Some lack self-awareness due t'bein' too focused on others' needs (& you'll see this in a lot of unhealthy Enneagram 2s, 9s, & the countertype Sp instinct 7). People like this were often parentalized/adultified in childhood by their own parent(s). Repressing themselves thus may have been necessary for survival once upon a time, but it ideally becomes a maladaptive strategy one can learn to outgrow in time. . . . Others, akin to infants, may be simultaneously self-absorbed & yet out of touch with who they are. In a lot of such cases, people are just lazy & spoiled, & will figure themselves out in due time--but on the extreme end of this spectrum are e3 narcissists & e7 borderlines, who don't even have a stable identity to know over time (unless/until they heal from their CPTSD enough to constellate/integrate their fragmented psyche over time). [I will add, though, that in cases where there is co-morbid psychopathy &/or where there are machiavellian traits overlayed, there is then, indeed, a fair degree of self-awareness.] Those who know themselves least are most easily triggered, & are liable to unwittingly project; i.e. unconsciously gaslight others into taking the blame for the drama they generate (& if you're a codependent e2, Sp 7, or 9, you're most likely to succumb to tolerating this). . . . And then there are e4s & e8s. These guys aren't confabulating or feigning when they say they know themselves better than anyone. . . . Now then: Once you have self-knowledge, balance also necessitates sometimes compromising your wants to comport yourself to others'. That is, unless you're happy & functional being alone in the long run... And I guess there are a lot of e5s who'd fall into the classification of being Schizoid. Like, they're not necessarily conventionally selfish (like 4s) or defiant (like 8s), but they covet their alone time, & are--out of all Enneatypes--the most content being disconnected from others...for long periods of time. . . . Hm... And then there are 6s. They're the most common type, yet also one of the most complicated. They can pendulum back & forth between being too conformist/patriotic & too neurotically stand-offish (often in alternatingly overly aggressive & passive-aggressive ways). They're kinda like the Tsundere trope in anime. . . . And then 1s...--how t'tie them in... I think, in some ways, like the withdrawn 5s, 1s tend to have a pretty good picture of reality, overall (though 5s have more of an edge in the realm of the sciences, whereas ethics is more the 1's domain). And yet they're outgoing, hyper-productive, & perfectionistic to a fault (when unhealthy)--not to mention militant in their efforts to reform others. My dad has a lot of 1 & 6 in him. It was hard to grow up with a helicopter parent like that. 😵 Ah, & a lot rides on the instinctual variant of the e1 when it comes to self-knowledge. - A Self-preservation 1 tends to master themselves. - A Sexual 1 tends to focus most of their attention & energies on reforming others (& not first plucking the beam out of their own eyes, often). - And I think a Social 1 is somewhat balanced compared to the former two. :d

What are some affirmations you tell yourself as you try to move towards growth and a more healthy mindset?

I think I have pretty balanced wings but I'm not sure which is my dominant wing. I've done a ton of tests and I usually get 5w6 but the 5w4 personally makes sense for me? But I'm still confused on how do you exactly tell apart these wings.

I'm Autistic (and an 8, that's probably also part of this)and I really dislike when people who don't know me call me rude and cold. It makes having casual conversations with strangers on the internet very difficult and stressful. Because I'm not rude or cold, I'm different, not less. I don't have the understanding of social skills needed to know how to appear to appease others. And I really wish I did so strangers on the internet would stop telling me I'm abrasive and rude and cold. I don't even know why people think that I'm rude and cold. The people I'm the closest to say I'm not rude or cold. I'm very caring to those who have won my trust. I'm reminded me of how growing up I was sent to social skills classes that gave mixed messages. We were told that being Autistic is just another kind of human. That our brains are just wired a little differently while simultaneously micromanaging every aspect of our personalities. "Your tone is rude, sound softer" "Don't talk too much about your interests" "make eye contact even though it hurts" made the whole "your brain is just wired a bit different" spiel null. It might as well been "We think Autism is bad so mask up and use these skills we're teaching you to appear as allistic as possible because remember kids, Autism is bad and you should hide it!" When strangers call me rude and cold it brings up a lot of trauma. I really just want to be understood and accepted.

I'm 4w5 459 SX/So

I teach Enneagram

I'm ENFP 459 4w5 5w4 9w8 SX/SO I'm looking for a INTJ or INFJ 952 9wX 5w4 2w3 SP/SX Female. I could teach you Enneagram Here's a picture of the different types being unhealthy.

I'm new here how do I take the Ennagram quiz in here?

Why do you use enneagram? Have you found it accurate for self-development? Jungian model seems superior. Some say they’re complimentary. Can you prove me otherwise?

I need a 9w8 or 2w3 intj or infj self-preservation sexual.. TRI type 259. (I'm ENFP 4w5 459 sexual social.)