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Psychology

Psychoanalysis

psychoanalysis

is highly recommended if you want to learn more about attachment styles

This book

je veoma preporučena ako želite da saznate više o stilovima vezivanja

Ova knjiga

Exert from a conversation

I wrote a more deliberate version in the comments if you prefer to read

Thoughts on gullibility and manipulation

Izvod iz razgovora

Napisao sam promišljeniju verziju u komentarima ako više voliš da pročitaš

Misli o lakovernosti i manipulaciji

Libro esencial que viene a saldar parte de la deuda que tenemos con las mujeres en el psicoanálisis

Esencijalna knjiga koja dolazi da izmiri deo duga koji imamo prema ženama u psihoanalizi

No último dia 6 de Maio,nascia uma das personalidades mais brilhantes,originais e geniais da história da humanidade e da psicologia, Sigmund Freud,o homem que desvelou o lado obscuro da mente...... #Psicanálise #Freud #Id #Ego #SuperEgo

O pai da ciência que desvendou o lado oculto da psique

Na poslednji dan 6. maja, rođena je jedna od najbriljantnijih, originalnih i genijalnih ličnosti u istoriji čovečanstva i psihologije, Sigmund Freud, čovek koji je razotkrio mračnu stranu uma...... #Psihanaliza #Freud #Id #Ego #SuperEgo

Otac nauke koji je otkrio skriveni deo psihe

Grandes psicanalistas brasileiros: Christian Dunker

Велики бразилски психоаналитичари: Кристијан Дункер

If you can't change a situation, change your perception of it. Remember, most of your stress comes from the way you respond, not the way life is.

Ako ne možete promeniti situaciju, promenite svoj pogled na nju. Zapamtite, većina vašeg stresa dolazi iz načina na koji reagujete, a ne iz načina na koji život jeste.

when patients go well, their analysts feels happy. :)

when patients go well…

kada pacijenti idu dobro, njihovi analitičari se osećaju srećno. :)

kada pacijenti idu dobro…

infp

Because you in your waking consciousness completely refuse to accept these parts of yourself, they exist in your perception as parts existing only in others. This is why many people have nightmares about ghosts staring at them or chasing them: these are also parts of our selves that we do not want to accept, that are seeking to be seen, understood and accepted by us, and because of our total refusal to accept them, we perceive their presence in our dreams as horror. This is the same reason why many people are afraid of the dark: they always feel that there is something in the dark, staring at them: these so-called "ghosts in the dark" are nothing else but a part of your self that you don't want to accept.

So it is obvious now that you are afraid of them not because they are truly something "scary", but simply because you aren't willing to recognize and accept these parts of yourself, so you "otherize" them completely and subconsciously perceive their constant search for your acceptance as horror.

This is also the root cause of your criticism and condemnation or loathing against any other people: you are actually loathing parts of your self that you don't accept at all, and because you are so completely unwilling to accept or acknowledge that they are in fact part of your self, you subconsciously "otherize" them completely. So in your world, these parts of your self appear as  others that are annoying or scary in your waking life, and as "ghosts" in your dreams. Each of us has been so unwilling to accept many parts of ourselves, and this behavior is completely repressed below the conscious mind, buried in the subconscious, that the collective consciousness of the whole world has co-created all kinds of "ghost" cultures, sayings, stories, fears and everything about ghosts, all over the world.

So what can you do?
One of the things I've learned and found to be very effective is to make a list of the parts of yourself that you do accept. You'd realize that most of these are things that you like about you and others (e.g., kindness, sincerity, politeness, respect for people, respect for rules, intelligence, etc.)  List them all.

Then, the most important step: list the opposites of all those parts. Whether you're willing to accept this or not right now, these opposites are the very parts of yourself that exist in you that you've been in total denial about and unwilling to recognize. They are the "ghosts" you fear in dark places or at night in your bedroom, and "other people" in your life or on the internet that you criticize, condemn and judge. You'll find that the points in your list are the exact very points you loathe in other people. You must remember: everything positive you see in yourself has a negative counterpart that exists equally in you. 

