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Amor Fati

1mo

ENFP
Taurus

7w8

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I'm so busy, sometimes I can't respond...

Don't take it personally! This December I have a lot of event preparations so sometime i forget to check texts and notis but I'll definitely reply to your chats at night before sleep... so, happy weekend guys!! cheers 😊🥂

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Hannah

1y

ENTJ
Scorpio

3w4

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Can anybody help?

I'm new here how do I take the Ennagram quiz in here?

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Andrew

6mo

ENTP
Pisces

4w3

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3

The test on this app is far too simple and way off.

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Ray

7mo

INTP
Cancer

6w7

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A balanced life requires self-knowledge.

Some lack self-awareness due t'bein' too focused on others' needs (& you'll see this in a lot of unhealthy Enneagram 2s, 9s, & the countertype Sp instinct 7). People like this were often parentalized/adultified in childhood by their own parent(s). Repressing themselves thus may have been necessary for survival once upon a time, but it ideally becomes a maladaptive strategy one can learn to outgrow in time. . . . Others, akin to infants, may be simultaneously self-absorbed & yet out of touch with who they are. In a lot of such cases, people are just lazy & spoiled, & will figure themselves out in due time--but on the extreme end of this spectrum are e3 narcissists & e7 borderlines, who don't even have a stable identity to know over time (unless/until they heal from their CPTSD enough to constellate/integrate their fragmented psyche over time). [I will add, though, that in cases where there is co-morbid psychopathy &/or where there are machiavellian traits overlayed, there is then, indeed, a fair degree of self-awareness.] Those who know themselves least are most easily triggered, & are liable to unwittingly project; i.e. unconsciously gaslight others into taking the blame for the drama they generate (& if you're a codependent e2, Sp 7, or 9, you're most likely to succumb to tolerating this). . . . And then there are e4s & e8s. These guys aren't confabulating or feigning when they say they know themselves better than anyone. . . . Now then: Once you have self-knowledge, balance also necessitates sometimes compromising your wants to comport yourself to others'. That is, unless you're happy & functional being alone in the long run... And I guess there are a lot of e5s who'd fall into the classification of being Schizoid. Like, they're not necessarily conventionally selfish (like 4s) or defiant (like 8s), but they covet their alone time, & are--out of all Enneatypes--the most content being disconnected from others...for long periods of time. . . . Hm... And then there are 6s. They're the most common type, yet also one of the most complicated. They can pendulum back & forth between being too conformist/patriotic & too neurotically stand-offish (often in alternatingly overly aggressive & passive-aggressive ways). They're kinda like the Tsundere trope in anime. . . . And then 1s...--how t'tie them in... I think, in some ways, like the withdrawn 5s, 1s tend to have a pretty good picture of reality, overall (though 5s have more of an edge in the realm of the sciences, whereas ethics is more the 1's domain). And yet they're outgoing, hyper-productive, & perfectionistic to a fault (when unhealthy)--not to mention militant in their efforts to reform others. My dad has a lot of 1 & 6 in him. It was hard to grow up with a helicopter parent like that. 😵 Ah, & a lot rides on the instinctual variant of the e1 when it comes to self-knowledge. - A Self-preservation 1 tends to master themselves. - A Sexual 1 tends to focus most of their attention & energies on reforming others (& not first plucking the beam out of their own eyes, often). - And I think a Social 1 is somewhat balanced compared to the former two. :d

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Alina

3mo

ESTJ
Taurus

A good friend

Who want to be friend with me ? i am really friendly and kind person

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Nish

26d

Aquarius

what's your enneagram

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Hannah

3mo

INFJ
Aquarius

5w6

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Wannabe type 4

Did anyone else struggle to accept their enneagram? Having studied, I definitely recognize my true type - 5w6. Textbook intellectual seeking human connections. But when I first looked into it I thought for sure I would have been type 4, because as an INFJ and resident great listener, I always identified very strongly with compassion and authenticity.

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Arine

1y

INTP
Aries

5w4

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4

Quick question

For all you experts, if there be any, I took a few quizzes, right? My most frequent type, overwhelmingly, is 5. But my second and third places are all over the place and are never 4 or 6 so what do I do about the wing situation.

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Shugyla

1mo

INFJ
Gemini

6w7

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Enneagram

I’m getting interested in enneagrams. I’m probably 6w5 or 2w1 according to tests. Still trying to get an idea where I belong :) Please recommend any source/site/channel/blog/podcast on this topic. Thanks ☺️

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Mari

23d

INTJ
Virgo

8w7

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My enneagram keeps on changing every time I take the test. Does it happen to you as well?

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Drake

7mo

INFJ
Pisces

2w1

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1

What enneagram type would you like to date most?

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Cindy

1mo

INFJ
Aquarius

2w3

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3

Typing others

I realized that a supposed 4w3 friend is most likely a 7w6 so/sp (very very diff ik) Any tips for avoiding these mistakes?

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Jay

11mo

ENTJ
Capricorn

5w6

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What is an enneagram?

A lot of people talk about this but what is it actually?

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Samuel

3mo

ISTJ
Aquarius

1w2

1

2

Accurate

I’m a little shocked that they can be pretty accurate

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Elsa

6mo

INFJ
Cancer

5w4

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5w4 or 5w6

I think I have pretty balanced wings but I'm not sure which is my dominant wing. I've done a ton of tests and I usually get 5w6 but the 5w4 personally makes sense for me? But I'm still confused on how do you exactly tell apart these wings.

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