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Logikós Daeyume

1 month ago

INFP
Cancer

6w5

6

5

A balanced life requires self-knowledge.

Some lack self-awareness due t'bein' too focused on others' needs (& you'll see this in a lot of unhealthy Enneagram 2s, 9s, & the countertype Sp instinct 7). People like this were often parentalized/adultified in childhood by their own parent(s). Repressing themselves thus may have been necessary for survival once upon a time, but it ideally becomes a maladaptive strategy one can learn to outgrow in time. . . . Others, akin to infants, may be simultaneously self-absorbed & yet out of touch with who they are. In a lot of such cases, people are just lazy & spoiled, & will figure themselves out in due time--but on the extreme end of this spectrum are e3 narcissists & e7 borderlines, who don't even have a stable identity to know over time (unless/until they heal from their CPTSD enough to constellate/integrate their fragmented psyche over time). [I will add, though, that in cases where there is co-morbid psychopathy &/or where there are machiavellian traits overlayed, there is then, indeed, a fair degree of self-awareness.] Those who know themselves least are most easily triggered, & are liable to unwittingly project; i.e. unconsciously gaslight others into taking the blame for the drama they generate (& if you're a codependent e2, Sp 7, or 9, you're most likely to succumb to tolerating this). . . . And then there are e4s & e8s. These guys aren't confabulating or feigning when they say they know themselves better than anyone. . . . Now then: Once you have self-knowledge, balance also necessitates sometimes compromising your wants to comport yourself to others'. That is, unless you're happy & functional being alone in the long run... And I guess there are a lot of e5s who'd fall into the classification of being Schizoid. Like, they're not necessarily conventionally selfish (like 4s) or defiant (like 8s), but they covet their alone time, & are--out of all Enneatypes--the most content being disconnected from others...for long periods of time. . . . Hm... And then there are 6s. They're the most common type, yet also one of the most complicated. They can pendulum back & forth between being too conformist/patriotic & too neurotically stand-offish (often in alternatingly overly aggressive & passive-aggressive ways). They're kinda like the Tsundere trope in anime. . . . And then 1s...--how t'tie them in... I think, in some ways, like the withdrawn 5s, 1s tend to have a pretty good picture of reality, overall (though 5s have more of an edge in the realm of the sciences, whereas ethics is more the 1's domain). And yet they're outgoing, hyper-productive, & perfectionistic to a fault (when unhealthy)--not to mention militant in their efforts to reform others. My dad has a lot of 1 & 6 in him. It was hard to grow up with a helicopter parent like that. 😵 Ah, & a lot rides on the instinctual variant of the e1 when it comes to self-knowledge. - A Self-preservation 1 tends to master themselves. - A Sexual 1 tends to focus most of their attention & energies on reforming others (& not first plucking the beam out of their own eyes, often). - And I think a Social 1 is somewhat balanced compared to the former two. :d

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Andrew

15 days ago

ENTP
Pisces

4w3

4

3

The test on this app is far too simple and way off.
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David Romero

11 days ago

ENFJ
Capricorn
What the hell is enneagram. ? I must be old
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Kim Eunjoo

2 months ago

INFJ
Taurus

1w2

1

2

Can someone tell me how to find out what's your enneagram
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Madi☀🛸👾

13 days ago

ENTP
Gemini

8w7

8

7

Autistic enneagram 8

I'm Autistic (and an 8, that's probably also part of this)and I really dislike when people who don't know me call me rude and cold. It makes having casual conversations with strangers on the internet very difficult and stressful. Because I'm not rude or cold, I'm different, not less. I don't have the understanding of social skills needed to know how to appear to appease others. And I really wish I did so strangers on the internet would stop telling me I'm abrasive and rude and cold. I don't even know why people think that I'm rude and cold. The people I'm the closest to say I'm not rude or cold. I'm very caring to those who have won my trust. I'm reminded me of how growing up I was sent to social skills classes that gave mixed messages. We were told that being Autistic is just another kind of human. That our brains are just wired a little differently while simultaneously micromanaging every aspect of our personalities. "Your tone is rude, sound softer" "Don't talk too much about your interests" "make eye contact even though it hurts" made the whole "your brain is just wired a bit different" spiel null. It might as well been "We think Autism is bad so mask up and use these skills we're teaching you to appear as allistic as possible because remember kids, Autism is bad and you should hide it!" When strangers call me rude and cold it brings up a lot of trauma. I really just want to be understood and accepted.

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Patrick Ranjan

1 month ago

ENFP
Cancer

4w5

4

5

Wanna talk Enneagram?

I'm 4w5 459 SX/So

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Patrick Ranjan

4 days ago

ENFP
Cancer

4w5

4

5

Wanna learn Enneagram Tri-types or subtypes

I teach Enneagram

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Drake

1 month ago

INFJ
Pisces

2w1

2

1

What enneagram type would you like to date most?
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Andrew

1 month ago

ENTP
Pisces

4w3

4

3

Anyone love using the enneagram for growth?
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Hannah

1 year ago

ESFP
Scorpio

7w6

7

6

Can anybody help?

I'm new here how do I take the Ennagram quiz in here?

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