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Borderline Personality Disorder Vs. Compulsory Heterosexuality

I wrote a paper over the summer when I was in undergrad about women/people who identify as lesbian with BPD who suffer with identity disturbance are more likely to fall into comphet and be someone they’re not due to a lack knowledge and confidence in oneself and their identity. It shows how... read more

Self-love is an oxymoron

Love is inherently an action (not necessarily a feeling) from one person to another. It is never directed at oneself because then it would no longer be love

WORD OF THE DAY

Pencillate (verb): To express oneself in provisional strokes, to speak as though one’s words may later be rubbed vigorously into oblivion. In other words, speaking with a metaphorical pencil. Pronunciation: [pin-si-late] Etymology: I made it up 5 minutes ago. Here are some red flags that... read more

Trauma as we know it

Trauma has a strange way of splitting us in two. One part learns to survive by building armor—becoming hyper-alert, guarded, quick to react. The other part quietly holds onto hope, empathy, and the desire to connect. This duality isn’t a flaw; it’s evidence of adaptation. The same experiences that... read more

The Way of a Samurai

In the village of I Chin a child was born who would be predestined by the gods to be the successor of Okinaua. His mother named him Chiyang. From a young age, his father ordered his subjects to find a master, and Chiyang stopped playing with children his age to receive arduous training with the aim... read more

Soul smile

You know how you feel when someone is genuinely smiling at you. This is way more different than when someone is smiling for others reasons (like conventional behaviors, or shy smile, and so ...). This is much more than a simple smile, and you can also feel it : genuine kindness and selfless... read more