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Who wants to fit in?

I mean not being alive only. But Living in a way to promote your life.

How do you find the will to live?

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Nie popełniamy błędów, podejmujemy decyzje, które w danym momencie wydają się nam najbardziej korzystne, bezpieczne lub dostępne. Kierujemy się tym, co czujemy, że przyniesie nam ulgę, spełnienie, uniknięcie bólu lub zaspokojenie jakiejś ważnej potrzeby. Dopiero z perspektywy czasu, kiedy coś się nie udaje, relacja się rozpada, plan się nie ziszcza, a konsekwencje zaczynają boleć, patrzymy wstecz i mówimy: „to był błąd”.

Ale czy rzeczywiście?
To, co nazywamy „błędem”, często jest po prostu decyzją podejmowaną w warunkach ograniczonej świadomości, w emocjonalnym chaosie, pod wpływem impulsu, traumy, lęku lub głodu bliskości. To była najlepsza możliwa decyzja, jaką mogliśmy podjąć na tamtym etapie siebie.

Nazywanie tego „błędem” to często próba zminimalizowania ciężaru żalu i ulżenia sobie, dania sobie jakiegoś psychicznego wyjścia awaryjnego. To także sposób, by odzyskać poczucie kontroli: jeśli to tylko „błąd”, to następnym razem możemy go uniknąć. Jeśli jednak przyznamy, że był to nasz świadomy wybór, wtedy musimy skonfrontować się z tym, co nas do niego doprowadziło, a to już wymaga odwagi, autorefleksji i często, bólu.

Warto spojrzeć na swoje „błędy” jako na lustra. One pokazują nie to, kim jesteśmy dziś, ale kim byliśmy wtedy. Jakie mieliśmy potrzeby, czego nie wiedzieliśmy, w co wierzyliśmy, kogo szukaliśmy w oczach drugiego człowieka.

Rozwijanie świadomości nie polega na eliminowaniu błędów, ale na coraz głębszym rozumieniu swoich decyzji.

Bo może to nie był błąd.
Może to była lekcja.
Może to było konieczne.
Może to był jedyny sposób, by dowiedzieć się, kim naprawdę jesteś.

Sylvie

To nie był błąd…

What do you think is life? What kind of life do you want to live?

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Any psychologist? Really need one right now

Don't think twice before cutting parasatic ppl out of ur life .

Toxicity

Food for thought 🧠💭

It’s important not to ignore even a single red flag because red flags are often early warning signs of deeper issues — whether in relationships, friendships, work environments, or even within yourself. When you choose to overlook them, you might be avoiding discomfort in the moment, but you’re setting yourself up for pain later on.

Here’s why it matters:

1. Red flags usually grow over time.

That “small” thing that made you uneasy — like a controlling comment, dishonesty, lack of accountability, or emotional unavailability — can become a major issue later. Early patterns often repeat and worsen if not addressed.

2. Your intuition is speaking.

When something feels off, your body and mind are trying to protect you. Ignoring that gut feeling trains you to second-guess yourself, which weakens self-trust and makes it easier to stay in unhealthy situations longer than you should.

3. You teach others how to treat you.

When you tolerate red flags, you’re unintentionally showing that certain behaviors are acceptable — even if they’re not. Setting boundaries early protects your emotional well-being.

4. Healing means honoring your standards.

Especially when you’ve been through trauma or heartbreak, recognizing red flags is a sign of growth. Listening to those signs is a way of protecting the healed version of you — the one that knows they deserve better.

5. It saves you time, energy, and heartbreak.

The earlier you walk away from something not aligned with your values or safety, the easier it is to move forward without deep scars. Time spent hoping someone will change can be time used to find someone who doesn’t need to be fixed.

In short: Red flags are not puzzles to solve — they’re warnings to walk away. Trust them. You’re not being “too sensitive”; you’re being wise.

Do not ignore a single hint of a red flag, or it will cost you later

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Sometimes we program our minds with our own words. How? Very simple!

Here's a comparison of two phrases: "I am oppressed" and "I feel oppressed." Is there a difference? At first glance, it seems like there isn't. However, these sentences have different meanings. When someone says, "I feel oppressed," he's referring to some kind of feeling. And any feeling can be changed, that is, it is possible to stop feeling oppressed.

The phrase "I am oppressed" indicates that the person has put circumstances before her/himself and is unable to change anything. Use the power of words to your advantage and always be aware of the wording you use.

Remember: you control your emotions and not vice versa.

Wording matters

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Idk but Meow

How to be unproblematic

Scared of doing the same mistakes, want to avoid the toxicity through signals but it is becoming hard to identify, what's your opinion...

Scared

Pay attention because that's them showing you who they really are so later on when you're hurt by them, they can claim to be the victim while proclaiming that they showed you who they are all along and that you knew them. This is a manipulation method often used by people with borderline personality disorder. They conceal their true nature and personality with humor while simultaneously exposing it (usually because it's the part of them that allows intrusive thoughts to heavily influence their decision making and behavior).

When people jokingly present something controversial about themselves

Encouragement 💙

Are there any fan fiction characters that you take as inspiration, motivation etc. What traits do you take from them and why?

BIG BIG CAPE

They call me crazy bc they can't call me ugly

I need to know how am i supposed to catch a bf??????

Everybody is seeking deep connection while keeping their heart locked 🔒 that's when healing is needed

To be that you want to be, you must to know who you really are

Rule

I feel like im watching myself everything is fake

I dont feel real

My mood for the week honestly:

Would you rather be with someone who always has your back, no questions asked—or someone who pushes you to think differently, even if it means calling you out sometimes? Why?

It cost zero $$ to be KIND

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I cant comprehend

When books arts history and fashion is your soul calling 💖✨
Can you guess what book am holding????

Mostly, those people who act nonchalant are the most caring and loving person in the inside 💖 ✨

The nonchalant

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What get you pissed off real quick?

What mental illnesses do you have?

What are you doing to work on your toxic traits?

I'm just so exhausted
and the truth is 
I exhaust others. ❤️‍🩹

I've just been thinking about it quite a bit. What are you willing to give up for love? Especially when it's never certain. But for the chance, for a probably, what would you give? $100? A limb? All the comforts you know

Psychology Community

Who wants to fit in?

How do you find the will to live?

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To nie był błąd…

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