Observing Community

Why are men taught how to treat women… but women rarely get taught how to treat men? 🤔

In modern relationship talk, there’s a very common pattern: 👨 Men get a whole “how to be a good partner” curriculum: ✅ respect her ✅ communicate better ✅ emotional intelligence ✅ consent ✅ plan dates / be thoughtful / “do better” But 👩 women rarely get an equivalent “how to treat a man well”... read more

Reflection V Rumination

Being one of lifes ruminators can be exhausting. A lot of times I hear introspection being spoken about like it’s some sort of an upgrade but there's a cost to that when your brain lacks an off switch. Over time my own mind developed a 2nd layer that watches the first layer then the two start... read more

Musings about online dating (long-form discussion)

I find the dating scene riddled with lonely men failing to respect boundaries. I find women disgusted by their first impression of most men. And, unfortunately, I find that most of the interactions are influenced by past negative experiences that have fed into a negative feedback loop. Here are... read more

Just observing

Guys does it ever wear you out how you're going to have to hold back Alot of your honesty to increase your success rate with a woman and then slowly show your real selves once you succeed with them once

(And Yes I know the guys here who are actually trying to use this app to date are unlikely to participate in this question because again making yourselves look a certain way is crucial to increasing your success. But surely there are bold men who have the desire to date but are still willing to be... read more

I’ve been observing how people connect — or pretend to.

It’s interesting how quick some can be to disappear after a spark, a word, a moment. I used to take it personally, but now I see it for what it is — timing, intention, and sometimes just human nature. People reveal themselves in the smallest ways — through silence, delay, or the absence of effort.... read more