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I like this.

Ech mag dat.

What if we wiewed relationships as friendships

Whaat if

Wat wann mir Relatiounen als Frëndschaften ugesi hätten

Wat wann

wrapped up work, got a weekend off work so I’ll try to be around more here. my gf’s all excired about the new folks they’re meeting so I’m tryna just make a friend here whi may or may not be a platonic flirty friend idk who knows

hmu if you like final fantasy :,)))

new out here

hunn d'Aarbecht ofgeschloss, hunn e Weekend fräi, also probéieren ech méi hei ronderëm ze sinn. Meng Frëndin ass ganz opgereegt iwwer d'nei Leit déi si treffen, also probéieren ech just e Frënd hei ze maachen, deen vläicht oder vläicht net e platonesch flirty Frënd ass, ech weess net, wien weess

hmu wanns de Final Fantasy gär hues :,)))

neit hei

I know that I always saw love a bit differently, and until someone really explained it I was of the understanding that it just didn't work socially. But as I've sorta existed in this state and had more time to think about it- I came to learn that's just plain wrong (obviously, otherwise I wouldn't be saying any of this). It's a interesting predicament, to be something you don't understand, even actively disregarding.

Time to throw something into the wild: What do you think people get wrong about being poly, especially if they just discovered that aspect about themselve?

Ech weess, datt ech ëmmer d'Léift e bëssi anescht gesin, an bis een et mir wierklech erkläert huet, war ech der Meenung, datt et sozial einfach net funktionéiert. Awer wéi ech esou an dësem Zoustand existéiert hunn an méi Zäit hat fir doriwwer nachzedenken - sinn ech derbäi komm, datt dat einfach falsch ass (ävidemment, soss géif ech net dat alles soen). Et ass eng interessant Situatioun, eppes ze sinn wat Dir net verstoen, souguer aktiv ze ignoréieren.

Zäit fir eppes an d'Wëld ze werfen: Wat denkt Dir, maachen d'Leit falsch iwwer Polyamorie, besonnesch wann si just dësen Aspekt iwwer sech selwer entdeckt hunn?

Sometimes despite having depression you have to smile a relationship of 3 years gone away due to my mental health issues and Sometimes it's smile to just keep from crying why does it hurt but I wanna move forward with my life at the same time my dms are open

Smile

Manchmal, trotz der Depressioun, muss een lächelen. Eng Relatioun vun 3 Joer ass fort, wéinst menger mentaler Gesondheetsproblemer, an et ass heiansdo just lächelen, fir net ze weinen. Firwat deet et weh, awer ech wëll mat mengem Liewen weidergoen, zur selwechter Zäit sinn meng DMs op.

Lächelen

A cute guy who's family oriented, sweet, kinky, nerdy, poly pansexual and someone who's politically left wing- and most importantly- LOCAL? At least within 100 miles??

Does he exist?

E süssen Typ, deen familiär orientéiert, süss, kinky, nerdy, poly pansexuell ass an een, deen politesch lénks ass - an am wichtegsten - LOKAL? Op d'mannst an engem Radius vun 100 Meilen??

Existéiert hien?

🥰

I'm just wondering how same sex marriage was legalized before Polygamous marriage 🤔 

The only reason my wife and I can't pursue our dream of filling a planet with our offspring is because it's illegal. 

Why?

How that first but not this?

Ech froe mech just, wéi d'selwecht Geschlecht Hochzäiten legaliséiert goufen, ier polygames Hochzäit 🤔 

D'eenzeg Grond firwat meng Fra an ech eisem Dram net nogeheien kënnen, e Planéit mat eise Kanner ze fëllen, ass well et illegal ass. 

Firwat?

Wéi ass dat éischt, awer net dëst?

Poly is beautiful

Poly ass schéin

Hi! I'm new here!

Looking for someone to share my partner with, polyamory is still new to us but I really wanna try it out! 

Some things about me, I'm a puppygirl! I love to do arts and crafts, I'm also a little if that matters to ya! My favorite craft to do is bracelet making! :3

Salut! Ech sinn nei hei!

Sichen eng Persoun fir mengem Partner ze deelen, Polyamorie ass nach ëmmer nei fir eis, awer ech wëll et wierklech probéieren! 

E puer Saachen iwwer mech, ech sinn eng Puppygirl! Ech hunn et gär, Kënschtleresch an Handwierk ze maachen, ech sinn och e bëssen, wann dat fir dech wichteg ass! Meng Liiblingshandwierk ass Armband maachen! :3

Moien

With no shame to anybody, it feels very odd being poly but also not being, say, very active in kink or in some kind of political extremism. I feel like the odd duckling. I don't need those kinds of things in my life necessarily, but also I just like people too much to be mono.

