Attachment Community

One of my favourite new hobbies is to be blocked by Avoidant women (who have avoidant attachment)

It keeps happening and it seems I always get blocked even if I don't say anything. 😂😂 Attachment styles gave me a new eye, a new way of seeing things and now it is predictable. I know well how everything will end. 😆

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the fastest way to lose feeling or attachment is indeed ✨feeling disgusted✨

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You're in a relationship with someone, for 8 years and you know you love him all this time, you feel grateful for meeting him, you feel like he's the 'home' you yearn for. But when it's done, you feel like it's not a big deal. Just occasional sadness or some guilt. No attachment, no remorse for… read more

Sometimes I feel like.. Human attachment are injurious to health..

A Little Reminder from a Collared Dove: You Are Never Alone 🕊️🌿

Today, I was sitting in the garden, thinking about how I am in Spain now and how, somehow, life keeps sending me from one place to another. And there I was, feeling a little trapped in a labyrinth of thoughts, caught in the idea that I have to leave again. Every time I find myself somewhere, I… read more

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Do you believe that a person can fall Inlove with someone within a week? 🤔 or is it just the attachment speaking

Lalleshwari - Lal Ded

Hukus Bukus Teli Wan Cze Kus - Who are you, and who am I? Then tell us, who is He [the Creator]? Moh Batuk Logum Deg -Each day I feed my body with worldly attachment and material love (Moh) Shwas Khichh Khichh Wang-mayam -As the breath I take in reaches complete purification Bhruman… (edited) read more

All locals are Dismissive or Fearful Avoidant, what do I do?

Every single local woman I ever find on dating apps is always a dismissive avoidant or disorganised avoidant who can't get my needs met. This is my experience from here and I'm simply unable to find anyone with a secure attachment or anxious attachment who actually wants me and is able to meet my… read more

OMG

Opening my heart to love and attachment is the scariest thing for me right now.

Thoughts?

From experience, I think that the key to dating is to enter with low expectations and get pleasantly surprised if someone exceeds them, removes the attachment to outcome, and invites more presence and authentic connection when it happens 🙏

Shifting Spirituality

I'm normally an atheist, agnostic person who likes Buddhism and Spirituality. When good things happen like I am on the path of healing, becoming more aware, on the journey of doing self work, growing, learning, then I'm spiritual. When bad things or bad events happen I shift back to atheistic… (edited) read more

My story "New Chapter of Life" Let's start a new chapter of life today, and its name is NOW IT IS MY TURN.... No attachment to anyone, no expectations from anyone, no excuses for right or wrong, no relationships with selfish people, no lies, no pretense, no trust in anyone! Now I have to live o

True masculine strength

In relationship psychology, there is a fundamental truth: A psychologically secure and emotionally mature man will never feel threatened by a woman’s financial independence, hard work, or personal success. When a man possesses high self-actualization and a secure attachment style, his partner’s… read more

Someone asked me how I define friendship, because I said I’ve never truly had one...

Why wasn’t friendship just as meaningful as a romantic relationship, or even greater, when it was two people choosing each other every single day without the glue of desire, obligation, or permanence, not held together by bodies, contracts, money, children, or shared property, but by a quiet and… read more

It's hard to tell whether this is love, or an attachment or maybe anxiety.

Yeahhh I'm lost on that

Thought of the day 🤔

Psychology says people often stay in relationships not because they are happy, but because they are emotionally attached or afraid to start over. Sometimes love feels real… but it may actually be habit, comfort, or fear of loneliness. 💬 Honest question: How do you know the difference between… read more

Dear avoidants,

What is it that your love interest needs to do in order for you to feel safe enough to lower your guard and make you want to commit? Which attachment style are you attracted to and why?

Movies

I watched this movie recently I’m a hardcore horror fan Mmmm it was good? Kind of 🤔 More funny than scary Anxious attachment vibes 😂 Bear was frustrating

Suffering

I thought today's question was interesting, so thought I'd do some reflecting on what it means to me. 2 years of therapy after my divorce has taught me a lot of things. I suffered a lot through 10 years of my life trying to get a relationship to work with a woman who never would admit she wanted… read more

Never lower your standards just because you’re lonely 🫵

Don’t mistake attention for love. Don’t treat breadcrumbs like a feast just because you’ve been starving for affection. I’ve been there. I lowered my standards, forgot my own boundaries, and even chased someone who wasn’t meeting me emotionally—just because I thought he was the one. I idolized… read more

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Let me guess. He texted you every day. Called you late at night. Made you feel like you mattered. He treated you like a girlfriend… until it was time to actually be one. Then suddenly he was “not ready.” “Confused.” “Needed time.” And now you’re sitting there replaying everything, wondering… read more

The disconnect between Anxious and Avoidant

I occasionally see shade thrown at people who have avoidant tendencies, usually by those who have anxious attachment tendencies. So allow me to put some words to it in hopes of promoting more understanding. Avoidant attachment doesn’t mean someone is bad at relationships or doesn’t want them, it… read more

Is it LOVE or just ATTACHMENT?

Limerence

Learning that the feeling I thought was love is not is kinda a bit of a trip if I must say... Even more fascinating learning how it can relate to our inner child and our learned attachment styles is super interesting!! (edited)

My Boo love

So I haven't been as active on here as I used to be prior to middle of last year because of work, my kid, boyfriend, other things in life. But today I'm posting because I've been dating my boyfriend for a year (who I met from this Boo app), and I'm grateful that this app was able to match and… (edited) read more

Bobbisox!

Bobbisox is doing some self improvement right meow. What's your attachment style?

I was trying to get a profound insight...

On the saying: "where you feel uncomfortable is where growth starts." Because getting out of your comfort zone is a big deal when it comes to that. And what I got was : not all discomfort is growth. Some discomfort are from imbalance, avoidance, or unhealthy attachments. Growth is uncomfortable… read more

Anxious attachment

I've been dealing with anxious attachment issues my whole life. The worst is when I'm trying to be romantic, constantly minimizing my needs and trying to put the other person on a pedestal out of fear they'll leave. Asking for reassurance and check ins feels like cutting wires on a time bomb. I… read more

Attachment is the silent architect of much of our pain. When we cling to people, things, or outcomes, we give them the power to break us when they change or leave.

Instead of women ovulating, men should

I believe that men should only get the chance be pregnant and stopped obviating after getting pregnant for 9 months. I've only you, if men had more hormonal attachment, as mothers do to their children, there wouldn't be as much cruelty in this world.

Anyone agree or disagree?

I've been learning more about attachment styles and honestly, this doesn't bother me at all as long as I've figured out what the root is. Let's talk about it.

Attachment Styles

I have been researching attachment styles. I think it’s a good idea for anyone interested in a healthy relationship to know their brand. I would suggest looking into it…. I am also interested is chatting about it! I am Fearful Avoidant. This particular style seems to be more of a spectrum.… read more

Connection, attachment, expectations always hurt.

Sometimes you need to know your place on someone's life because you might get hurt if you expect too much..

Attachment or Love. What are you into

I often feel that many people don’t fully grasp how uncertain life and relationships can be.

It’s not just that people change over time it’s also that some people may already be quietly preparing to leave our lives, waiting for the right moment, while we fail to notice or choose to ignore the warning signs. Those beside you today are not guaranteed to stay tomorrow, no matter how certain… read more