It has been a while since I’m struggling to explain this to a loved one who is in their late 30s and I’m pretty sure understanding this would be devastating to them.

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Hope

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As someone who was in abusive marriage with narcissistic, the last thing I wanted to hear was the truth. Believe it or not. Everytime you'd say it directly to people in such situations, you are making them hold tighter to it. Our minds are insane like that. You need to help them to realize it themselves by planting seeds of doubts that it'd be the situation

Raphael

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These people have essentially been brainwashed out of even knowing what abuse is. . . My dad's a social worker, & I passed your question along to him just now. He said you could look up a technique known as "motivational interviewing." I don't know enough about it to explain it in my own words, but he said it operates on a number of assumptions that run contrary to the traditional, direct style of intervention where you just flat-out tell them the nature of the reality. Instead, your approach becomes, "I'd like to tell this person the reality, but...they've got internal ambivalence/conflicting things going on inside; they're partially experiencing reality, while believing something contrary to reality," & the technique is a process to try & help them resolve that ambivalence & see reality on their own. And so, instead of you coming across as the one in authority with the power, it gives them the sense they're the ones in power, & you're there to help them use their power. You're there to help them solve their problem...rather than you being the problem solver. And that can be very important, because one of the reasons people resist...is it can strike a blow to their dignity to think they need help, or that somebody knows better than them (even if it's true). There's a lot more to it, but that's its essence in a nutshell, & my dad says he's used it & seen it work in situations where a direct approach doesn't work. (edited)

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Yikes... Idk.

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"If yesterday wasn't your friend then it was your teacher. Hope today is your friend". Have a good Friday/W-E everyone. PS apologies if posted in wrong place/way, new to the site.

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