Does this resonate with anybody? Again, not knocking anybody's interests.

Poly but fairly tame in Seattle

Ohne Scham fir iergendeen, et fillt sech ganz komesch un poly ze sinn, awer och net, soen mir, ganz aktiv am Kink oder an enger Aart vu politeschem Extremismus ze sinn. Ech fillen mech wéi de komesche Kënschtler. Ech brauch dës Aarte vu Saachen net an mengem Liewen, awer ech sinn einfach ze vill un de Leit interesséiert fir mono ze sinn.

Resonéiert dat mat iergendeen? Nach eng Kéier, ech kritiséieren net d'Interessen vun aneren.

Poly awer relativ ziviliséiert zu Seattle

Do you think you could stay friends with someone you care about when they broke up with you, but they are leaving the ball in your court weather you want to be friends?

Need some perspective

Mengs de, dasss de Frënn mat engem kënns bleiwen, deen dir wichteg ass, wann si mat dir Schluss gemaach hunn, mee si loossen d'Ball an ärem Fong ob dir Frënn wëllt sinn?

Braucht e bëssen Perspektiv

Here is a picture from above northern Lapland region yesterday, it was a midsummer day in Finland.

Quiet here

Hei ass eng Bild vun uewen aus der nördlecher Lappland Regioun gëschter, et war e Mëdsummerdag an Finnland.

Quiets hei

How many partners do you have?

Wéi vill Partner hues de?

Luna is

Luna ass

I’m just wondering if there’s anyone around Red Deer and Innisfail area

Looking for people near me

Ech sinn just frou ze wëssen, ob et iergendwéi Leit ronderëm Red Deer an Innisfail gëtt

Sichen no Leit ronderëm mir

So my partner and I have had a few failed attempts at dating over the last year, both together and separate...we prefer kitchen table becauseits what works best for us but is not a requirement..but they have shown me what I need out of another partner. And I would like honest opinion on what I have on my profile and I will explain the reasonings I have them, ive been told they are unrealistic.

Rules I have for dating new partners
* They must have a stable living situation (bonus points if you can host overnights)
* Must have their own consistent means of transportation 
* Have a stable job of some sort
* (If relevant) have a stable childcare situation 
* (If relevant) the child should be a mostly separate part as I do not want to be in a parental role until the relationship is stable.

My nesting partner has a very low social battery and we dont have space for everyone to be in separate areas.
I was stuck doing all the driving, picking them up and bringing them home, I dont mind once in a while, but it takes its toll.
I cannot sustain paying all my bills and the monetary demands of another, I can help now and then, but until we live together, your bills are yours and mine are mine.
Quite simple, when we go out, my nesting partner and parents are not free daycare.
And finally, I love kids, but I dont want to grow attached to them or them attached to me while we are still figuring how things work and if we are going to work.

Thoughts and comments?

A question for the masses

Sou meng Partner an ech hunn e puer gescheitert Versich gemaach fir ze daten iwwer d'lescht Joer, béid zesummen an getrennt... mir preferéieren d'Kichen-Tisch well et ass wat am beschten fir eis funktionéiert, awer et ass keng Ufuerderung.. awer si hunn mir gewisen wat ech aus engem aneren Partner brauch. An ech géif gär eng éierlech Meenung iwwer wat ech op mengem Profil hunn an ech wäert d'Grënn erklären, firwat ech se hunn, ech gouf gesot si sinn unrealistesch.

Regelen, déi ech fir d'Dating mat neie Partner hunn
* Si mussen eng stabil Wunnsituation hunn (Bonuspunkt wann Dir d'Fäegkeet hutt fir iwwernuechten)
* Mussen hir eegen konstant Mënsch vun Transport hunn 
* Eng stabil Aarbecht vun enger Aart hunn
* (Wann relevant) eng stabil Kannerbetreiungssituatioun hunn 
* (Wann relevant) d'Kand soll eng meeschtens getrennte Roll sinn, well ech net an enger Elterebäitragsroll sinn wëll bis d'Beziehung stabil ass.

Meng Nesting-Partner huet eng ganz niddreg sozial Batterie an mir hunn net genuch Plaz fir jidderee fir an getrennte Beräicher ze sinn.
Ech war fest fir all d'Fuerer ze maachen, si ze huelen an se heem ze bréngen, ech hunn et net géint, wann et emol ass, awer et huet seng Auswierkungen.
Ech kann net all meng Rechnungen an d'monetär Ufuerderungen vun engem aneren ënnerstëtzen, ech kann heiansdo hëllefen, awer bis mir zesummen liewen, sinn Är Rechnungen Är an meng sinn meng.
Ech sinn ganz einfach, wann mir erausgoen, sinn meng Nesting-Partner an Elteren net gratis Kannerbetreiung.
An zum Schluss, ech hunn Kanner gär, awer ech wëll net un si gebonnen sinn oder si un mir, während mir nach erausfannen wéi d'Saachen funktionéieren an ob mir funktionnéieren.

