Guilt Community

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You're in a relationship with someone, for 8 years and you know you love him all this time, you feel grateful for meeting him, you feel like he's the 'home' you yearn for. But when it's done, you feel like it's not a big deal. Just occasional sadness or some guilt. No attachment, no remorse for… read more

Have you found ways that have made any of these things easier? (or add your own if you have something helpful to share)

The way I deal with: A. Social situations 1. fear of being judged 2. silence in a conversation feeling awkward 3. feeling like the odd one out in a group 4. being interrupted or talked over 5. meeting people when I have no social energy 6. fear of being seen as boring or unexciting 7. being… (edited) read more

Loss always comes with guilt, as though we are the ones to blame.

I Get way Too Excited About

Deepfried street food, Rainy days and ice-cream, Refurbished cheap books, Cheap street sea food. I get way too excited unable to move, or breathe, just panic in silence. Hope you understand why I was An agoraphobe. I got way too excited seeing... Young couples holding hands, Women who look like… read more

Honesty

Sometimes telling truth and being honest can bring more harm than good. Some things are better left unsaid. If guilt eats you up then I suggest you pray about it and ask for His forgiveness. Remember that the enemy robs you of your joy. Moving forward, be better.

Daily hypothetical

If guilt could be turned into a physical object you had to carry, what would yours look like, and where would you hide it? My answer Mine would look like a cracked porcelain mask, almost beautiful, but sharp in all the wrong places. I'd keep it tucked in a drawer I never open, though I’d always… read more

Debbie downers

I've learned that I'm heavily influenced by others attitudes and moods, from who i allow in to my life. When everything said is met with a negative response, and attitude, it affects my mood. I used to try to uplift said people, but that was draining work. So now i just choose not to expend and… read more

✨️Unwanted Advice✨️

If someone's availability affects your mood that much, the solution isn't to punish them for having a life outside of you. Silent treatment, passive-aggressive comments, guilt trips, and creating distance just because someone isn't constantly available won't make them want to be closer to you. It… read more

Rant/Vent

Crying out loud tonight. The guilt of knowing I wanted to do something, yet couldn't do anything in time, is hitting me so hard. I keep replaying the "what ifs" in my head. What if I noticed earlier, What if I checked a bit sooner, What if the situation was different, Would you still be… (edited) read more

Why We Binge on Connection?

When we lack connection, our brains enter a scarcity mindset which makes us over consume social interaction once it’s available. We lose ourselves in dopamine loops while chasing intimacy until reality hits. That post chat guilt isn't just about lost time. It’s the realization that we’ve traded… read more

The Weight of Goodbye💔

To those who read this… which hurts more: being the one who walks away or being the one left behind? 💔 Walking away carries the burden of guilt, the silent war between knowing what’s right and feeling what’s lost. But being left behind holds its own storm,the kind that whispers questions with no… read more

The guilt that never quits

Short version: my mother’s neglectful parenting was overshadowed by my father’s active psychosis, so I greatly overestimated her ability to be a grandparent I tried so hard to get my mother to come with me on my healing journey. I told her I wanted a life of stability and peace and that I wanted… read more

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The calendar turns, but I remain still, A silent spectator to the ticking of time, Drowning in ambition I can’t seem to fill, Watching my heavy youth slip past its prime. Another day closes, another sun sinks, Leaving the bitter, sharp taste of regret; While the world charges forward, my spirit… read more

Self-reflection

I have a hard time feeling close to people. It’s not a lack of empathy, but maybe more like a lingering trauma response. I had a tough life when I was young and it just didn’t set me up for developing close relationships. But I always wanted to have some kind of wonderful romance with someone. I… (edited) read more

Advice maybe? Or even just your opinion. (I reserve the right to retaliate if you're rude 🥲)

I'm currently talking with two girls. It wasn't what I intended, but here we are.. Honestly at this point it's probably going to be neither.. 1 Started talking to me after I felt like I missed an opportunity with a girl I saw again around Christmas, a family friend. She broke up with her bf, I… read more

Sometimes people paint you as the "bad person" so they can dodge the guilt for how dirty they treated you. Since it's easier for them to shift the blame than to face their own mistakes.

--- And if you're struggling with that situation right now, I am really sorry you have to go through it.

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"I hope a time comes when I can open my heart again and welcome someone new without this guilt." Becareful rainy in here⛈️

Type

I feel a lot of guilt about even thinking that tall people are my type.

Crime & Punishment 🥀

Apparently, I just survived 600 pages of guilt, suffering and questionable life choices.

I had a deep conversation with a man about having children. He asked for my honest opinion, and I answered openly. He kept asking questions, and I explained my thoughts in detail...

