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Do ages matter in dating? My take...

The other day, someone around here was asking about ages in dating. I see no issues with dating younger (or older) people, provided they are of legal age, but one must take a crucial element into account - if you're dating a 21 year old, they'll act as one; and if you're dating a 75 year old, don't... read more

You don't attract what you want; you attract what feels familiar to your unhealed wounds

For the longest time, I thought I was just unlucky in love. But relationship psychology reveals a deeper, aching truth: our nervous system unconsciously seeks out the familiar, even if the familiar is a chaotic loop of unhealthy attachments. We think we are moving forward, only to realize we've... read more

Compatibility isn't about finding the "perfect" person

You know... simply meeting someone is fairly easy. Building something that actually lasts? That's the difficult part. There's one thing I always feel is crucial, and yet most people never seem to think about. It comes down to understanding that you have something to offer the world, and other... read more

My Struggle

I learned a lot about emotional intelligence, spirituality, the language of love, the psychology of love, and the language of anger (where many people don't know why we often fight with our partners and what causes it). But I haven't found someone I'm looking for or loves me the way I learned. Is... read more

Reading this dialogue between a philosopher and a skeptical young man all over again. It’s a masterclass in Adlerian psychology, challenging the belief that we are trapped by our traumas. It’s not about what you’ve been through; it’s about what you’re willing to do next.

Why long-distance relationships which begin online don't work

My fever is a bit down, so I can focus on a much more interesting topic! A common debate around here is whether long-distance dating - specifically when people meet online and "commit" before ever crossing paths in real life - is actually a good idea. While personal opinions may vary, peer-reviewed... read more