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My hommies would agree with me on this. As someone who is raised in a typical asian household, most of us are raised by strict parents. Little did they know, they raised great liars, and pretenders. Clearly, it is something that we shouldn't be proud of but there is no alternative. Growing up we have to lie just to stay a bit late outside. For us to experience a bit of "life" we have to muster all our courage to act and create excuses. Nevertheless, we couldn't blame them as parents. Their intentions are pure as they want to protect us from the sad truth about our society. As to their method, that is what they think is the best way. Don't get me wrong. Growing up with strict parents is hard and sometimes I feel left out for the things that I don't get to experience. still i am grateful to my parents. As an adult, can we really use our upbringing as an excuse for our actions? But to what extent are we going to use our upbringing as an excuse for our behavior? As I see it, as an adult somehow we get to make our own decisions in life. So it is either we continue being a douche or we break the norm and start the change with ourselves. I just don't get it how others still blame their parents for their behaviors and misfortunes. There is this meme, "If you are having trouble with the path you chose to take, why did you chose to walk that path?" It may be full of sarcasm but it at some point it does make sense. We are capable of choosing our paths. For some it's predetermined and for some, we need to pave our own path. So whatever circumstances we are in, it's the result of our choices. We are accountable for our own actions.