I explained to him that I believe people should only have children when they are truly ready in every aspect physically, mentally, financially, emotionally, and environmentally. Physical readiness, to me, is not just about being healthy, but also about considering serious inherited diseases or… read more

Nolan's "The Odyssey"

Date-wise? Have at it, flock there, give it an excuse to sit in a dark theatre and make out, because it's basically Matt Damon woodenly walking across your screen dealing with Odysseus' guilt for 3 hours. Everyone around him out-acted him. The color pallet was millennial grey. The Gods weren't… read more

Distract and Impose External Frameworks

Architecture behind the box stage 2 This approach played a key role in the partitioning of the Middle East following the world war. Once a society is divided, it becomes easy to control—provided its attention is diverted from its own internal problems toward artificial "rules of the… read more

I wish I knew how to quit you

You were a cautionary tale That if you want your orange peeled You have to go to the market to buy one Or pick it up off a branch or grow it yourself You were an orange I left on the counter for weeks Day by day Slipping gaze beneath the marble countertop Almost making sure you’re still in… (edited) read more

Let them…

Let people misunderstand you. Let them question your intentions. Let them gossip. Let them create their own version of reality-but never let it affect you. We waste so much energy trying to change others' opinions of us, constantly replaying the guilt of not being liked. But the truth is, none of… read more

Excuses

This isn’t advice so much as perhaps a basic observation of how people’s thinking shifts at some point in their lives. It’s not always when you get older, not always when you’ve been well-educated, or experienced, or any one thing. At a point in life, people realize that they don’t really need to… read more

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Avoid people who don't take responsibility for their own actions Certain people will never concede a wrong action since that would require putting their ego to the percieve back and not sacrificing their connection. They all talk about avoiding accountability, projecting guilt and trying to… read more

New Scam Just Dropped: The Guilt-Trip Trap

Stay safe out there! Small talk turning into instant trauma dumping is becoming a trend. Here is a quick example of how to shut down guilt trips cleanly without being mean. The Exit Template: 1. Acknowledge their situation, don't dismiss it. We're all human and we all have struggles, there's no… read more

Forgive yourself for the things you did in survival mode

If you’re carrying guilt from decisions you made while you were in survival mode, let it go. That wasn’t the real you — that was the hurting you. Show yourself the same compassion you keep giving everybody else. You’re growing, and that’s what matters.

Healing

I find it hard to let my mind settle after losing my dad. Maybe I don't want to face it because you don't get to feel anything as you are dealing with funeral arrangements and people contacting you. You just move on autopilot for a long while. You don't want to show your true grief or sadness in… (edited) read more

Guilt by association

When society judge/label you based on the people you associated with... So unfair..😣

No matter how long I waited for you

No Matter How Long I Waited for You No matter how long I waited for you, my heart never grew tired. The passing seasons could not wear away my hope, nor could silence convince me to give up. Time simply became another companion, walking beside me until the day our paths finally crossed. And when… read more

“Rough Hands, Gentle Memories”

I remember the girl I used to be— soft hands, soft dreams, a heart that startled at the dark. But somewhere along the road I learned how silence grows inside a person, how a soul can crack quietly, piece by piece, until the echoes of who you were sound like someone else’s memory. I stopped fearing… read more

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I made a previous post about stresses in life including my cat needing surgery. A week after said surgery, I was told she had cancer. Five days later, my baby girl passed away early in the morning laying next to me. All I could do was talk her through it. I am heartbroken still and full of guilt… read more

Changing others wears you out. Controlling the distance? That's real wisdom.

"Mountains and rivers may change, but human nature stays the same." People often try in vain. Trying to explain to someone who doesn't want to understand. Trying to persuade someone who has already decided not to listen. Trying to pull someone who chooses to stand still. Then exhaustion. Then… (edited) read more

Choosing yourself means honoring your boundaries, prioritizing your well-being, and protecting your peace without guilt

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Having healthy energy for ourselves. 1. We don't need to chase validation from others. (You know your self-worth isn't determined by praise and recognition from others.) 2. We must have the courage to say no (maintaining boundaries doesn't mean being mean, but rather a form of self-respect and our… read more

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Having healthy energy for ourselves. 1. We don't need to chase validation from others. (You know your self-worth isn't determined by praise and recognition from others.) 2. We must have the courage to say no (maintaining boundaries doesn't mean being mean, but rather a form of self-respect and our… read more

Essential grief

A friend reminded me of grief today. Many years now I struggled with the loss of loved ones and the push from others to "move on". Wrestling with guilt as I try to do so. It feels like I betray my lost love by being happy here and now, when I know that they are not. I want to fix them and the… read more