Finally, intend in your mind or say it out loud:
"I fully accept all parts of myself, whatever they may be: when I'm kind and when I am malicious; when I am intelligent and when I am clumsy and blind; when I am polite and when I am vulgar; when I have a unique taste and when I have a lousy taste; when I love some animals and when I dislike them; when I want to help others and when I want to priorize myself; when I obey public order and morals and  when I want to spit and litter and jump in line and fight others and murder; when I want to accept myself and when I can't accept myself; when I am profound and when I am superficial; when I am fit and when I am fat..." etc.

Acceptance of all that is possible and impossible in your entirety, which is, one hundred percent unconditional acceptance of yourself. This is the prerequisite for love, or actually - love itself. You have taken an extremely important step by simply being willing to do this. You have to do it. You have no choice. You desire to do it. You've been wanting to do it like crazy, otherwise you wouldn't be afraid of the dark, you wouldn't have nightmares, or you wouldn't keep encountering annoying people and things that you loathe, and you wouldn't feel lonely and feel life is a struggle or see a world in wars. Our selves are always seeking, moment by moment, to be fully seen, understood, fully accepted by us, or - to be loved unconditionally. World peace lies in finally realizing that as humans, everything we have been fighting, hating, criticizing, condemning and wishing to annihilate in others are actually parts of our own selves that we don't want to recognize. You must start with yourself. Unconditional love comes from you.

(You can use the solution based on the same logic for dealing with your nightmares mentioned above: after you wake up, talk to the "ghosts" in your nightmare, and ask what they are and what they are for. Then you need to answer these questions youself. Answer the questions by intuitively writing out the answers, or imagine that you are the ghosts, and answer the questions as them. Imagine that you are now the ghost, facing yourself who's waiting for the answers, what would you want to say? What urgent demands and deep desires you have? You can practice this method also when you are afraid of the dark and "stuff" in the dark, talk to this "stuff" , and imagine that you are this "stuff", and then speak as them. Finally, when you understand what they are and what they want, you have to intend with all your heart: "I accept these parts of myself completely, and I embrace them with open arms and compassion." When you are willing to do so, you have already taken an extremely important step).

It is very shallow and even cruel to see anyone, especially oneself, in a dualistic way (e.g. good and bad, kind and evil, intelligent and stupid, etc.): for example, if you think someone is "kind", when they have to do something that isn't "kind" for reasons that you will never be able to understand because you haven't lived their life, you will instantly loathe them. This is because you have such a shallow, dualistic view of your extremely complex self and the selves of others. How can one ever expect to explain or describe complex and multi-dimensioned selves from the view of 2D? Maybe right here right now you have a sudden urge to condemn others or yourself for shallowness, or maybe now you feel superior to some people? Don't forget that the root cause of any of your non-acceptance, condemnation, or criticizing of anything in other people all lies in your unconscious unwillingness to accept yourself as such, so you subconsciously otherize them, and it's something you do all the time. Maybe you just did it again now. Similarly, when you are afraid of criticisms, judgements and attacks from others, aren't they actually the critisms and judgements that you have been making against yourself all along? Especially when you see yourself in the above-mentioned dualistic view, you are rejecting some parts of yourself all the time: if you think you are "kind", you are rejecting the parts of yourself that you believe are not "kind"; if you think you are "generous", you are rejecting the parts of yourself that you consider to be "mean"; if you think you are "intelligent", you are rejecting the parts of yourself that you think are "stupid", and so on and so forth. All of these "rejections" of yourself are accordingly reflected in your aversion to other people in your life.

When you fully accept all that you are, you will no longer loathe any other person. When you understand yourself completely, you will understand everyone. When you love yourself unconditionally, you will love the world unconditionally. World peace doesn't rely on any organization, campaigns, or politicians. Fully and completely, it relies on you. 







#psychology #science #philosophy #worldpeace 
#spirituality #music #writing #infj #idealism #psychoanalysis #enfj #enfp #love

Any parts that you see in others that you criticize and loathe are parts that exist in yourself that you refuse to accept.

Zato što u svojoj budnoj svesti potpuno odbijaš da prihvatiš te delove sebe, oni postoje u tvojoj percepciji kao delovi koji postoje samo kod drugih. Zato mnogi ljudi imaju noćne more o duhovima koji ih posmatraju ili proganjaju: to su takođe delovi naših sebe koje ne želimo da prihvatimo, koji traže da budu viđeni, shvaćeni i prihvaćeni od nas, i zbog našeg potpunog odbijanja da ih prihvatimo, percipiramo njihovu prisutnost u našim snovima kao horor. Ovo je isti razlog zašto se mnogi ljudi boje mraka: uvek osećaju da postoji nešto u tami, što ih gleda: ti takozvani "duhovi u tami" nisu ništa drugo do deo tvog sebe koji ne želiš da prihvatiš.

