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Posted Tuesday, September 10, 2024
2mo
ISFJ
Aquarius
Blaming people as a group doesn't help.
You probably hear it so often: "If guys only did this..." or "Man, why do girls do this..." and each time you hear them say that it probably seems like the gap is getting impossibly wide. Like you'll never find someone to love or find a relationship that's right for you. Blaming doesn't work, it just shifts the responsibility. Instead of trying to shrug the burden ask yourself something: "Am I doing all I can?" What are you putting out? Are you taking care of yourself? Do you genuinely express interest in the other person? Are you really looking in the right places? Look, it's not foolproof and I fail constantly at it. I'll be the first on this post to admit it, I've SUCKED at this. That being said, the responsibility to get your house and your space in order is no one but your own. I'm getting tired of being pitted against the people we should be more dutiful and respectful to, and that goes on both sides. We all have to do better. Sorry for the rant, just thinking out loud. Much love y'all, take care of yourselves.
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Rob
2mo
ESTJ
Taurus
Good post, It's far too easy to generalize and blame these days, especially after we all isolated for COVID. Get out in the world, experience men/women/people who aren't terminally online. Nobody has anything figured out, social sciences aren't a hard science because there is no answer, humanity isn't an equation that can be solved.
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Nat
2mo
INTP
Capricorn
You're not wrong though. Generalisations can hurt just as well, even if you know your not the problem. The Generalisations about women I get aren't anywhere near what I'm actually like but it does make me feel like I HAVE to be like that, even if it's bad. Being blamed for being in toxic/DV or just straight up bad relationships is also harmful (for both sexes) because it's "you shouldve known better", "you did it to yourself " etc etc. I've learnt from my mistakes, so now I have high standards.... I got told to lower them or I'll be alone forever 🤷♀️ cant win 🫡 But yea anyway, everyone thinks that someone else is always the problem, that's why we all have problems about this 🥹
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Michele
2mo
INTJ
Virgo
I never understood one simple thing, it’s ok to say don’t generalize however if you know you aren’t like that, shouldn’t you be confident enough not to take that on personal level? Like if a woman says “all men are pig” but you know you aren’t, shouldn’t you just laugh because it’s not what you are? I’m wondering, don’t want to start a debate 🤣 (edited)
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