When we "settle for" something, it's often the result of us lowering our standards. We accommodate bad behavior and accept less than what we truly desire because we don't think we're worthy of it. We think “this might be as good as it's going to get" whether in our love life, family, or career. But when we "settle on" something, we take control of it. At this point, we're deciding that at the very least, this relationship or situation has the potential to meet enough of our criteria for true happiness. We choose it and actively commit to making it great. What happens next is that we feel connected to it, and as a result, we enjoy the process of sculpting it (even if it's not perfect at first). ***Words from Matthew Hussey***

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great post, demonstrates how important framing and self talk can be! a simple change in prepositions and so much difference in meaning & outcomes

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This is all to common. Why be in a relationship with someone you don't put thought into?

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This conversations are not conversatingggggg... Like wtf Dry ass messages.. Next person ask me "wyd"...ima...ima ...scream! And yes I be trying...like pulling teeth to get.....SOMETHING..OMG Lol