Dakle, sada je očigledno da se bojiš njih ne zato što su zaista nešto "strašno", već jednostavno zato što nisi spreman da prepoznaš i prihvatiš te delove sebe, pa ih potpuno "drugačiš" i podsvestno percipiraš njihovu stalnu potragu za tvojim prihvatanjem kao horor.

Ovo je takođe koren tvoje kritike i osude ili prezira prema drugim ljudima: zapravo prezireš delove svog sebe koje uopšte ne prihvataš, i zato što si potpuno nesposoban da prihvatiš ili priznaš da su oni zapravo deo tvog sebe, podsvestno ih potpuno "drugačiš". Tako u tvom svetu, ti delovi tvog sebe se pojavljuju kao drugi koji su dosadni ili zastrašujući u tvom budnom životu, i kao "duhovi" u tvojim snovima. Svako od nas je bio toliko nesposoban da prihvati mnoge delove sebe, i ovo ponašanje je potpuno potisnuto ispod svesti, zakopano u podsvesti, da je kolektivna svest celog sveta stvorila sve vrste "duhovnih" kultura, izreka, priča, strahova i svega o duhovima, širom sveta.

Šta možeš da uradiš?
Jedna od stvari koje sam naučio i koja se pokazala veoma efikasnom je da napraviš spisak delova sebe koje prihvataš. Shvatićeš da su većina ovih stvari stvari koje voliš kod sebe i drugih (npr., ljubaznost, iskrenost, uljudnost, poštovanje prema ljudima, poštovanje pravila, inteligencija, itd.)  Nabroji ih sve.

Zatim, najvažniji korak: nabroji suprotnosti svih tih delova. Bilo da si spreman da to prihvatiš ili ne u ovom trenutku, te suprotnosti su upravo oni delovi sebe koji postoje u tebi, a koje si potpuno negirao i nisi spreman da prepoznaš. Oni su "duhovi" kojih se bojiš na mračnim mestima ili noću u svojoj spavaćoj sobi, i "drugi ljudi" u tvom životu ili na internetu koje kritikuješ, osuđuješ i sudiš. Otkrivaćeš da su ta mesta na tvom spisku tačno ona mesta koja prezireš kod drugih ljudi. Moraš zapamtiti: sve pozitivno što vidiš u sebi ima negativnu suprotnost koja postoji jednako u tebi.

Na kraju, nameravaj u svom umu ili reci naglas:
"Potpuno prihvatam sve delove sebe, ma kakvi oni bili: kada sam ljubazan i kada sam zlonameran; kada sam inteligentan i kada sam nespretan i slep; kada sam uljudan i kada sam vulgaran; kada imam jedinstven ukus i kada imam loš ukus; kada volim neke životinje i kada ih ne volim; kada želim da pomognem drugima i kada želim da prioritetizujem sebe; kada se pridržavam javnog reda i morala i kada želim da pljunem i bacim smeće i preskočim red i borim se s drugima i ubijem; kada želim da prihvatim sebe i kada ne mogu da prihvatim sebe; kada sam dubok i kada sam plitak; kada sam fit

Svaki deo koji vidiš kod drugih, a koji kritikuješ i prezireš, su delovi koji postoje u tebi, a koje odbijaš da prihvatiš.

#movies #films #art #intj #psychoanalysis #psychology #mbti

Fight Club and its moral lesson about the society we live in:

#filmovi #filmovi #umetnost #intj #psihonaliza #psihologija #mbti

Fight Club i njegova moralna lekcija o društvu u kojem živimo:

R.M Drake always says it so well

R.M Drake uvek to kaže tako dobro

I think all fields of psychology should be considered when analysing any concept from a psychological prospective, as they can all contribute with truthful information from different angles. I don’t understand where the desire to claim monopoly over psychology as a science by trying to exclude or discredit other fields comes from 🤔😳🥺

Why do some fields of psychology ignore psychoanalysis?

