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Looking for some insight -  just a quick poll I felt like doing after way too many “hi how r u” messages on dating apps 😅
Maybe I’m being too picky, but I keep seeing the same thing: shallow convos, lazy shortcuts… And I think the real issue is the lack of genuine interest - which, of course, happens.
So tell me - what kind of woman, profile, or vibe actually makes you go “wow” and want to say something real, with character to truly catch her attention?

What grabs you enough to make you stand out?

Hello everyone!

I'm a lesbian 😌😂

That's it I'm done. I'm done dealing with someone who is never consistent with their words and constantly gaslights me, insults me, calls me horrible things, disrespects me.

😢

Do you believe feminism and women empowerment is one the reasons relationships are harder nowadays? 

Feminism has made women to be scared to submit to a man and let a man lead in the relationship. It has made women more masculine and has stripped away their softness and nurturing nature.

🥰

"I'm here. I'm not going anywhere."
"I'm patient."


...said by guys who definitely will leave you.

👇👇👇👇👇

Love is?

I'd like some outside perspective about my profile and whether I've shared enough to give an idea of who I am.

Roast me if you want, I can take it!

Judge my profile and message me about it!

What I'm supposed to do at 2 am

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I have always had a lot of guy friends. Having 4 brothers (in pictures, exceptone cousin brother in pic 2), it just is natural I guess... eventually I realised I get along with women too!!!
The world was whole 😆🤣
I got blessed with cousin sisters (they took a few years to join but they came round 😅)..

So I am blessed in terms of family and friends but some things you still can't tell everyone 😏🫣

First pic is my only older brother and I. (I'm Dory, it was his now wife's hen do).
Second pic has my 3 younger brothers and 3 cousins (1 guy and 2 ladies).
Third pic a further 2 cousins.
Fourth picture is the brothers, parents and first sis in law.
Fifth picture are my friends like sisters.. im their mother's adopted daughter (apparently), love them to bits.

When you need to talk to someone about something specific but only need the advice of your guy mates..bur they don't know each other 👀🤣😔

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Karma will never leave you if do wrong to others 💔

Sometimes love looks like showing up—even when you're not sure you're wanted there. Not to fix anything. Not to force a moment. Just to be present for a few quiet minutes. For some of us, that’s how we say, 'I care.' It may not always come out right, but it always comes from a place of love.

Showing up

☑️

If you state your demands, also state your offerings.

In Fairness ~

Never beg for love

Forever is a lie. Universal for some, myth for some but destiny for everyone

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In the bustling IT corridor of Hyderabad, Raghav was a software architect at a growing fintech startup, known among colleagues for his quiet dedication and thoughtful nature. Anjali, a compassionate social worker, spent her days working with NGOs helping underprivileged women gain education and employment. They met during a community volunteering event organized by Raghav’s company, where Anjali was leading a workshop on women’s rights. Despite their very different worlds — the corporate buzz of tech and the gritty reality of social work — they found common ground in their shared desire to make a meaningful difference.

Their connection grew over coffee breaks and weekend visits to community centers, but love quickly became complicated. Raghav’s demanding job meant long hours and frequent travel, leaving Anjali feeling alone during tough times with her work’s emotional toll. On the other hand, Anjali’s family was wary of Raghav’s corporate lifestyle, fearing he wouldn’t understand her challenges or commit fully to their relationship. Tensions rose when Raghav was offered a promotion that required relocation to Bangalore — a prospect that threatened to pull them apart. They struggled with misunderstandings, unspoken fears, and the weight of their different expectations.

The turning point came when a flood struck parts of Hyderabad, devastating the communities Anjali worked with. Raghav, witnessing the hardship firsthand while on a business trip nearby, set aside work to join relief efforts. Seeing him in action, not just as a techie but as a caring partner, melted the doubts Anjali held. Together, they organized a fundraiser using Raghav’s professional network, combining his resources with her grassroots connections. This collaboration deepened their bond, teaching them how to balance career ambitions with personal values and love.

Their story became a quiet but powerful testament to modern relationships—where love isn’t about grand gestures but about showing up, adapting, and supporting each other through life’s messiness. Raghav and Anjali proved that two people from different walks of life can build a strong partnership rooted in respect, empathy, and shared purpose. Their journey reminds us all that love, when nurtured with patience and understanding, can thrive even amid the pressures of a fast-changing world.

Crossing Paths, Changing Lives

Hello there! I'm new on this social network looking for more friends. Whoever wants to say hi, feel free to leave comments.

Hello!

"मौत"

एक मुर्दे ने क्या खूब कहा है,
ये जो मेरी मौत पर रो रहे हैं,
अभी उठ जाऊ तो जीने नही देगें,

Ever meet someone who you find attractive but has a horrible personality? Don't let that make try to see good that isn't there.

This cannot be overstated.

Got it ...

