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I like this.

Abdi resep ieu.

🥰

What if we wiewed relationships as friendships

Whaat if

Kumaha upami urang ningali hubungan salaku babaturan

Kumaha upami

I know that I always saw love a bit differently, and until someone really explained it I was of the understanding that it just didn't work socially. But as I've sorta existed in this state and had more time to think about it- I came to learn that's just plain wrong (obviously, otherwise I wouldn't be saying any of this). It's a interesting predicament, to be something you don't understand, even actively disregarding.

Time to throw something into the wild: What do you think people get wrong about being poly, especially if they just discovered that aspect about themselve?

Kuring terang yén kuring salawasna ningali cinta rada béda, sareng dugi ka batur leres-leres ngajelaskeunana kuring ngartos yén éta henteu jalan sacara sosial. Tapi nalika kuring parantos aya dina kaayaan ieu sareng gaduh langkung seueur waktos pikeun mikir ngeunaan éta - kuring diajar yén éta salah pisan (jelas, upami henteu, kuring moal nyarioskeun ieu sadayana). Éta mangrupikeun kaayaan anu menarik, janten hal anu anjeun henteu ngartos, bahkan sacara aktif ngabaikan.

Waktosna pikeun ngagugulung hal ka alam liar: Naon anu anjeun pikirkeun ngeunaan hal-hal anu salah ngeunaan jadi poly, utamina lamun aranjeunna anyar mendakan aspék éta ngeunaan diri maranéhanana?

Sometimes despite having depression you have to smile a relationship of 3 years gone away due to my mental health issues and Sometimes it's smile to just keep from crying why does it hurt but I wanna move forward with my life at the same time my dms are open

Smile

Kadang-kadang sanajan boga depresi anjeun kudu seuri, hubungan anu geus 3 taun leungit alatan masalah kaséhatan mental kuring, sareng kadang-kadang éta seuri pikeun ngan ukur nyegah tina ceurik, kunaon ieu nyeri, tapi kuring hoyong maju sareng kahirupan kuring, dina waktos anu sami dms kuring kabuka.

Senyum

wrapped up work, got a weekend off work so I’ll try to be around more here. my gf’s all excired about the new folks they’re meeting so I’m tryna just make a friend here whi may or may not be a platonic flirty friend idk who knows

hmu if you like final fantasy :,)))

new out here

kacida sibukna, meunang akhir minggu bébas ti pagawean jadi kuring bakal nyobian langkung sering di dieu. pacar kuring sadayana semangat ngeunaan jalma anyar anu aranjeunna tepang jadi kuring nyobian ngan saukur nyieun sobat di dieu anu tiasa atanapi henteu janten sobat flirty platonis, kuring henteu terang saha anu terang

hmu upami anjeun resep final fantasy :,)))

anyar di dieu

A cute guy who's family oriented, sweet, kinky, nerdy, poly pansexual and someone who's politically left wing- and most importantly- LOCAL? At least within 100 miles??

Does he exist?

Jalma anu lucu anu kulawargana, manis, kinky, nerdy, poly pansexual sareng jalma anu condong ka kénca sacara politik- sareng anu paling penting- LOKAL? Sahenteuna dina jarak 100 mil??

Naha anjeunna aya?

Here is a picture from above northern Lapland region yesterday, it was a midsummer day in Finland.

Quiet here

Ieu mangrupikeun gambar ti luhur wewengkon Lapland kalér kamari, éta mangrupikeun poé tengah usum panas di Finlandia.

Tenang di dieu

I'm just wondering how same sex marriage was legalized before Polygamous marriage 🤔 

The only reason my wife and I can't pursue our dream of filling a planet with our offspring is because it's illegal. 

Why?

How that first but not this?

Kuring ngan ukur heran kumaha nikah sesama jenis dilegalkeun sateuacan nikah poligami 🤔 

Satu-satunya alesan kuring sareng pamajikan teu tiasa ngudag impian ngeusian planét sareng anak-anak urang nyaéta sabab éta ilegal. 

Naha?

Kumaha éta anu kahiji tapi sanés ieu?

Poly is beautiful

Poly éndah

Halo

With no shame to anybody, it feels very odd being poly but also not being, say, very active in kink or in some kind of political extremism. I feel like the odd duckling. I don't need those kinds of things in my life necessarily, but also I just like people too much to be mono.

Does this resonate with anybody? Again, not knocking anybody's interests.

