Alexandre

Posted Sunday, January 23, 2022

2y

INTP

5

4

How did you develop your anxious attachment style?

Personally, I've never been loved outside of my family. As a kid, I was too often criticized for being too quiet. And being constantly "unproductive" because I enjoyed video-games. My own mom (an ISFP) expected me to turn into a stereotypical ESTP. She forced me to do stuff I didn't like and got mad when it was clear I didn't like it. She has her own insecurities. And it's now clear she just wanted to use me as a trophy to brag to other parents. She later started to date a guy who would become my step-father. It was her worst decision. We were poor and if I was hungry, he'd explain it was my fault if my mom was struggling. It was because I tried to survive and ate whenever I could. In other words, he would have been satisfied to find my suicide note or something. Not that I was a bad kid. I was a very peaceful and curious kid minding his own business. But for reasons I fail to understand, that wasn't enough. Anyway, that's a lot of information. Sometimes, we just need to talk and not everyone can turn to someone in particular. So feel free to share your experience. (edited)