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After the end of 2021 I went through a very tough time up until this month. I can honestly say I'm a completely different person now and unrecognizable to whomever may have known me in the past. I'm going to share a couple of things on how I get through my day to day life and maybe someone might read this and it might help them in some sort of way. So in the past I was very inconsistent and undisciplined I had a lot of dreams and a lot of great ideas and all that stuff and I never acted on anything or I would start something and never finish it. Fast forward to today I've been able to make myself extremely consistent with pretty much everything I do everyday isn't perfect but I tried to get at least 1 to 15% better every day and it seems to work out most times and sometimes it's doesn't but that's ok I just try again tomorrow the key is to never quit So let's get this started So I didn't like my weight and being in my early 30s I realize that I couldn't eat just whatever I wanted anymore so I started counting my calories and managing what I ate I also quit the fast food it's very rare that I eat it now and if I do go to fast food restaurant I'll usually just get a chicken sandwich and a salad. Which isn't very often. I also started doing intermittent fasting and which I started doing clean fasts every single day for 16 hours and I gradually increased it to 20 hours Monday through Friday and 1 36hour fast a week over the weekends overall it hasn't given me a tremendous amount of weight loss but if you look at the science behind it the data shows it can make you a much healthier person overall when done correctly. So taking control of my health and weight ✅ Next let's talk about exercise✅ So I've always had trouble with my weight and I would go through phases throughout my life sometimes I was really overweight sometimes I was in the middle and other times I was in shape well like I mentioned earlier I went through a very difficult time which I'm still recovering from but it's not really a factor anymore I gained a bunch of weight again and I was still going to the gym consistently but there were other factors like diet. So in addition to watching my calories now and incorporating intermittent fasting I now train like this 3 X a week Weight lifting (Compound workouts) Wednesday, Friday, Saturday 2 X a week Muay Thai and Brazilian jiu-jitsu Tuesday, Thursday 2 X a week walking (10 miles) with light to moderate calisthenics Sunday, Monday My profession ✅ If you take time to read my profile you'll see that I work in cybersecurity and that I also do hacking these two things are very close to my heart and I don't say it just to say it nor do I say it for attention this is truly what I love and I deeply enjoy it I used to be a gamer but now this has replaced that and it makes me money and it applies to the real world which is why I sacrificed gaming for hacking So I'm always working with virtual Labs because I want to stay sharp and I want to be really good at what I do I also try to listen to lectures and watch a video tutorials because I want to be the best at this and I'm training as if someone's trying to take it all away from me And if anyone ever wants to team up on hack the Box or try hack me please send me a message and we can set something up because I need to start meeting people with similar skill sets so I can get better and so I can help them get better THE CONCLUSION ✅ So anyways why did I share all of this I shared all of this because I realized in order to make all the anxiety and depression go away you need to take control of your life when you're able to finally take control of your life you can then find your purpose and when you find your purpose regardless of the things that didn't happen that you wish would have happened/things that can't be fixed or changed it starts to matter less and less because you have control within your life and you're able to work towards something that makes you happy something that you're passionate about and something you can be great at That's why I chose to break my life into sections because that's how I started to retake control There's one part I left out which is relationships this is something I'm still actively working towards but I've realized that I need to be single for a while and I shouldn't try to rush things and I shouldn't let things bother me because the person that I thought was for me is no longer in my life and I see other people in relationships and I see myself by myself getting older without anybody this is something that's been very difficult for me to change but in order to get the ball rolling you need to start with baby steps so while I did come on this application with the intention of finding somebody I also accept the fact that that may or may not happen not just on this application but on any application I also realized that I might not meet anyone in person either so what I can do in the meantime is work with the things that I can control and the things that are within my control I listed earlier in this post and for the most part I do pretty well at maintaining control of my health my weight my training and my professional interests So fix and change the things that you can take control over and take it day by day and you will realize that life will slowly get better I did not feel better in a week or in a month it took a little bit of time but it did get better so if it got better for me it can get better for you too and that's why I chose to share this today The end ✅