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Posted Wednesday, December 6, 2023

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They don't keep hurting you, you keep hurting yourself...

You are still hurting from the last relationship because you still refuse to take accountability for your choices that caused it to happen, so you carry the trauma rather than get help & get healed from it. So now you keep attracting the same type of people who end up hurting you the same way, because you didn't heal & grow from the last one before jumping into the next one. It really isn't them. It really is you!

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2mo

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I guess you're right at a lot of points AND situations are still more complex than that.

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2mo

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Name one example that is "more complex"? Or do people just like making excuses for what they don't want to admit is their own fault?

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@Deactivated I really don't think that you're willing to know/read about "more complex situations" and opinions. You "sounded" like your opinion written in here it's all the only true and end of story.

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@Let Translation: "I don't have an example to give you, so I'm just going to accuse you of not wanting to hear them, even though you clearly just asked for an example." Next time just say that.

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@Deactivated I'll try to explain my point of view. All relationship is relationally and mutual about two people, so blame, guilt, accountability also is for the two people or more - based on the kind of relationship they have. Not everything is a pattern of our unrealed traumas I think. The other person also has their part on that. If it's all your fault so was not a two sided relationship. I hope I could make myself clear, but I don't expect you to agree with me.

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@Let oh wow. You totally, completely missed the point & rather than admit that, you went off on a tangent that has zero to do with what I actually said. Alrighty then, take care kiddo.

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@Deactivated oh God, I understood very well what you wrote mate. I even said you're right about your opinion AND I added one more just to think about the complexity of relationships and people. As I already though, since your first reply you sound as someone that can't take another's opinions, but ok... Thank you for the kiddo haha. I felt young.

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@Let See that is the part you don't seem to get & from your reply I can tell you're far too self righteous to admit: had you understood what I ACTUALLY said & not what you ASSumed I said, then your reply does not make sense. The only way your reply makes any sense at all is IF you you misinterpretated what I ACTUALLY said & CHOSE to reply based on YOUR misinterpretation. PLEASE stop deflecting blame onto others just because you're not willing to admit your own ignorance!

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@Deactivated calm down. Okay, if you want I assume my ignorance I can. You're all right man. Keep going this way. Much love 😘

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