Gedanken an Kommentaren?

Eng Fro fir d'Massen

We haven't been on here lately because we met a woman a while back. We both like her but aren't sure how to ask if she'd be interested in a poly ship with us.she likes us, possibly liking Jenny more than me (which I'm fine with) and she supports the LGBT+ community, but she isn't great at giving straight answers when we hint at dating her. I don't think she's doing it as a dodge, she does that with any conversation lol

Any tips?

Seeking advice

Mir waren net méi hei, well mir eng Fra viru méi laanger Zäit getraff hunn. Mir beiden hunn Iech gär, awer sinn net sécher, wéi mir froe sollen, ob si interesséiert wier an enger poly Beziehung mat eis. Si huet eis gär, méiglecherweis Jenny méi wéi mech (wat ech an der Regel ok fannen) an si ënnerstëtzt d'LGBT+ Gemeinschaft, awer si ass net gutt am ginn vun direkten Äntwerten, wann mir andeems mir op si daten. Ech mengen net, datt si dat als Auswee mécht, si mécht dat mat all Gespréich lol

Hues de Tipps?

Sich Berodung sichen

Looking for partners preferably female or non-binary please read my bio 💕😁

Sicht no Partneren, am léifsten weiblech oder non-binary, w.e.g. meng Bio liesen 💕😁

I’m interested in a relationship with 2 women who are looking for kind, genuine male partner who can provide love and care to both of you equally

Ech sinn interesséiert an enger Relatioun mat 2 Fraen, déi no engem frëndleche, échte männleche Partner sichen, deen Léift a Sorgfalt fir béid vun Iech gläichméisseg kann ubidden.

Just looking for a woman with good personality for my wife and me

My wifey

Just sicht ech eng Fra mat enger gudder Perséinlechkeet fir meng Fra an ech

Meng Wifey

Just want a gf to keep me company my bf works a lot it would be mainly solo dating he’s not around a lot he would only be here occasionally

Looking for a gf/3rd

Ech wëll just eng Frëndin fir menger Gesellschaft, mengem Frënd schafft vill, et wier haaptsächlech Solo-Dating, hien ass net oft do, hien wier nëmmen heiansdo hei.

Sichen eng Frëndin/3rd

Hey! 💗✨

Is it possible to find a spontaneous soul here who would like to join us in spending time, traveling, and having fun together?

Trouple

Hey! 💗✨

Ass et méiglech hei eng spontan Seel ze fannen, déi gär mat eis Zäit verbréngen, reesen an zesummen Spaass hunn?

On one hand poly has a potential to have a lot of love in one's life, but on the other hand if you have just a secondary partner who lives elsewhere,  its not enough human contact to meet emotional connection needs. Trying to find a primary partner who poly can be increasingly harder. But you don't want to give up on your secondary partner even though they can't give more time together.

Is poly a double edge sword?

Op der eenser Säit huet Poly d'Potenzial vill Léift an engem sengem Liewen ze hunn, awer op der anerer Säit, wanns de just e sekundäre Partner hues, deen an enger anerer Plaz wunnt, ass et net genuch mënschlech Kontakt fir d'Bedierfnesser vun emotionaler Verbindung ze erfëllen. E primäre Partner ze fannen, deen poly ass, kann ëmmer méi schwéier ginn. Awer du wëlls net op däin sekundäre Partner verzichten, och wann si net méi Zäit zesummen kënne ginn.

Ass Poly eng zwou Säiten Kéier?

My fiance and I have recently decided to open our relationship to a third person.  We have been open to it for years, but our match has eluded us.  Now we are actively looking and her family is in an uproar.  She was married to a woman for over 10 years before they divorced, but she has now been with me for over 15 years.  It isn't like being with a man for a long time made her not miss being with a woman.  So instead of her stepping out on me, we just decided to share a girlfriendif we can ever find one that can handle us.  The concept of a thrupple isn't new.  There have been many successful, stable, multiperson relationships.  With love and trust mixed with open honest communication, it doesn't matter if there are 2 or 3.  Maybe even 4 or 5.... As long as everyone is an equal part, why does it matter to anyone else?  We hope we eventually find our missing puzzle piece and we also hope you all find what you are looking for.

