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Looking for some insight -  just a quick poll I felt like doing after way too many “hi how r u” messages on dating apps 😅
Maybe I’m being too picky, but I keep seeing the same thing: shallow convos, lazy shortcuts… And I think the real issue is the lack of genuine interest - which, of course, happens.
So tell me - what kind of woman, profile, or vibe actually makes you go “wow” and want to say something real, with character to truly catch her attention?

What grabs you enough to make you stand out?

Hello everyone!

That's it I'm done. I'm done dealing with someone who is never consistent with their words and constantly gaslights me, insults me, calls me horrible things, disrespects me.

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🤭Well now I completely understand the architecture behind this kind of thought..
Relatable??
Or??

Love is?

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Know 👏 your 👏 worth 👏

I get alot of views but no one adds me...
Starting to think im ugly or not that interesting because of what I have on my profile lol

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I’ve been trying dating apps and I never get a swiped no matter how many times I tried the most I get is a decent conversation then ghosted. Any advice would help and before you say anything I’ve tried going outside and meeting people.

Am I doing something wrong

Worth checking.

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💔 「誠実な回避」と「無責任な享楽」が同時に進行している矛盾

両極端の同時進行：

タイプ	
特徴	
主な行動

💡 誠実型非恋愛者	
恋愛＝責任を持てないと自覚して距離を取る	
自分の未熟さを認めて回避する

🧪 享楽型恋愛消費者	
恋愛＝遊び・支配・承認欲求の手段	
セフレ・二股・マッチングアプリ乱用・不倫維持

この二極化が同時に起こる理由：
	1.	自由恋愛社会の副作用：「自由に恋愛していい」＝責任も自由になったと誤解されがち。
	2.	承認欲求の肥大化：自己肯定感の欠如を性的優越や支配関係で埋める人も。
	3.	SNS文化の恋愛ゲーム化：マッチングアプリ・DM文化で“人が通知”になっている。
	4.	リアルな信頼形成が困難に：時間をかけた信頼より、短期的な快楽に走る人が増える。

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🔥 浮気・二股・セフレ関係がなぜ維持されてしまうのか？

理由	
解説

🧠 コストが低い	
マッチングアプリ、LINE、SNSで気軽に関係が築ける

❤️ 恋愛を“損得”で見る傾向	
「1人で満たされないから複数と関係」

💬 倫理の希薄化	
「別に法律じゃない」「みんなやってる」的価値観

😔 信頼より支配に快感を持つ	
相手の感情を操作・弄ぶこと自体が自己肯定に

🧩 相手の代替性の過剰認識	
「1人失っても代わりがいる」認識が蔓延


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🧠 深層心理と構造的要因：なぜ人を弄ぶのか？

1. “繋がっていたいけど傷つきたくない”
	•	本当は孤独だが、深い関係を築くのが怖い。
	•	だから「軽さ」を装って深く入らない恋愛を繰り返す。

2. 自己価値の誤認識
	•	「誰かに求められている自分」に依存している。
	•	セフレ関係や複数関係＝自分が魅力的である証明として利用。

3. 感情教育の不在
	•	「相手の感情への共感力」「NOを受け入れる力」などが育っていない。
	•	恋愛＝相手を支配するものという誤った学習が繰り返されている。

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💡 解決に向けた視点

✅ 1. 感情リテラシーの教育
	•	「恋愛は消費ではなく共創」という教育の設計
	•	セックスの同意、境界線、誠実さを教える場が不足している

✅ 2. 倫理と責任の再定義
	•	“自由”には“責任”が伴うという原則を社会文化に戻す必要がある
	•	特にデジタル社会では「関係の軽視」が起こりやすい

✅ 3. 快楽主義の脱構築
	•	恋愛＝楽しいだけではないことを、ZINE／物語／映像作品などで伝える
	•	快感よりも信頼・不安・揺れの中で成長する関係の尊さをリフレーミング

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✍️ 結論

🎯 誠実な人も、無責任な人も増えている。
💬 どちらも“愛をどう扱うか”という問題の表裏にすぎない。
🔧 問題は個人ではなく、**社会が“関係性をどう教えてこなかったか”**にある。

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若者の中に「誠実に責任を見つめて恋愛しない」層が増える一方で、無責任で関係を弄ぶ人間も同時に存在・増加しているという矛盾

If you state your demands, also state your offerings.

In Fairness ~

I used to be a hopeless romantic. But now I just find excuses to get out of relationships. And nothing hurts anymore when things doesn't go as I'd like. How do I feel that rush of love again like I used to before? Anyone going through the same stage?

Why doesn't love come naturally to me anymore?