Poly but fairly tame in Seattle

Tanpa rasa malu ka saha waé, karasa pisan aneh janten poli tapi ogé henteu, contona, pisan aktip dina kink atanapi dina sababaraha jinis ekstremisme politik. Kuring ngarasa sapertos bebek aneh. Kuring henteu peryogi hal-hal sapertos kitu dina kahirupan kuring sacara wajib, tapi ogé kuring ngan saukur resep ka jalma teuing pikeun janten mono.

Naha ieu résonan sareng saha waé? Sakali deui, henteu ngenyek minat saha waé.

Poli tapi cukup tenang di Seattle

Do you think you could stay friends with someone you care about when they broke up with you, but they are leaving the ball in your court weather you want to be friends?

Need some perspective

Naha anjeun pikir anjeun tiasa tetep babaturan sareng batur anu anjeun pikahoyong nalika aranjeunna pegat sareng anjeun, tapi aranjeunna ngantepkeun bola di lapangan anjeun naha anjeun hoyong janten babaturan?

Perlu sababaraha perspektif

How many partners do you have?

Sabaraha pasangan anu anjeun gaduh?

Luna is

Luna nyaéta

I’m just wondering if there’s anyone around Red Deer and Innisfail area

Looking for people near me

Kuring ngan ukur panasaran naha aya anu di sabudeureun wewengkon Red Deer sareng Innisfail

Milarian jalma deukeut kuring

Feel frew to add you thoughts, and also check our profile and message us if it peaks your interest :3

Pros and cons of polyamorous relationships?

Rasa bébas pikeun nambahkeun pamikiran anjeun, sareng ogé pariksa profil kami sareng kirim pesen ka kami upami éta narik minat anjeun :3

Kauntungannana jeung karugian hubungan polyamorous?

So my partner and I have had a few failed attempts at dating over the last year, both together and separate...we prefer kitchen table becauseits what works best for us but is not a requirement..but they have shown me what I need out of another partner. And I would like honest opinion on what I have on my profile and I will explain the reasonings I have them, ive been told they are unrealistic.

Rules I have for dating new partners
* They must have a stable living situation (bonus points if you can host overnights)
* Must have their own consistent means of transportation 
* Have a stable job of some sort
* (If relevant) have a stable childcare situation 
* (If relevant) the child should be a mostly separate part as I do not want to be in a parental role until the relationship is stable.

My nesting partner has a very low social battery and we dont have space for everyone to be in separate areas.
I was stuck doing all the driving, picking them up and bringing them home, I dont mind once in a while, but it takes its toll.
I cannot sustain paying all my bills and the monetary demands of another, I can help now and then, but until we live together, your bills are yours and mine are mine.
Quite simple, when we go out, my nesting partner and parents are not free daycare.
And finally, I love kids, but I dont want to grow attached to them or them attached to me while we are still figuring how things work and if we are going to work.

Thoughts and comments?

A question for the masses

Jadi pasangan kuring sareng kuring parantos ngalakukeun sababaraha usaha anu gagal dina pacaran salami sataun ka pengker, boh babarengan sareng misah... kami langkung milih méja dapur sabab éta anu paling cocog pikeun kami tapi sanés syarat.. tapi aranjeunna parantos nunjukkeun ka kuring naon anu kuring peryogikeun tina pasangan anu sanés. Sareng kuring hoyong pendapat jujur ngeunaan naon anu kuring gaduh dina profil kuring sareng kuring bakal ngajelaskeun alesan anu kuring gaduh, kuring parantos dibilang yén éta henteu réalistis.

Aturan anu kuring gaduh pikeun pacaran sareng pasangan anyar
* Aranjeunna kedah gaduh kaayaan hirup anu stabil (titik bonus upami anjeun tiasa nampi wengi)
* Kudu gaduh sarana transportasi anu konsisten sorangan
* gaduh pagawean anu stabil
* (Upami relevan) gaduh kaayaan perawatan anak anu stabil
* (Upami relevan) anak kedah janten bagian anu langkung misah sabab kuring henteu hoyong janten peran kolot dugi ka hubunganana stabil.

Pasangan nesting kuring gaduh batré sosial anu sangat rendah sareng kami henteu gaduh ruang pikeun sadayana aya di daérah anu misah.
Kuring terjebak ngalakukeun sadaya nyetir, nyandak aranjeunna sareng mawa aranjeunna ka bumi, kuring henteu masalah sakali-kali, tapi éta nyandak toll.
Kuring henteu tiasa nahan mayar sadaya tagihan kuring sareng tuntutan moneter ti anu sanés, kuring tiasa ngabantosan ayeuna sareng kadang-kadang, tapi dugi ka kami cicing babarengan, tagihan anjeun milik anjeun sareng milik kuring milik kuring.
Sederhana pisan, nalika kami kaluar, pasangan nesting kuring sareng kolot henteu gratis daycare.
Sareng ahirna, kuring resep budak, tapi kuring henteu hoyong nyambung ka aranjeunna atanapi aranjeunna nyambung ka kuring nalika kami masih ngartos kumaha cara kerja sareng upami kami bakal jalan. 