Mislim da bi sva polja psihologije trebalo uzeti u obzir prilikom analize bilo kog koncepta iz psihološke perspektive, jer sva mogu doprineti istinitim informacijama iz različitih uglova. Ne razumem odakle dolazi želja da se tvrdi monopol nad psihologijom kao naukom pokušavajući da isključi ili diskredituje druga polja 🤔😳🥺

Zašto neka polja psihologije ignorišu psihoanalizu?

Freudians 🍻 🥲🍃

Фројдисти 🍻 🥲🍃

How many of u ..like this !!!

Koliko vas ..voli ovo !!!

#psychology

#psihologija

It's an usual situation that men start thinking In working 25/8 :) for free...

Why do people think we are working on dates?

To je uobičajena situacija da muškarci počnu da misle da rade 25/8 :) besplatno...

Zašto ljudi misle da radimo na sastancima?

Donald Winnicott

Доналд Виникот

"Your anger is part of you that knows your mistreatment and abuse are unacceptable. Your anger knows you deserve to be treated well and with kindness. Your anger is a part of you that loves you, " and this hits different. I totally agree because our anger is a response to something that we don't want, and we know that we don't deserve it. It's toxic sometimes if we perceives but if we try to understand it, anger is self-love. You are disagreeing on something that you knew you don't deserve.

I never understood my anger until i saw this quote:

"Vaš bes je deo vas koji zna da je vaše loše postupanje i zlostavljanje neprihvatljivo. Vaš bes zna da zaslužujete da budete dobro tretirani i sa ljubaznošću. Vaš bes je deo vas koji vas voli," i ovo drugačije pogađa. Potpuno se slažem jer je naš bes odgovor na nešto što ne želimo, i znamo da to ne zaslužujemo. Ponekad je to toksično ako to percipiramo, ali ako pokušamo da to razumemo, bes je samoljublje. Ne slažete se sa nečim za šta znate da to ne zaslužujete.

Nikada nisam razumeo svoj bes dok nisam video ovu citat:

Its co-relation of mental processes and behaviour associated

Its studying the inside you to cultivate the best from within you

Many definitions come up when we describe something or some branch of science but exactly what.according to you matches best of the options below

What do you think is psychology?

Njegova korelacija mentalnih procesa i povezanog ponašanja

To je proučavanje unutrašnjeg sebe kako bi se iznutra iznelo najbolje

Mnoge definicije se pojavljuju kada opisujemo nešto ili neku granu nauke, ali šta tačno, prema vašem mišljenju, najbolje odgovara od ponuđenih opcija ispod

Šta mislite, šta je psihologija?

Anyone who says otherwise is coping (fake) and dont know what it actually is (fake)

Psychology is fake

Svako ko kaže drugačije se nosi (lažno) i ne zna šta zapravo jeste (lažno)

Psihologija je lažna

What color would you wear on a first date?

Koju boju biste nosili na prvom sastanku?

"You say you love rain, but you open your umbrella.

You say you love the sun, but you find a shadow spot.

You say you love wind, but close your windows.

This is why I am afraid when you say you love me."

"Kažeš da voliš kišu, ali otvaraš svoj kišobran.

Kažeš da voliš sunce, ali tražiš mesto u senci.

Kažeš da voliš vetar, ali zatvaraš prozore.

Zato se plašim kada kažeš da me voliš."

Tell me your last wacky dream.

Reci mi svoj poslednji ludi san.

Boo zajednica za upoznavanje drugih Psychoanalysis entuzijasta.

Psychoanalysis Zajednica

Ova knjiga

Misli o lakovernosti i manipulaciji

Esencijalna knjiga koja dolazi da izmiri deo duga koji imamo prema ženama u psihoanalizi

Otac nauke koji je otkrio skriveni deo psihe

Велики бразилски психоаналитичари: Кристијан Дункер

Ako ne možete promeniti situaciju, promenite svoj pogled na nju. Zapamtite, većina vašeg stresa dolazi iz načina na koji reagujete, a ne iz načina na koji život jeste.

Pošto je Frojd ukrao termin psihoanaliza..

Tigger je bio i ostao moj omiljeni

"Konstelacija": naučno-fantastična serija o gaslightingu i odnosima majke i ćerke

Žao mi je zbog količine pseudonauke koja se vrti oko psihologije u ovoj aplikaciji

Moja biblioteka

Sigmund Freud