Julius Green

Posted Thursday, November 30, 2023

2mo

INTP
Virgo

2w1

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So I have matches, but what in the world do I say?

Simple small talk gets boring after so long. What in the world do I say? Should I make up a story? Send memes?

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Kristen

2mo

INFJ
Pisces

4w5

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Why make small talk? Look at their profile and ask about their interests. I might ask you about reincarnation and whether the photo of you in Egyptian regalia relates to it. 🤷‍♀️

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Julius Green

2mo

INTP
Virgo

2w1

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Oh. I've tried that but they haven't responded yet. Other times it's from people in a different language, so I explain that I'll speak as fluently as I can so that the translation won't mess up

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Joel

2mo

INTP

You people drive me crazy... Before you do anything, figure out what you're trying to achieve. When dating, your goal should be to figure out whether the other person is compatible with you and whatever plan for the relationship you have in mind. So base your conversation around that. Do you care about common interests? What are those? Do you want to find out whether your cats have matching horoscopes? Then ask about that.

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Julius Green

2mo

INTP
Virgo

2w1

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My apologies for driving you into the depths of insanity, but I do not try to achieve anything. I find it difficult to have a goal in mind about someone I have never met before. And what they give off on their profiles give me no lead on what to go on. I really don't want to interrogate anyone to figure out if we are compatible, because that's what it feels like to me. Do I ask what interests they have right off that bat? Do I start with a hi? How in the world do I figure out if we're compatible without feeling like some sort of job interview or something? Should I ask what she's looking for in a relationship? I have a problem when it comes to boundaries. When and when not to push forward into a new level. I just find it all so difficult. I suppose all I try to achieve is acceptance.

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Joel

2mo

INTP

@Julius Green First of all, I would suggest not matching with anyone who's profile doesn't already give you a hint what you could be talking about. Sure, you'll have fewer matches, but matches on their own are pointless anyway. When in doubt, start with something random and see what their reaction is. You shouldn't get near any thoughts about pushing boundaries before you know them a little already.

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Julius Green

2mo

INTP
Virgo

2w1

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@Joel I understand, I appreciate it. I'd always assume that I'm trying too hard, or not trying hard enough. But I understand. Thank you very much

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Julius Green

2mo

INTP
Virgo

2w1

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@⛧𝔸𝕥𝕥𝕚𝕔𝕦𝕤⛧ Oh! What if they just don't know what interests them? Maybe I'm thinking too much, you're right

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Haapi...Lord of the Nile🇦🇺🦦

2mo

INTJ
Sagittarius

6w5

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You could be overthinking...a simple hello, how are you, how is your day, any plans for the day, how do you spend your free time, what type of work do you do...let it flow..there is no script

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Лена

2mo

ISTJ
Taurus

Memes of course!)))

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Julius Green

2mo

INTP
Virgo

2w1

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Perfect! These different opinions are opening doors for me

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Chilli🌶️

2mo

INTP
Gemini

8w7

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get out of the app and do it in real life no waste of time for both you are not made for here maybe if u wondering those basics not everybody made for the dates app it shows

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Julius Green

2mo

INTP
Virgo

2w1

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I understand. But I grow tired of doing the same thing and expecting different results. I do it in real life a lot of times but it seems like everyone around me is not in the save wave length. It's like everywhere I turn, there is nobody who has an imagination. Everyone is so ingulfed in this false sense of reality, so overprotective of themselves. Everywhere I go, the only thing I ever get to know about the women I encounter is the consequences of their trauma. And by the time I finally break through their nearly impenetrable walls, where I can FINALLY figure out who they are... I end up not liking it. Now, I have grown weary and tired, as it takes a lot of effort and even sacrifice to gain the trust of the individuals I see all around me who are so serious. Who lacks an imagination. What does it take too be ready for a dating app? Am I not made for anything?

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