I don't really like guys who tell me they like me (romantically) when I've only known them for a short time. They tell me they like me and that I'm a good person, but I haven't even shown them my true self yet (not that I'm fake, I just have layers to my personality) It feels like they have an idealized version of me on their head and I don't like it

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Shane

INTP

Capricorn

Perhaps just meeting someone would be better for you then. Can't really get to know someone digitally

Brando

ENFP

Libra

Yh icl most the people that say that are thirsty as hell or desperate. Needs to be at least a decent time period before u can go onto topics like that

Jay

ENFP

Cancer

Nope. Totally a normal reaction. Romantically It doesn't work with just a few days especially online. Atleast for me.

Keith

INTJ

Scorpio

To be frank, most people have an idealized version of someone they first meet. Whether its good or bad, they will exaggerate the fee bit of characteristics you show them until later when they broaden their knowledge of who you are. Dont take it so personally, its a natural habit.

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Sanju

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There's a difference between not telling, hiding and faking.. Also show your true self to those who you are interested in, I think if you like someone and if they tell you that they like you ,aren't you supposed to be happy?

🔮Dani🫀

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CJ I totally get you. Anytime I get an overload of compliments from guys and they tell me just how much they like me this is all I hear "sweet talker, smooth criminal, ingenuine". When really I just need to take a chill pill and accept the ego boost. Take it with a grain of salt. People's actions speak louder to me.

Audrey

INTJ

Capricorn

You are not strange. I explain to them, I don't know you well enough to have deep feelings. For me, love can't be rushed. If they truly feel that way, prove it.

Petar

INFJ

Pisces

You probably don't like them in that way, and that's okay. Go for the next and be patient, continue to put effort into getting to know someone, analyze, see if there is compatibility and eventually you will find someone you will like and time won't matter at all.

Michael Bland

INFJ

Pisces

Not at all... And you are probably correct. But maybe they're just saying they like what they do know about you and think you're a good person based on what you've shown them. Always be your true self and that'll never be a problem 🙃

Angel

INFJ

Scorpio

What you explained seems completely reasonable and absolutely notmal.

DivineZ

ENFJ

Sagittarius

Well boys have to find a starter and add sweet to get your attention and stick to it I guess

Indra (he/him)

INFP

Cancer

You are not strange, everyone are different after all 😌 Just tell them that you are that kind of person and see if they will still consistent for 1 year, if they are still consistent then I guess what they feel is true ☺️

Avy

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Capricorn

You’re not strange and I think most feels the same way in one way or another. Physical attraction could be understandable since that’s what they see first. But in terms romantically, I doubt. I think those things take time

Christopher

ENFP

Sagittarius

You won't know someone deeply until you spend time around them in a way that only a relationship would allow for. Everyone has an idealized version of someone in the beginning until they really, really get to know them. So yes, they have an idealized version of you, and that's normal. Even being friends for a long time won't allow you to know someone as intimately as a relationship would.

Michael

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Pisces

It sounds like you love who you love. You think too much about it, and no it's not strange, just compared to someone else you think about those situations 3x as much.

Faheem

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Leo

Its so hard to undrstand a women, 🤦‍♂️

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Perhaps just meeting someone would be better for you then. Can't really get to know someone digitally

Yh icl most the people that say that are thirsty as hell or desperate. Needs to be at least a decent time period before u can go onto topics like that

Nope. Totally a normal reaction. Romantically It doesn't work with just a few days especially online. Atleast for me.

To be frank, most people have an idealized version of someone they first meet. Whether its good or bad, they will exaggerate the fee bit of characteristics you show them until later when they broaden their knowledge of who you are. Dont take it so personally, its a natural habit.

There's a difference between not telling, hiding and faking.. Also show your true self to those who you are interested in, I think if you like someone and if they tell you that they like you ,aren't you supposed to be happy?

You are not strange. I explain to them, I don't know you well enough to have deep feelings. For me, love can't be rushed. If they truly feel that way, prove it.

You probably don't like them in that way, and that's okay. Go for the next and be patient, continue to put effort into getting to know someone, analyze, see if there is compatibility and eventually you will find someone you will like and time won't matter at all.

Not at all... And you are probably correct. But maybe they're just saying they like what they do know about you and think you're a good person based on what you've shown them. Always be your true self and that'll never be a problem 🙃

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You’re not strange and I think most feels the same way in one way or another. Physical attraction could be understandable since that’s what they see first. But in terms romantically, I doubt. I think those things take time

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Its so hard to undrstand a women, 🤦‍♂️

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