do it like crazy, otherwise you wouldn't be afraid of the dark, you wouldn't have nightmares, or you wouldn't keep encountering annoying people and things that you loathe, and you wouldn't feel lonely and feel life is a struggle or see a world in wars. Our selves are always seeking, moment by moment, to be fully seen, understood, fully accepted by us, or - to be loved unconditionally. World peace lies in finally realizing that as humans, everything we have been fighting, hating, criticizing, condemning and wishing to annihilate in others are actually parts of our own selves that we don't want to recognize. You must start with yourself. Unconditional love comes from you.

(You can use the solution based on the same logic for dealing with your nightmares mentioned above: after you wake up, talk to the "ghosts" in your nightmare, and ask what they are and what they are for. Then you need to answer these questions youself. Answer the questions by intuitively writing out the answers, or imagine that you are the ghosts, and answer the questions as them. Imagine that you are now the ghost, facing yourself who's waiting for the answers, what would you want to say? What urgent demands and deep desires you have? You can practice this method also when you are afraid of the dark and "stuff" in the dark, talk to this "stuff" , and imagine that you are this "stuff", and then speak as them. Finally, when you understand what they are and what they want, you have to intend with all your heart: "I accept these parts of myself completely, and I embrace them with open arms and compassion." When you are willing to do so, you have already taken an extremely important step).

It is very shallow and even cruel to see anyone, especially oneself, in a dualistic way (e.g. good and bad, kind and evil, intelligent and stupid, etc.): for example, if you think someone is "kind", when they have to do something that isn't "kind" for reasons that you will never be able to understand because you haven't lived their life, you will instantly loathe them. This is because you have such a shallow, dualistic view of your extremely complex self and the selves of others. How can one ever expect to explain or describe complex and multi-dimensioned selves from the view of 2D? Maybe right here right now you have a sudden urge to condemn others or yourself for shallowness, or maybe now you feel superior to some people? Don't forget that the root cause of any of your non-acceptance, condemnation, or criticizing of anything in other people all lies in your unconscious unwillingness to accept yourself as such, so you subconsciously otherize them, and it's something you do all the time. Maybe you just did it again now. Similarly, when you are afraid of criticisms, judgements and attacks from others, aren't they actually the critisms and judgements that you have been making against yourself all along? Especially when you see yourself in the above-mentioned dualistic view, you are rejecting some parts of yourself all the time: if you think you are "kind", you are rejecting the parts of yourself that you believe are not "kind"; if you think you are "generous", you are rejecting the parts of yourself that you consider to be "mean"; if you think you are "intelligent", you are rejecting the parts of yourself that you think are "stupid", and so on and so forth. All of these "rejections" of yourself are accordingly reflected in your aversion to other people in your life.

When you fully accept all that you are, you will no longer loathe any other person. When you understand yourself completely, you will understand everyone. When you love yourself unconditionally, you will love the world unconditionally. World peace doesn't rely on any organization, campaigns, or politicians. Fully and completely, it relies on you. 







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Any parts that you see in others that you criticize and loathe are parts that exist in yourself that you refuse to accept.

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Fight Club and its moral lesson about the society we live in:

R.M Drake always says it so well

I think all fields of psychology should be considered when analysing any concept from a psychological prospective, as they can all contribute with truthful information from different angles. I don’t understand where the desire to claim monopoly over psychology as a science by trying to exclude or discredit other fields comes from 🤔😳🥺

Why do some fields of psychology ignore psychoanalysis?

Freudians 🍻 🥲🍃

How many of u ..like this !!!

#psychology

It's an usual situation that men start thinking In working 25/8 :) for free...

Why do people think we are working on dates?

Donald Winnicott

"Your anger is part of you that knows your mistreatment and abuse are unacceptable. Your anger knows you deserve to be treated well and with kindness. Your anger is a part of you that loves you, " and this hits different. I totally agree because our anger is a response to something that we don't want, and we know that we don't deserve it. It's toxic sometimes if we perceives but if we try to understand it, anger is self-love. You are disagreeing on something that you knew you don't deserve.

I never understood my anger until i saw this quote:

Its co-relation of mental processes and behaviour associated

Its studying the inside you to cultivate the best from within you

Many definitions come up when we describe something or some branch of science but exactly what.according to you matches best of the options below

What do you think is psychology?

Anyone who says otherwise is coping (fake) and dont know what it actually is (fake)

Psychology is fake

What color would you wear on a first date?

"You say you love rain, but you open your umbrella.

You say you love the sun, but you find a shadow spot.

You say you love wind, but close your windows.

This is why I am afraid when you say you love me."

Tell me your last wacky dream.

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This book

Thoughts on gullibility and manipulation

Essential book that comes to settle part of the debt we have with women in psychoanalysis

The father of science who unveiled the hidden side of the psyche

Grandes psicanalistas brasileiros: Christian Dunker

If you can't change a situation, change your perception of it. Remember, most of your stress comes from the way you respond, not the way life is.

Since Freud stole the term psychoanalysis..

Tigger was and is my favorite

"Constellation": a sci-fi series about gaslighting and mother-daughter relationships

I'm saddened by the amount of pseudoscience that goes around psychology in this app

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