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Codependency

codependency

I lack a social life almost completely. There are many reasons for this. Major depression. PTSD. Self-hate. So my question is, how much clingy is cute and how much is too much? I crave touch. My love language is touch and quality time. I find touch in general, especially hugs and cuddling to be emotionally healing. However, I am as they say "touch starved".  

And it makes me wonder how many people are the same. How many people live their day-to-day lives touch starved?  People walking to and from work and to and from the places they need to be lonely as hell and desperate for someone to say that they love them. And I look at everyone around me. And my skin hurts because it has over time nearly forgotten what it feels like to be touched. Until eventually. I just live in permanent pain. Psychiatric counseling can only help so much. It does not change the need. Food, air, water. All these things are required for life. But if you put a baby in the pram and never touch the baby except to feed it and change it and so on, the baby will die. How are we adults any different?

We live our lives isolated from each other. I think the internet was one contributing factor.  We are now more separate from each other than ever before in all of human history. My biggest fear? Dying alone. I don't want to die alone.

Is it normal or clingy? How much is too much?

Skoro potpuno mi nedostaje društveni život. Ima mnogo razloga za to. Teška depresija. PTSD. Mržnja prema sebi. Tako da je moje pitanje, koliko je vezanost slatka i koliko je previše? Žudim za dodirom. Moj jezik ljubavi je dodir i kvalitetno vreme. Smatram da je dodir generalno, posebno zagrljaji i maženje, emocionalno isceljujući. Međutim, kao što kažu, "gladan sam dodira".

I to me navodi na razmišljanje o tome koliko ljudi je isto. Koliko ljudi živi svoje svakodnevne živote gladni dodira? Ljudi koji idu na posao i sa posla i do mesta gde treba da budu, usamljeni kao pakao i očajni da im neko kaže da ih voli. I gledam sve oko sebe. I moja koža boli jer je tokom vremena skoro zaboravila kako je to biti dodirnut. Dok na kraju. Samo živim u stalnoj boli. Psihijatrijsko savetovanje može pomoći samo do određene mere. To ne menja potrebu. Hrana, vazduh, voda. Sve te stvari su potrebne za život. Ali ako stavite bebu u kolica i nikada je ne dodirnete osim da je nahranite i presvučete i tako dalje, beba će umreti. Kako smo mi odrasli bilo kakva drugačiji?

Živimo svoje živote izolovani jedni od drugih. Mislim da je internet bio jedan od faktora. Sada smo odvojeni jedni od drugih više nego ikada u celoj ljudskoj istoriji. Moj najveći strah? Umreti sam. Ne želim da umrem sam.

Da li je normalno ili previše vezano? Koliko je previše?

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Da li je normalno ili previše vezano? Koliko je previše?

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