Idealistic Community

I see a lotta "I deserve to be loved and prioritized" posts on here. Meanwhile I'm over here like, "Ehh, y'know what? Maybe I don't. Maybe believing the world owes me a loving partner simply because I exist is self-centered, and idealistic."

Idealistic Sensemaking

The sensible need not be sensable, and therein lies the trouble. - Weick (1995)

Perspective changes as we mature...

When I was 15, I thought my parents were relatively ignorant and that I had it all figured out... At 25, I thought the 15 year old version of me was stupid, and had loads to learn... At 35, I laughed at how "stupid" I was at 25, but looked at that past version of myself with way more… read more

For the idealistic lovers lol

Have u ever fallen in love with someone who isn't even your type simply because of one minor thing which mattered so much, and your previous matches lacked even though they were your type?

Being toxic isn't bad, debate me.

What I've noticed is that everyone on this app is trying to be a kind, good person. With healthy relationship goals. Which is nice... but idealistic. Ask yourself really. What are you really on the app for? When you lied on the bed, late at night, lonely. You want someone to fill that gap.… read more

Better than INT-types?

Hedonistic — pleasure-seeking, pain-avoidance Materialistic — acquisition, ownership, tangible value focus Stochastic — randomness-driven, opportunistic, probabilistic behavior Deterministic — principle/routine-driven, predictability-focused Idealistic — guided by abstract values, visions, or… read more

Is dating actually that hard? #rant

I was told one time that love&relationships are not that hard, people make it seem like rocket science. Call me a delusional, idealistic incurable romantic but I actually believe that love comes easy, if you let it be. Dating comes easy, if you allign yourself with the right person. I know you will… read more

Gifted by the Moon

• Name: Chandrelle • Title: Queen of Alfheim • Race: forest elf • Family: blacksmith and former captain Meldar (father), diplomat Ithilwen (mother), Haroldir, King of Alfheim (husband), Larélis (son), Loki (romantic partner) • Talents & hobbies: painting, diplomacy, archery, marine legends, harp •… read more

Holiday Season

Is there anyone else that loves the holiday season after Halloween because you get to watch the Hallmark movies and get sucked into the fantasy that the kind of romance in those movies actually exists? We all know the plot and how it will end, and even though I know better, I still hold out for… read more

Friends?

Is it too idealistic to hope to find friends on a dating app? Cuz, like, I know it’s called a “dating app” but there’s a friend option. Am I delulu?

Introduce myself

Hi I am Jessica I came here to find cool people and talk and laugh and if I found someone interesting why not? I thought that I’ve found someone but it was not working… it happens I know but I was so clear and I feel as a big trash because I feel that he didn’t feel the same as me and he played… read more

Feeling depressed.

In the theory of life is a simulation what error code would you put for depression? I would have to assume simulations are meant to construe an idealistic and perfect scenario. So mental issues would be deemed errors would they not? My error code would probably be: Error! Subject stress and… read more

I don't want to live just to work

You know what I hate? This whole concept that we have to work jobs that take up all of our time to make just enough money to barely survive. And IF YOU'RE LUCKY, after years and years of blood, sweat, and tears for someone else's benefit, you might get the chance to retire and live the life you… read more

Pursued vs pursuer

I've always struggled with this concept and tbh, it's really made me lose hope in ever finding someone I want to partner with. Maybe that's a bit dramatic, but hear me out. Everyone loves a good chase, either being the one who is being pursued or the one who is doing the pursuing. However, I'm a… read more

Give me your opinion

Is it too idealistic to pursue our passion? (edited)

1am thoughts

My idealistic Happy Place

Idealistic

Whats the ideal trait of the person you desire?

"Just be yourself!"

Something feels off about this phrase. I mean, how can I be myself or which one are they referring to when I am multi-faceted and multi-layered? I have different sides, my personalities/behaviors shifts depends on who I am talking to, on my moods and on the situation I am in. I am idealistic,… (edited) read more

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I usually test as an idealistic dreamy INFJ, but the fiery intense ENTJ description really describes me too 🤔anybody else have results like this??? Signed ♒️☀️& ♈️🌙 👀🔥 (edited)

What is this?

