Autonomy Community

Control rarely looks like control at the start

Gaslighting: making you doubt your own judgment so you rely on theirs instead. Some people use help as an entry point. Then it shifts: access → expectation → control Red flags: • inserting themselves without invitation • interpreting you instead of asking • repeated boundary pushing •... read more

.. 💎 for the curious..

"Adulting" .. isn't just about simply having the ability to pay the bills, material possessions, bodily autonomy, etc. 🪷 It means you should also nurture Emotional intelligence, genuine connection with another soul, etc.- time to BE ReaL,, especially with YOURSELF 🌵 🕺 💃 🌵

This is a time where we need solidarity

Where most of us are which is why mutual aid feels impossible; **Just scraping by barely enough to help myself ,but not struggling quite enough to publicly admit I need help** The secondary reality is very much understanding there is a huge subset that are not even doing well enough to scrape... read more

Self-Aware 2s?

Okay, so I only recently discovered that I'm a type 2 in the Enneagram after years of not thinking it would be possible. The way I discovered it was through triads and a few hours of talking between my ESFP 8w7 friend who I've known for years. He helped me realize I am heavy in the Rejection Triad,... (edited) read more

Autonomy shifts

I think the classiest revenge in the world is never letting someone have access to you again.

Loss

In case anyone was curious as to my disinterest in a relationship? Well, here it is. It's a vent post too. I was in a nearly three year long relationship. The majority of which was long distance. We were opposites in lots of ways. She was very religious, I was not. She was celibate, I was not. She... read more