Pikiran sareng komentar?

Saur pikeun masarakat

We haven't been on here lately because we met a woman a while back. We both like her but aren't sure how to ask if she'd be interested in a poly ship with us.she likes us, possibly liking Jenny more than me (which I'm fine with) and she supports the LGBT+ community, but she isn't great at giving straight answers when we hint at dating her. I don't think she's doing it as a dodge, she does that with any conversation lol

Any tips?

Seeking advice

Kami henteu acan aya di dieu akhir-akhir ieu sabab kami pendak sareng hiji awéwé sababaraha waktos ka pengker. Kami duaan resep ka anjeunna tapi henteu yakin kumaha nanya upami anjeunna bakal kersa kana hubungan poliamori sareng kami. Anjeunna resep ka kami, mungkin langkung resep ka Jenny tibatan kuring (anu kuring henteu masalah) sareng anjeunna ngadukung komunitas LGBT+, tapi anjeunna henteu saé dina masihan jawaban anu jelas nalika kami nyarankeun pikeun ngadate anjeunna. Kuring henteu pikir anjeunna ngalakukeun éta salaku cara pikeun nyingkir, anjeunna ngalakukeun éta sareng paguneman naon waé lol

Aya tips?

Mencari saran

Looking for partners preferably female or non-binary please read my bio 💕😁

Mencari pasangan, lebih disukai perempuan atau non-biner, silakan baca bio saya 💕😁

I’m interested in a relationship with 2 women who are looking for kind, genuine male partner who can provide love and care to both of you equally

Abdi resep kana hubungan sareng 2 awéwé anu milarian pasangan lalaki anu hadé, tulus anu tiasa masihan cinta sareng perhatian ka anjeun duaan sacara sami

Just want a gf to keep me company my bf works a lot it would be mainly solo dating he’s not around a lot he would only be here occasionally

Looking for a gf/3rd

Kuring ngan hoyong pacar pikeun ngiringan kuring, pacar kuring damel seueur, ieu bakal utamina kencan sorangan, anjeunna henteu sering aya, anjeunna ngan bakal aya kadang-kadang.

Mencari pacar/3rd

Hey! 💗✨

Is it possible to find a spontaneous soul here who would like to join us in spending time, traveling, and having fun together?

Trouple

Hey! 💗✨

Naha mungkin pikeun mendakan jiwa spontan di dieu anu hoyong ngagabung sareng kami pikeun nyéépkeun waktos, ngumbara, sareng senang-senang bareng?

On one hand poly has a potential to have a lot of love in one's life, but on the other hand if you have just a secondary partner who lives elsewhere,  its not enough human contact to meet emotional connection needs. Trying to find a primary partner who poly can be increasingly harder. But you don't want to give up on your secondary partner even though they can't give more time together.

Is poly a double edge sword?

Di hiji sisi, poly boga potensi pikeun mibanda loba cinta dina kahirupan hiji, tapi di sisi séjén, lamun anjeun ngan boga pasangan sekunder anu cicing di tempat séjén, éta henteu cukup kontak manusa pikeun nyumponan kabutuhan hubungan émosional. Nyoba pikeun manggihan pasangan utama anu poly bisa jadi beuki hese. Tapi anjeun henteu hoyong nyerah kana pasangan sekunder anjeun sanajan aranjeunna henteu tiasa masihan langkung seueur waktos babarengan.

Naha poly téh pedang dua sisi?

My fiance and I have recently decided to open our relationship to a third person.  We have been open to it for years, but our match has eluded us.  Now we are actively looking and her family is in an uproar.  She was married to a woman for over 10 years before they divorced, but she has now been with me for over 15 years.  It isn't like being with a man for a long time made her not miss being with a woman.  So instead of her stepping out on me, we just decided to share a girlfriendif we can ever find one that can handle us.  The concept of a thrupple isn't new.  There have been many successful, stable, multiperson relationships.  With love and trust mixed with open honest communication, it doesn't matter if there are 2 or 3.  Maybe even 4 or 5.... As long as everyone is an equal part, why does it matter to anyone else?  We hope we eventually find our missing puzzle piece and we also hope you all find what you are looking for.