I took one of the simple personality tests to see which Avenger was an INFJ. And the result was Loki. Now I am all for character development, but there are things that Loki does just for attention. I understand that he is idealistic and passionate, which are some key qualities for an INFJ. But He… read more

INFJ, 8w7 🤍

Continue Part 2 ✍️ 🤔 How enneagram type 8w7 impact the natural INFJ ? 🤔 🌻 Rare 🌻 Type 8 as INFJ ✓ Make dominant function (Ni) more powerful 🌻Type 7 as the wing ✓ Add excitement & sense of fun ✓ Give sense of optimism & "can-do" attitude ✓ Still introverted ✓ Need alone time to… read more

What is everyone's idealistic way to die (can make something up or how you actually wanna die lmao)

I wanna die doing what I love or protecting people but the funner answer is I wanna die by flying into a black hole while fist fighting aliens to get my pet dolphin back

Fellow infp's, what aspects of the label do you most and least identify with?

I've taken the test several times over several years and always got infp-t. I've always found that one part of the personality type that didn't fit me was that infp's are almost blindly idealistic and optimistic about things. I'd like to think I'm a glass half full kind of person, but I'm also very… read more

Fondness

The truth about love is that you won’t expect it and you won’t see it coming. And maybe that’s the beauty of it. Love just appears out of the blue and surprises you at every twist and turn. It grabs you out of nowhere and changes you for the better. One day you’ll fall in love and for the first… read more

Hope is overrated

"I hope she likes me back". "I hope true love finds me". "I hope a rich beautiful girl would come knocking at my door while I sit on my phone and scroll without making an iota of effort" Most of us feel unlucky because we hope for such things. Things where you just totally let pure chance take… read more

Hope

For you I wished so much As if I dreamt you into the air Kind eyes and a loving heart With an adventurous spirit Wise beyond your years A better version of me We were lying in the grass Looking at the clouds I saw all of my aspirations in your eyes Butterflies flying through the rain with a… (edited) read more

Young people: Keep up the fight!

It’s sad when I see someone go from being idealistic about the environment, human rights, and inequality now trying to climb the corporate ladder. If humanity is going to succeed, we need at least SOME people who don’t give in to the profit motive to keep the ones who do in check.

INFJ: On Relationships & Love

🐥 How to know if they like you Guardians are masters at managing their outward emotions and concealing their true selves (think Varys from Game of Thrones). It can sometimes be difficult to tell whether they have a crush on you. Guardians tend to be shy, and even though they might go out of their… read more

What’s your vision? What’s your dream? The thing that seems so idealistic but you feel inclined to even brisk achievement towards?

Can we have a space to freely share at least that into the world? “Unrealistic is only what someone has not yet made real” (edited)

INFJ and ENFP the ultimate compatibility guide

I wrote this nearly exactly 12 years to the date and recently rediscovered it so I thought I'd edit it, update it and repost it here as a 2023 updated version. But anywho, here's probably the msot epic thread on why INFJs and ENFPs make such perfect matches. Enjoy!! Ok so here's my extensively… read more

Children Of The 80's

This is something I found online 15 years ago. It still means a lot to me and I thought it had been a while since I shared it with others. Children Of The 80's We are the children of the Eighties. We are neither the first “lost generation” nor today's lost generation. In fact, we think… read more

Shout Out.

There are so many who go misinterpreted because of unjust bias and misunderstanding, due to autism and I want to properly voice that. For, I too, have experienced this. : We are not biologically inferior. : We are not defective in any way. : We can live a semi normal life. : We do sometimes find… read more

How you treat with men ghosting?

If he/she ghost you, they will not told you first, it's will be surprise and we need your power to rid of this new chock with your real feelings. from the first moment, seems honest, idealistic, realistic, responsible, and is looking for a good marriage. He's funny and smart, and here's the… (edited) read more