What is so hard to understand?

Mengem Verlobten an ech hunn kuerz decidéiert eis Relatioun fir eng drëtt Persoun opzemaachen. Mir sinn et scho Joren zougänglech, mee eis Match huet eis ëmmer entgaang. Elo si mir aktiv op der Sich an hir Famill ass an engem Aufruhr. Si war méi wéi 10 Joer mat enger Fra bestuet, ier si sech getrennt hunn, mee si ass elo schonn iwwer 15 Joer mat mir. Et ass net wéi wann et mat engem Mann ze sinn, si net vermësselt mat enger Fra ze sinn. Also amplaz datt si mech verléisst, hunn mir decidéiert eng Frëndin ze deelen, wann mir jeemools eng fannen, déi eis kann handhaben. D'Konzept vun engem Thrupple ass net nei. Et huet vill erfollegräich, stabil multipersonell Relatiounen ginn. Mat Léift an Vertrauen gemëscht mat oppener, honnester Kommunikatioun, spillt et keng Roll ob et 2 oder 3 sinn. Vläicht souguer 4 oder 5.... Solang wéi jidderee gläichberechtegt ass, firwat ass et wichteg fir aneren? Mir hoffen, mir fannen eventual eis vermësselt Puzzlestéck an mir hoffen och, datt Dir all fënnt wat Dir sicht.

Wat ass esou schwéier ze verstoen?

Old friends? On and off relations? A new flame? A coworker? How did you end up meeting the ones who joined your polycule? How difficult was it to get them to swallow the idea of polyamory or were they already amenable to the idea? How do your families take to the idea? Just seeing what people have to say.

How did you meet the third in your thruples?

Al Frënn? An auserneen Relatiounen? Eng nei Flamm? E Kollege? Wéi hues de déi kennengelernt, déi an deng Polycule komm sinn? Wéi schwéier war et, si fir d'Iddi vum Polyamory ze gewannen oder waren si schonn op d'Iddi agestallt? Wéi reagéieren deng Familljen op d'Iddi? Just kucken, wat d'Leit ze soen hunn.

Wéi hues de den Drëtten an ärem Thruple kennengelernt?

Is it a particular hobby, mannerisms, intelligence and so on. Im curious if there is a common thread besides open communication.

What attracts you the most with new potential partners?

Ass et e besonnesche Hobby, Manéieren, Intelligenz an esou weider. Ech sinn interesséiert, ob et e gemeinsame Faden neben der offener Kommunikatioun gëtt.

Wat zitt Iech am meeschten un nei potenziellen Partneren un?

I need friends in our community to talk to and swap stories that only we would understand. I'm not even looking to date, I'm set, but friends? Get over here! 😅😁

Polyam Pals

Ech brauch Frënn an eiser Gemeinschaft fir ze schwätzen an Geschichten auszetauschen, déi nëmmen mir verstoen. Ech sinn net emol op der Sich no engem Date, ech sinn fäerdeg, mee Frënn? Kommt hei! 😅😁

Been a while, but just to update:

We had our third kid in October and have been focusing on him.

We also made a new friend who's fun to be around.

I've also been working on some new puppets and drawings while Jenny's been trying to get some crochet projects done.

We are still interested in starting a polyamorous relationship if any women are interested 🙂 if not, that's fine, but if so, feel free to leave a comment telling us about yourself 😊

Back again 😊

Et ass eng Zäit hier, awer just fir ze aktualiséieren:

Mir hunn eis drëtt Kanner am Oktober kritt an hunn eis op hien konzentréiert.

Mir hunn och e neie Frënd gemaach, deen et ass, mat deem een gär ass.

Ech hunn och un e puer neie Puppen a Molerien geschafft, während Jenny probéiert huet e puer Häkelprojeten ofzeschléissen.

Mir sinn nach ëmmer interesséiert, eng polyamores Relatioun ze starten, wann et Fraen gëtt, déi interesséiert sinn 🙂 wann net, ass dat och gutt, awer wann jo, fillt Iech fräi, e Kommentar ze hannerloossen, fir eis iwwer Iech selwer ze erzielen 😊

Zréck 😊

Look for Prince Charming to rescue you now
Wanting The One to just take a bow
Kissing a stud or is it a toad
Someone to keep or to send on the road 
Against loneliness, properly raged
It's hard to see that love isn't caged
Expecting that one will be all you see
Why stop at one? Try two and try three
Each one is different and playing a role
Giving the love and filling a hole
Time is quite precious when giving for free
The time set for you, the time set for me
Ninety percent of all stress is now gone 
A new day is coming, the breaking of dawn
Open and honest respecting each other
Giving of space so love doesn't smother
In order to love, avoiding the worst
Be sure you've spent time to love yourself first

