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Hey everyone! I’m an ENTJ all through and through - from my extroverted nature, to my deep-thinking tendencies, my very logical approach to life and my pedantic organisation habits - however, there’s one part of my MBTI ‘stereotype’, if you will, that I don’t fit. I often see ENTJs described as cold or harsh, and hard to get to know. To some extent this is true for me, but it does depend on the person (that’s life, nothing is completely binary). Despite this, I consider myself a kind and caring person. I’ll always show kindness to people where there is none. I’ve been told that I’m warm and approachable. I never want anybody to feel alone, and this usually results in me taking people (sometimes unwantedly) under my wing, because loneliness is a horrible feeling that I don’t want others to experience (perhaps from personal experience). I’ll try make sure everybody is included. I want those I love to be happy, and thus, I take on the responsibility to do so, and I’ll sacrifice my own happiness to help them find theirs. I’ve been thinking about this recently. Obviously these traits are synonymous with those of a feeler; yet I do believe I am the most ENTJ that ENTJs can get. I am not involved with myself nor others on a deeply emotional plane (except for family members etc.), I hate clingy people and their emotions, I feel uncomfortable when people cry, and above all else, I always follow my head instead of my heart (except for extreme cases… logical choice making can waver with my consent and discretion I suppose). As I said before, I know nothing in life is binary or static, but still, I’m predominantly a Thinker. Side note: I am a very creative person. I love painting, writing fiction and songwriting. I often fret to admit this to myself. Sometimes my creativity clashes with my ideas academic intellect because I’ll invalidate the value of my creative talents or dismiss them as inferior to that of typical academic ‘superiority’. I find myself in internal conflict in terms of my life path; I worry that I have to choose between creativity and my ‘book smarts’ going forward in life. Do I value personal expression or unlocking my academic power more? Somehow I wish to conquer both realms of my talent; there is no side of the ‘artistic’ or the ‘logical’ polarities I perform better in. I guess I sometimes see in black and white. I wonder if other ENTJs are similar. I’m not complaining or saying I’m NoT LiKe OtHeR ENTJs nor am I suggesting I’m some radical anomaly. I just thought I’d post this and see if any other ENTJs out there have similar experiences. I’d love to know or discuss this concept further with some of you. Honestly, I’ve never actually spoken to another ENTJ. Come chat!