In the bustling IT corridor of Hyderabad, Raghav was a software architect at a growing fintech startup, known among colleagues for his quiet dedication and thoughtful nature. Anjali, a compassionate social worker, spent her days working with NGOs helping underprivileged women gain education and employment. They met during a community volunteering event organized by Raghav’s company, where Anjali was leading a workshop on women’s rights. Despite their very different worlds — the corporate buzz of tech and the gritty reality of social work — they found common ground in their shared desire to make a meaningful difference.

Their connection grew over coffee breaks and weekend visits to community centers, but love quickly became complicated. Raghav’s demanding job meant long hours and frequent travel, leaving Anjali feeling alone during tough times with her work’s emotional toll. On the other hand, Anjali’s family was wary of Raghav’s corporate lifestyle, fearing he wouldn’t understand her challenges or commit fully to their relationship. Tensions rose when Raghav was offered a promotion that required relocation to Bangalore — a prospect that threatened to pull them apart. They struggled with misunderstandings, unspoken fears, and the weight of their different expectations.

The turning point came when a flood struck parts of Hyderabad, devastating the communities Anjali worked with. Raghav, witnessing the hardship firsthand while on a business trip nearby, set aside work to join relief efforts. Seeing him in action, not just as a techie but as a caring partner, melted the doubts Anjali held. Together, they organized a fundraiser using Raghav’s professional network, combining his resources with her grassroots connections. This collaboration deepened their bond, teaching them how to balance career ambitions with personal values and love.

Their story became a quiet but powerful testament to modern relationships—where love isn’t about grand gestures but about showing up, adapting, and supporting each other through life’s messiness. Raghav and Anjali proved that two people from different walks of life can build a strong partnership rooted in respect, empathy, and shared purpose. Their journey reminds us all that love, when nurtured with patience and understanding, can thrive even amid the pressures of a fast-changing world.

Crossing Paths, Changing Lives

Never beg for love

Hello there! I'm new on this social network looking for more friends. Whoever wants to say hi, feel free to leave comments.

Hello!

"मौत"

एक मुर्दे ने क्या खूब कहा है,
ये जो मेरी मौत पर रो रहे हैं,
अभी उठ जाऊ तो जीने नही देगें,

Ever meet someone who you find attractive but has a horrible personality? Don't let that make try to see good that isn't there.

This cannot be overstated.

I have always had a lot of guy friends. Having 4 brothers (in pictures, exceptone cousin brother in pic 2), it just is natural I guess... eventually I realised I get along with women too!!!
The world was whole 😆🤣
I got blessed with cousin sisters (they took a few years to join but they came round 😅)..

So I am blessed in terms of family and friends but some things you still can't tell everyone 😏🫣

First pic is my only older brother and I. (I'm Dory, it was his now wife's hen do).
Second pic has my 3 younger brothers and 3 cousins (1 guy and 2 ladies).
Third pic a further 2 cousins.
Fourth picture is the brothers, parents and first sis in law.
Fifth picture are my friends like sisters.. im their mother's adopted daughter (apparently), love them to bits.

When you need to talk to someone about something specific but only need the advice of your guy mates..bur they don't know each other 👀🤣😔

“We can do no great things; only small things with great love.”

I'm a lesbian 😌😂

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Always be loyal

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Are you following your heart or mind?

This is important, especially on dating apps 👺

Growing and Glowing Together

I want something real.a serious relationship that leads me closer to God

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to be Valued vs to be Desired

Is it boredom, convenience, selfishness? What? 🤔🥴😒

Guys help me understand please?!?

Reading is important 🙏

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I get many messages here as an invitation to connect. And I must tell you some are just like a follow up message after an interview 🥹 Bro, we need to chill! This is not an office and we are not going to add you just because you sound nice 🫠🫠 

What catches my eye is something genuine and funny 😃 Something that shows you paid attention to my profile. If it's a copy-paste pickup message or right-away flirty, girls have every right to skip 🙂 Because we get that alot. Think unique, be friendly! Thats all I ask 🤜🤛

P.S. Made in public interest as my guys keep telling me they don't get follows in any app. 😌👍

Edit 1: I get it.. it must be hard to come out of red pill podcasts and think what women really want. But if you are going to believe that only money and beauty gets you partners..then they are definitely going to leave you one day. I know as a women what we want-its just time and attention. If that is not bare minimum, I don't know what is. So cleanse your memory of all those 'how to get a girl' videos 😂😅

Why .. just why?!

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Hello everyone!

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🤭Well now I completely understand the architecture behind this kind of thought.. Relatable?? Or??

Love is?

💌

💛

Selfies are rampant

evil laughter sounds 🤭😈

Lol

Be picky

Let go

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Hello everyone!

😢

🤭Well now I completely understand the architecture behind this kind of thought.. Relatable?? Or??

Love is?

💌

💛

Selfies are rampant

*evil laughter sounds* 🤭😈

Lol

Be picky

Let go

🎯💯❤️‍🔥

evil laughter sounds 🤭😈