Being one of lifes ruminators can be exhausting. A lot of times I hear introspection being spoken about like it’s some sort of an upgrade but there's a cost to that when your brain lacks an off switch. Over time my own mind developed a 2nd layer that watches the first layer then the two start... read more

ENTP

Leo

Musings about online dating (long-form discussion)

I find the dating scene riddled with lonely men failing to respect boundaries. I find women disgusted by their first impression of most men. And, unfortunately, I find that most of the interactions are influenced by past negative experiences that have fed into a negative feedback loop. Here are... read more

ENFJ

Pisces

Just observing

28d

INFP

Leo

Correctly Observing the Perseverance of the Saints

This might be a controversial take for some, but, yes, I do believe in OSAS (Once Saved, Always Saved). More accurately, I believe in what's known as The Perseverance of the Saints. The stipulation being (and what I've always thought was just something that was obvious) was Jesus's if/then... read more

3mo

INTJ

Leo

Guys does it ever wear you out how you're going to have to hold back Alot of your honesty to increase your success rate with a woman and then slowly show your real selves once you succeed with them once

(And Yes I know the guys here who are actually trying to use this app to date are unlikely to participate in this question because again making yourselves look a certain way is crucial to increasing your success. But surely there are bold men who have the desire to date but are still willing to be... read more