What is so hard to understand?

Kuring sareng tunangan kuring anyar-anyar ieu mutuskeun pikeun muka hubungan kami ka jalma katilu. Kami parantos kabuka pikeun éta salami taun, tapi pasangan kami henteu kapendak. Ayeuna kami aktif milarian sareng kulawargana gaduh masalah. Manehna parantos nikah sareng awéwé salami langkung ti 10 taun sateuacan cerai, tapi ayeuna anjeunna parantos sareng kuring salami langkung ti 15 taun. Teu sapertosna sareng lalaki salami lami ngajantenkeun anjeunna henteu kangen sareng awéwé. Janten tibatan anjeunna kaluar ti kuring, kami mutuskeun pikeun ngabagi pacar upami kami tiasa mendakan anu tiasa ngatur kami. Konsep thrupple sanés hal anyar. Aya seueur hubungan multiperson anu suksés sareng stabil. Kalayan cinta sareng kapercayaan dicampur sareng komunikasi anu jujur terbuka, henteu masalah upami aya 2 atanapi 3. Meureun bahkan 4 atanapi 5.... Salami sadayana mangrupikeun bagian anu sami, naha éta penting pikeun batur? Kami ngarepkeun kami ahirna mendakan potongan teka-teki anu hilang sareng kami ogé ngarepkeun anjeun sadayana mendakan naon anu anjeun cari.

Naon anu hésé dipikaharti?

Old friends? On and off relations? A new flame? A coworker? How did you end up meeting the ones who joined your polycule? How difficult was it to get them to swallow the idea of polyamory or were they already amenable to the idea? How do your families take to the idea? Just seeing what people have to say.

How did you meet the third in your thruples?

Sahabat lami? Hubungan anu kadang-kadang? Seuneu anyar? Réréncangan kerja? Kumaha anjeun tungtungna patepung sareng anu ngagabung sareng polycule anjeun? Sabaraha hese pikeun ngajak aranjeunna nampa ide polyamory atanapi aranjeunna parantos daék kana ide éta? Kumaha kulawarga anjeun nampi ide éta? Ngan ningali naon anu dipikahoyong ku jalma.

Kumaha anjeun patepung sareng anu katilu dina thruples anjeun?

Is it a particular hobby, mannerisms, intelligence and so on. Im curious if there is a common thread besides open communication.

What attracts you the most with new potential partners?

Naha éta hobi khusus, cara, intelijen sareng sajabana. Abdi panasaran naha aya benang umum salian ti komunikasi anu terbuka.

Naon anu paling narik perhatian anjeun sareng pasangan anyar anu poténsial?

I need friends in our community to talk to and swap stories that only we would understand. I'm not even looking to date, I'm set, but friends? Get over here! 😅😁

Polyam Pals

Abdi peryogi rerencangan di komunitas urang pikeun ngobrol sareng tukeur carita anu ngan ukur urang anu ngartos. Abdi henteu malire pikeun ngadate, abdi parantos cukup, tapi rerencangan? Sumping ka dieu! 😅😁

Been a while, but just to update:

We had our third kid in October and have been focusing on him.

We also made a new friend who's fun to be around.

I've also been working on some new puppets and drawings while Jenny's been trying to get some crochet projects done.

We are still interested in starting a polyamorous relationship if any women are interested 🙂 if not, that's fine, but if so, feel free to leave a comment telling us about yourself 😊

Back again 😊

Geus lami, tapi ngan saukur pikeun ngapdet:

Urang gaduh anak katilu dina Oktober sareng parantos fokus ka anjeunna.

Urang ogé parantos ngadamel sobat anyar anu pikaresepeun.

Kuring ogé parantos damel dina sababaraha boneka anyar sareng gambar nalika Jenny parantos nyobian pikeun ngarengsekeun sababaraha proyék rajut.