Love isn't Caged

Sicht no dem Prënz Charming fir dech elo ze retten
Wëll den Eenzege just eng Reverenz maachen
Kussen e Stier oder ass et e Kréien
Emanden ze behalen oder op d'Wäin ze schécken
Géint d'Einsamkeet, richteg wütend
Et ass schwéier ze gesin, datt Léift net e Käfeg ass
Erwaarden, datt deen eenzege alles ass wat's de gesäis
Firwat bei engem stoppen? Probéiert zwee an probéiert dräi
Jidderee ass anescht a spillt eng Roll
Ginn d'Léift an fëllen eng Lück
Zäit ass ganz wäertvoll wanns de gratis ginn
D'Zäit festgeluecht fir dech, d'Zäit festgeluecht fir mech
Nei zéng Prozent vun all Stress ass elo fort
E neie Dag kënnt, d'Briechung vum Dämmerung
Op an éierlech respektéieren eis géigesäiteg
Ginn Raum, sou datt d'Léift net erstéckt
Fir ze léifen, d'Äscht ze vermeiden
Sëcherstellen, datt de Zäit verbruecht huet fir Iech selwer éischt ze léifen

Léift ass net e Käfeg

Been wanting to try and start an ENM poly relationship. My wife (hetace) is supportive yet hesitant in this endeavor. I'm not looking to move too quickly, just find somebody to talk to about it. Live in Southern Ontario. We both work and dont have kids but are hoping to in the near future. I'm the cook so dont worry about that😋

Partnered M looking for F

Ech wollt schonn ëmmer probéieren an eng ENM poly Relatioun anzefänken. Meng Fra (hetace) ass ënnerstëtzend, awer zögerlech an dësem Projet. Ech sichen net no engem schnelle Fortschrëtt, just eng Persoun fir doriwwer ze schwätzen. Ech liewen an der südlecher Ontario. Mir schaffen béid a hu keng Kanner, awer hoffen an der noer Zukunft. Ech sinn de Kach, also maacht Iech keng Suergen doriwwer😋

Partnered M sicht F

I'm finally ready to start dating and seeing other people again... Nothing too serious.

Just... I want to explore a bit.

I got dressed up cute yesterday and went to an event. I talked with a very pretty lady, but didn't work up the courage to exchange info.

Still, it felt good just to know I was out and open to the possibility. Poly is work and that work is hard and healing from bad experiences means opening up to new ones!

Out and About

Ech sinn endlech bereet fir ze daten an aner Leit erëm ze gesin... Nichts ze sérieux.

Just... Ech wëll e bëssen exploréieren.

Ech hunn mech gëschter schéin angezogen an sinn op eng Evenement gaangen. Ech hunn mat enger ganz schéiner Dame geschwat, mee ech hunn net de Courage fonnt fir Informatiounen auszetauschen.

Trotzdem huet et gutt gefillt just ze wëssen, datt ech eraus war an d'Méiglechkeet opgemaach hunn. Poly ass Aarbecht an dës Aarbecht ass schwéier an d'Heelen vun schlechten Erfarungen heescht, op nei zegeheien!

Eraus an iwwerall

I love hearing people's stories! What were your first dates like?(yes, after you realized you were poly)

First dates

Ech hunn et gär, d'Geschichten vun de Leit ze héieren! Wéi waren Är éischt Dates? (jo, nodeems Dir realiséiert hutt, datt Dir poly sidd)

Éischt Dates

My wife and I are new to being poly and want to meet someone what advice would you give us?

Meng Fra an ech sinn nei am Poly a wëllen eppes treffen, wat fir Rotschléi géift Dir eis ginn?

Anyone tried Feeld?

Hunn ech Feeld probéiert?

A Boo community for meeting other Polyamory enthusiasts.

Polyamory Community

Ech mag dat.

Wat wann

neit hei

Zäit fir eppes an d'Wëld ze werfen: Wat denkt Dir, maachen d'Leit falsch iwwer Polyamorie, besonnesch wann si just dësen Aspekt iwwer sech selwer entdeckt hunn?

Lächelen

Existéiert hien?

Nei bei Boo!

PRIDE

Hey Polies Loosst eis schwätzen firwat dir hei sidd an wéi et Polyamorie ass an net Monogamie?

Polyamorie

Wat denkt Dir iwwer Polyamorie?

Mengs de, datt angschtlech Leit op Polyamorie zréckgräifen, fir et auszugleichen, andeems se 5 vermeidend Partner zur selwechter Zäit hunn?