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Rick

Posted Friday, November 24, 2023

ENTP

When Should Kinks Be Discussed?

In a new relationship, how soon do you think it's important to discuss your kinks with the potential partner? Not meaning go into graphic detail, or the whole list with all of their limits, but the primary "must haves" that the other person is seeking? If you would please put gender, role and what you picked in the comments, that would be great (reason would be cool too). I doubt the results would surprise me, but I'd like to know for sure. (edited)

As soon as possible

When things get serious

I don't care

Once we decide to "commit"

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Joel

INTP

Ugh, it's... complicated. I personally think they should be discussed earlier than what's considered socially acceptable right now. When you bring those up, many women are like "oh, so you're a pervert and that's all you care about!". But I've had enough of relationships where sexual compatibility doesn't work out after you've already invested months getting to like each other in other aspects 😬

Seth

INTP

Leo

Discuss them as soon as possible. It opens many doors and increases attractiveness for both of you. Just remember to keep an open mind and always let the woman tell hers first. (edited)

Suza

ISFP

Gemini

Knowing someone has kinks is as important as knowing they wanna have kids or not, wanna ever get married or not. It's core relationship foundation stuff.

KittyKatPrincess

INFP

Virgo

Female, Little/sub looking for 24/7 DDlg/D/s relationship. I don't waste time anymore and bring it up right away. There's no reason to get into small talk, find things in common and get your hopes up only to have someone freak out and ghost you. It hurts and it gets REALLY old. I decided to even update my profile stating I'm a Little/Sub. (You can see on here) I'm sick of trying to explain to everyone that doesn't "know" anything about this lifestyle. Last relationship he was vanilla and I explained and tried to teach. He loved being a Daddy at first, but then changed his mind. I was devastated . We were engaged and broke up only because he didn't want this lifestyle. We left each other still in love😢💔It was horrible. I will only go with someone that has experience and that means experience with a Little also, not just a D/s relationship. That makes it truly harder to find someone. Been looking for YEARS. Anyways, it's all or nothing for me anymore. I think I will give it one more year of looking and I will just hide all of this like I have before 😞. I am 47 and I want to "share" my life with someone and get married someday and I will never even have that waiting forever. I think 6+ years is long enough especially for my age😞

Nathaniel

INTP

Virgo

I put once we decide to commit. As far as roles are concerned I'm non binary so I'm flexible but lean more towards feminine.

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