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No one measures the beauty of a flower by its size. Similarly, a person's worth should not be measured by external achievements. Yes, it is nice to have achieved something! And yet - if the roots are lost, this joy can quickly end.

The beauty

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Perfect checklist: green flags

It's up to u on what u choose

Important

What's a 'darker' side of you you embraced and integrated to grow yourself?

Embracing the dark side

Its my birthday today and for some reason it feels so lonely , I havent met a man who was happy about his birthday ever although girls are always so excited and happy anyone know why that difference ?

Birthday

When I tried to kill my demons, I did not realize—
 I was murdering parts of my own soul. They were never "demons".
 They were "unattended emotions", howling at the door of my consciousness. 

"Misunderstood desires", pounding on the walls of my morality.

 "Stuck frustration", rotting in the cellar of my patience. 

"Pain", folded into the corners of my memory like cursed origami. 

I labeled them "evil". But they were just "me"— the parts that refused to kneel to the dictatorship of "should."

The Truth About Demons:

1. They are your disowned selves.
    - The child you abandoned.
    - The rebel you handcuffed.
    - The lover you exiled for being "too much."
2. They will not leave.
    - You can starve them, shame them, lock them in theological prisons.
    - They will only grow louder, angrier, more desperate.
3. They are here to heal you.
    - Your rage? A call to boundaries.
    - Your lust? A demand for creation.
    - Your sadness? A map to depth.

How to Love a Demon:

1. Stop exorcising. Start listening.
    - Sit with it. Ask: "What do you need?" (It will lie at first. Keep asking.)
2. Give it a job.
    - Turn your rage into art.
    - Turn your obsession into study.
    - Turn your fear into humor.
3. Let it rewrite the rules.
    - Your demons are older than your morals. They know things your ego has forgotten.

A Prayer for the Demon-Tamer:

"God, grant me the audacity to love what I’ve been taught to fear. Let me befriend my shadows, not because they are holy— but because they are mine. And what is owned, cannot own me."

Demons: To whom it may concern (which is everyone)

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Lonely human...

So i am an anxious attachment and the person i started a relationship with is definitley a strong Avoidant attachment person i havent been in a relationship for about 10 years where as she as of 6 months ago ended a 3 year relationship. I'm studying on how we can healthily make this work but my anxiety goes awol because she doesnt respond to messages and in person she is very hesitant with any answer even when i try to be direct we were great as friends and it seemed great but now we are in a relationship it seems shes withdrawn/disconnected do i keep trying to make this work and try to use the therapy advice and sharing that with her so she has an understanding like this is who we are and this is what we have to do to make this work and we can grow together or my thought because i havent been in a relationship in such a long time and the anxiety just becomes overwhelming to where i just want to run and not look back but i genuinely care for her and its not that im trying to "save" her i just dont want to be another person who makes her feel abandoned im confused im lost I fell in love with my friend and idk what to do but to continue learning i know if i push to far she will feel attacked and go into self preservation and end the relationship sonimnnot sure what else to do to help myself. Other than wait for her to feel invited again like when we were friends she didnt seem so avoidant but it has definitly come out since. Is a direct this is what i expect and need (communication attention and some affection) more frequently please. To much or is that pushing. Because hours in between texts and the feeling of the silent treatment in person just make my brain go crazy which ive started journaling and that is kinda helping but anyways this is alot. Any advice?

Advice

Dudes these days be like " I need a gamer girl but can't find any" I game also but fr I never cared about finding one to game with lol, I'm happy doing it all by my lonesome. Now a gym girl? That would be something I'd find interest in.

Like this gem right here 👀👇🏻

Priorities

Their hearts just came with extra sensitivity - Are you an overthinker?

This week in my psychology of play class, we defined our core beliefs. Given flash cards with different beliefs and values and were asked to refine 20 cards into 8. Then 8 into 5 then 5 into 3. Where my final 3 were:

Integrity - Staying true to one's self

Competence - Having the knowledge and skill sets to effectively carry out a task

And

Honesty - Being truthful and sincere.

We were asked how we could drive these beliefs into our major, our works, and our careers going forward. It really brought about some true levels of introspection. 


So I would ask you, what would your top 3 beliefs be? They don't have to be listed on the cards, but use the cards as a frame of reference about the broadness. Id really like to hear your thoughts and opinions and why they are such important values.

Core beliefs

Brain: you're worthless.
Me: oh yea? Show me the proof.
Brain: .........
Me: SHOW ME THE PROOF
Brain: source: just trust me, bro.

How Depression works

Let go

Does left brain and right brain theory matter?

psychtalks

Man i have my CUET today

Literally what my week felt like..I'm glad it's Friday🥴

T.G.I.F

It's all in your head.

Just FYI: If you're a woman in your 30s or 40s and your idea of having a "strong personality" is putting down people/other women and insulting them, you don't have a 'strong personality", you're just a loud narcissist.

Edit: trolls and comments that have nothing to do with this post will be blocked:)

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We all wear masks. 
Warning! 
Extremely sincere post!

How many masks people wear?

Does anyone else feel there's some part of what makes you human dying with every new conversation?

The algorithm

Anything you lose by being real was fake

I personally think it’s really underrated, of course the point of a relationship is being together and doing stuff together, but if you’re not able to function independently you’ll probably make a mess together too
Also it’s healthy to have time for yourself, how do you think about this?

Independence in a relationship

What is something that is destroying humanity?

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Who is a fictional villain you sympathize with?

Had such a big mental breakdown today. Would love to know how you personally deal with anxiety without the elements of spirituality. (I know it helps a lot of people and is such a great force to ease your anxiousness but unfortunately it didn't work out for me) :( 

I think personally for me music distracts me but doesn't help me fully. I try eating sweet too which sometimes ease things over but usually it's just me letting the really long attack pass. Talking to friends is a great way too. That's the only thing that seems to be working. 

Would love some tips on dealing with constant anxiety! 

#anxiety

Psychology Community

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The beauty

Who agrees? 🖤🖤🖤

Perfect checklist: green flags

It's up to u on what u choose

Important

URGENTLY!!

But why though?

Clear your mind!

Don't

If no one ever told you what was possible or impossible, what would you dare to do?

Yes please. 🤓