Always be loyal

Worth checking.

🤭Well now I completely understand the architecture behind this kind of thought..
Relatable??
Or??

I get alot of views but no one adds me...
Starting to think im ugly or not that interesting because of what I have on my profile lol

No Adds

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💔 「誠実な回避」と「無責任な享楽」が同時に進行している矛盾

両極端の同時進行：

タイプ	
特徴	
主な行動

💡 誠実型非恋愛者	
恋愛＝責任を持てないと自覚して距離を取る	
自分の未熟さを認めて回避する

🧪 享楽型恋愛消費者	
恋愛＝遊び・支配・承認欲求の手段	
セフレ・二股・マッチングアプリ乱用・不倫維持

この二極化が同時に起こる理由：
	1.	自由恋愛社会の副作用：「自由に恋愛していい」＝責任も自由になったと誤解されがち。
	2.	承認欲求の肥大化：自己肯定感の欠如を性的優越や支配関係で埋める人も。
	3.	SNS文化の恋愛ゲーム化：マッチングアプリ・DM文化で“人が通知”になっている。
	4.	リアルな信頼形成が困難に：時間をかけた信頼より、短期的な快楽に走る人が増える。

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🔥 浮気・二股・セフレ関係がなぜ維持されてしまうのか？

理由	
解説

🧠 コストが低い	
マッチングアプリ、LINE、SNSで気軽に関係が築ける

❤️ 恋愛を“損得”で見る傾向	
「1人で満たされないから複数と関係」

💬 倫理の希薄化	
「別に法律じゃない」「みんなやってる」的価値観

😔 信頼より支配に快感を持つ	
相手の感情を操作・弄ぶこと自体が自己肯定に

🧩 相手の代替性の過剰認識	
「1人失っても代わりがいる」認識が蔓延


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🧠 深層心理と構造的要因：なぜ人を弄ぶのか？

1. “繋がっていたいけど傷つきたくない”
	•	本当は孤独だが、深い関係を築くのが怖い。
	•	だから「軽さ」を装って深く入らない恋愛を繰り返す。

2. 自己価値の誤認識
	•	「誰かに求められている自分」に依存している。
	•	セフレ関係や複数関係＝自分が魅力的である証明として利用。

3. 感情教育の不在
	•	「相手の感情への共感力」「NOを受け入れる力」などが育っていない。
	•	恋愛＝相手を支配するものという誤った学習が繰り返されている。

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💡 解決に向けた視点

✅ 1. 感情リテラシーの教育
	•	「恋愛は消費ではなく共創」という教育の設計
	•	セックスの同意、境界線、誠実さを教える場が不足している

✅ 2. 倫理と責任の再定義
	•	“自由”には“責任”が伴うという原則を社会文化に戻す必要がある
	•	特にデジタル社会では「関係の軽視」が起こりやすい

✅ 3. 快楽主義の脱構築
	•	恋愛＝楽しいだけではないことを、ZINE／物語／映像作品などで伝える
	•	快感よりも信頼・不安・揺れの中で成長する関係の尊さをリフレーミング

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✍️ 結論

🎯 誠実な人も、無責任な人も増えている。
💬 どちらも“愛をどう扱うか”という問題の表裏にすぎない。
🔧 問題は個人ではなく、**社会が“関係性をどう教えてこなかったか”**にある。

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若者の中に「誠実に責任を見つめて恋愛しない」層が増える一方で、無責任で関係を弄ぶ人間も同時に存在・増加しているという矛盾

“We can do no great things; only small things with great love.”

I’ve been trying dating apps and I never get a swiped no matter how many times I tried the most I get is a decent conversation then ghosted. Any advice would help and before you say anything I’ve tried going outside and meeting people.

Relationshipadvice Community

Hello everyone!

I'm a lesbian 😌😂

😢

Do you believe feminism and women empowerment is one the reasons relationships are harder nowadays? Feminism has made women to be scared to submit to a man and let a man lead in the relationship. It has made women more masculine and has stripped away their softness and nurturing nature.

🥰

"I'm here. I'm not going anywhere." "I'm patient." ...said by guys who definitely will leave you.

Selfies are rampant

evil laughter sounds 🤭😈

Lol

Be picky

Let go

🎯💯❤️‍🔥

Relationshipadvice Community

Hello everyone!

I'm a lesbian 😌😂

😢

Do you believe feminism and women empowerment is one the reasons relationships are harder nowadays? Feminism has made women to be scared to submit to a man and let a man lead in the relationship. It has made women more masculine and has stripped away their softness and nurturing nature.

🥰

"I'm here. I'm not going anywhere." "I'm patient." ...said by guys who definitely will leave you.

Selfies are rampant

*evil laughter sounds* 🤭😈

Lol

Be picky

Let go

🎯💯❤️‍🔥

evil laughter sounds 🤭😈