Urang masih kabetot pikeun ngamimitian hubungan polyamorous upami aya awéwé anu kabetot 🙂 upami henteu, teu masalah, tapi upami kitu, mangga tinggalkeun komentar nyaritakeun ngeunaan diri anjeun 😊

Balik deui 😊

Look for Prince Charming to rescue you now
Wanting The One to just take a bow
Kissing a stud or is it a toad
Someone to keep or to send on the road 
Against loneliness, properly raged
It's hard to see that love isn't caged
Expecting that one will be all you see
Why stop at one? Try two and try three
Each one is different and playing a role
Giving the love and filling a hole
Time is quite precious when giving for free
The time set for you, the time set for me
Ninety percent of all stress is now gone 
A new day is coming, the breaking of dawn
Open and honest respecting each other
Giving of space so love doesn't smother
In order to love, avoiding the worst
Be sure you've spent time to love yourself first

Love isn't Caged

Milarian Pangeran Menawan pikeun nyalametkeun anjeun ayeuna
Hayang Anu Hiji ngan ukur nyungkeun
Ngabuburit jeung jalu atawa éta kodok
Saha anu dijaga atawa dikirim ka jalan 
Ngalawan kesepian, kalayan amarah anu leres
Hese ningali yén cinta teu kacage
Ngarep-ngarep yén hiji bakal janten sadayana anu anjeun tingali
Naha eureun di hiji? Coba dua sareng coba tilu
Unggal hiji béda sareng maénkeun peran
Méré cinta sareng ngeusian liang
Waktu téh cukup berharga nalika méré sacara gratis
Waktu anu ditetepkeun pikeun anjeun, waktu anu ditetepkeun pikeun kuring
Sembilan puluh persen tina sagala stres ayeuna parantos leungit 
Hiji poé anyar bakal datang, pecahna subuh
Muka sareng jujur ngahargaan silih
Méré rohangan supados cinta henteu ngahalangan
Supados tiasa cinta, nyingkahan anu paling parah
Pastikeun anjeun parantos nyéépkeun waktos pikeun cinta ka diri anjeun heula

Cinta Teu Kacage

Been wanting to try and start an ENM poly relationship. My wife (hetace) is supportive yet hesitant in this endeavor. I'm not looking to move too quickly, just find somebody to talk to about it. Live in Southern Ontario. We both work and dont have kids but are hoping to in the near future. I'm the cook so dont worry about that😋

Partnered M looking for F

Kuring geus hayang nyobian jeung ngamimitian hubungan ENM poly. Istri kuring (hetace) ngarojong tapi ragu dina usaha ieu. Kuring teu hayang gancang-gancang, ngan milarian batur pikeun ngobrol ngeunaan ieu. Cicing di Southern Ontario. Kami duaan kerja jeung teu boga barudak tapi ngarepkeun boga dina mangsa nu deukeut. Kuring nu masak jadi ulah hariwang ngeunaan éta😋

I'm finally ready to start dating and seeing other people again... Nothing too serious.

Just... I want to explore a bit.

I got dressed up cute yesterday and went to an event. I talked with a very pretty lady, but didn't work up the courage to exchange info.

Still, it felt good just to know I was out and open to the possibility. Poly is work and that work is hard and healing from bad experiences means opening up to new ones!

Out and About

Kuring ahirna siap pikeun ngamimitian pacaran jeung ningali jalma séjén deui... Teu aya anu teuing serius.

Ngan... Kuring hoyong ngajajah saeutik.

Kuring geus make baju anu lucu kamari jeung angkat ka hiji acara. Kuring ngobrol jeung hiji wanoja anu pisan geulis, tapi teu bisa ngumpulkeun kawani pikeun tukeur informasi.

Tapi, éta ngarasa saé ngan pikeun nyaho yén kuring kaluar jeung kabuka pikeun kamungkinan. Poly téh kerja jeung éta kerja téh hese jeung cageur tina pangalaman goréng hartosna kabuka pikeun anu anyar!

Kaluar jeung Ngalakukeun

I love hearing people's stories! What were your first dates like?(yes, after you realized you were poly)

First dates

Abdi resep ngadangu carita jalma! Kumaha tanggal kahiji anjeun?(enya, saatos anjeun sadar yén anjeun poligami)

Polyamory Community

Abdi resep ieu.

🥰

Kumaha upami

Waktosna pikeun ngagugulung hal ka alam liar: Naon anu anjeun pikirkeun ngeunaan hal-hal anu salah ngeunaan jadi poly, utamina lamun aranjeunna anyar mendakan aspék éta ngeunaan diri maranéhanana?

Senyum

anyar di dieu

PRIDE

Hai Polies Hayu urang ngobrol kunaon anjeun di dieu sareng kumaha éta polyamory sareng sanés monogamy?

Polyamory

Naon pendapat anjeun ngeunaan polyamory?

Naha anjeun pikir jalma anu cemas ngalih ka poliamori supados aranjeunna tiasa ngimbanganana ku gaduh 5 pasangan anu nyingkahan dina waktos anu sami?

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