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What my personal redflags are and how I react to them (share yours if you would like)

Flag 1) they are sexually attracted to me Solution 1) ask them why to determine what their insecurity is that lead them to be attracted to me and try to promote helathy self growth from a platonic distance. Flag 2) they belive they need others Solution 2) maintain a strong distance emotionally,... read more

Would you believe me

if I said that I'm an ecologist and an obscure writer, dejected, both academically and socially. I write here because people read something that I put out and respond to me so I do not spiral into psychosis. My husband divorced me because I was scared of his potential and we had ideological... read more

Are there anything you see in profiles that drive you crazy?

Like when I read I'm reading that someone is looking for someone who doesn't lie, or cheat. Really is that where the bar is set? Tell me what you want for real. I literally already go into every situation in life assuming the person I'm interacting with isn't interested dealing with a liar, or a... read more

What does one do as not only asexual and trans?

Dating is like impossible and then if they are magically okay with that. A lot of guys here aren't emo or gothic or alt. Then even then they won't care about me really. Then if they claim to care and text and stuff will ghost me. Why even bother

Being racist in my DMS for what?

You're just gonna get blocked and reported. 🤷🏾‍♀️ Y'all don't bother anybody😂

33?

Is voice noting an old person thing now? I hate doing it personally, and usually only bother once im comfortable with someone. Plus i hate having to re-react to a voice note when my live reaction was when i listened to it in the first place. 🤷🏻‍♀️ Real life problems? Not really haha