I disagree with that statement, if a man comes into your life, it's because he thought you were worth it, not because he wanted to be remolded into your idea of what he should be, love him for everything that he is already.

This needs to be said on both parts of the relationship, because you can't have one side's commitment while the other isn't.

I had a first date friday night, first time in many years. In the 3 days leading up to it, I cleaned my entire apartment top to bottom, changed my sheets, had a haircut, and generally made the entire place perfect, even knowing full well she wasn't coming home with me. Sometimes the possibility is all it takes for a man to get his backside into gear.

If the connection is there and she's worth the effort and changes you need to make to co-exist.. and she is also willing and wants to do the same.. then there's rarely an obstacle that's too tough to overcome. I feel like people just give up way too easy and expect some fairytale caricature of a relationship that doesn't really exist. At the end of the day.. if you feel the pull, the worldview roughly lines up and you're willing to continue to put in the work, then it will last.

I think we all hope it turns out that way

That's not how me all psychology works a man will come into a woman's life and at first we will test the waters and see if there's any compatibility between us if there's chance of compatibility then we will introduce ourselves and it goes on from there