Austin

Posted Wednesday, March 27, 2024

1mo

INFP

Listen up i have some wisdom

This is more talking to women but can apply any which way. In all that i have learned, the biggest thing i have heard is "i have given them so many chances." Well i will tell you why this fails. It fails bc they are so comfortable with you they really don't believe the issues are that big and you wont actually leave. If you truly want to give them a chance you have to completely shock and awe them. Pack your bags and tell them you are staying with a family member, say " i am done trying, i believe we are over." For a day or two tell him you dont want to talk bc you have tried that so many times already. Make him truly believe once you are gone you are gone. If he truly loves and cares about you he will realize his faults and want to correct them. Thats when you give him a second chance. Once youve shaken up his life and the comfort of "she will never leave" is gone. Make him win you back with effort but also address the issues seriously that had been bothering you. Love takes constant work and we can all forget that. But before ending everything forever, give one good chance at redemption but you have to make it difficult or else you will never learn if the love is still genuine. Us men get way too comfortable or distracted with the demands of life. If you know we have a good heart then just wake us up again so we can keep loving you. Most of us really do even if at times it feels distant. Love is a fight and you have to want it. Hope this helps someone out there who has been struggling in a relationship and is not ready to leave but out of options.