Guillaume

Posted Wednesday, November 29, 2023

2mo

INTP

6w7

6

7

How long do you wait before unmatching?

Got a match few days ago. Sent an initial message. And after 24 hours, the girl still hadn't replied. So I unmatched, thinking she wasn't that interested. Was I too quick on the trigger? Now I'm thinking that might be normal... Women are (usually) swarmed with likes/messages, so they disable their notifications. She might not have seen my message. And while I do check my apps a little everyday (mostly for the memes) I can't expect everyone to do the same. Any comments, suggestions, insults?

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✨𝓜𝓲𝓭𝓷𝓲𝓰𝓱𝓽✨

2mo

ESTJ
Leo

7w8

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my opinion. If she doesn't write back within 24 hours she wasn't that interested. If we are interested we will write back pretty quickly. Sure it could take a few hours because of work or whatever, but not 24 hours...

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Snags

2mo

ESTJ

I dont always check the app daily. Sometimes I only check once a week. There are people like that.

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✨𝓜𝓲𝓭𝓷𝓲𝓰𝓱𝓽✨

2mo

ESTJ
Leo

7w8

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@Snags Yes, that's right. but she matched with him. means she was online recently. I sometimes take a break from boo but then I tell those who are important to me

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Snags

2mo

ESTJ

@✨𝓜𝓲𝓭𝓷𝓲𝓰𝓱𝓽✨ so she can't send out a message and then go offline? That seems a little silly.

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✨𝓜𝓲𝓭𝓷𝓲𝓰𝓱𝓽✨

2mo

ESTJ
Leo

7w8

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@Snags yes, she can. But if you're really interested in someone you don't go offline... in my opinion. then you want to get to know him or her

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Snags

2mo

ESTJ

@✨𝓜𝓲𝓭𝓷𝓲𝓰𝓱𝓽✨ so maybe they're not "really interested" they're just curious, or bored, or lonely or wanted to chit chat about the weather. I'm certainly not "really interested" in anyone here. I'm not interested at all. I'm only here to chit chat about random topics on occasion

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✨𝓜𝓲𝓭𝓷𝓲𝓰𝓱𝓽✨

2mo

ESTJ
Leo

7w8

7

8

@Snags yes probably. chit chat about the weather is my favorite 🤣

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Snags

2mo

ESTJ

@✨𝓜𝓲𝓭𝓷𝓲𝓰𝓱𝓽✨ you have no idea how many people hit me up to ask about the weather.

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✨𝓜𝓲𝓭𝓷𝓲𝓰𝓱𝓽✨

2mo

ESTJ
Leo

7w8

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@Snags really? I only get questions like: how are you?, what are you doing right now? and so forth. but my favorite question is: have you eaten? 🤣

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Snags

2mo

ESTJ

@✨𝓜𝓲𝓭𝓷𝓲𝓰𝓱𝓽✨ I get "hy hru" "sen pik me u poosie" "hey, hws the wethur" "u et ur luch yet" "wat u wer no" Every day. At least once a day. Lots of "hy" and "hy hru" probably at least 5-10 a day.

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✨𝓜𝓲𝓭𝓷𝓲𝓰𝓱𝓽✨

2mo

ESTJ
Leo

7w8

7

8

@Snags omg 🤦🏻‍♀️

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Snags

2mo

ESTJ

@✨𝓜𝓲𝓭𝓷𝓲𝓰𝓱𝓽✨ it's annoying enough as is, but the terrible spelling actually bothers me MORE.

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✨𝓜𝓲𝓭𝓷𝓲𝓰𝓱𝓽✨

2mo

ESTJ
Leo

7w8

7

8

@Snags yes, bad spelling bothers me too. although English is not my native language. but they could make an effort

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Snags

2mo

ESTJ

@✨𝓜𝓲𝓭𝓷𝓲𝓰𝓱𝓽✨ one would think. Guess I'm not worth their time, and they're definitely not worth mine.

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✨𝓜𝓲𝓭𝓷𝓲𝓰𝓱𝓽✨

2mo

ESTJ
Leo

7w8

7

8

@Snags That's the right attitude. I mean they're not worth your time

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Cassidy

2mo

ISTJ
Libra

6w5

6

5

Why do you have to unmatch anyway? Maybe she thought she replied and it didnt go through. Maybe her phone broke. The idea that everyone is on their phone 24/7 is insane. Sometimes I dont check Boo for weeks because I just forget to. It would be a shame if you lost a good connection because you didnt have any patience or empathy for someone.

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Julia

2mo

INFP
Libra

8w7

8

7

Thank you for being opened up for insults 😂😂😂 Yeah, well. Does it bother you that it’s there, unanswered? Cuz I think a couple of days are ok to wait. Who knows, maybe the person is really not online 🤷🏻‍♀️

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Guillaume

2mo

INTP

6w7

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Once communication is established, I don't usually mind waiting a day or two for them to reply (because I'm usually more confidant that they'll reply) What bothers me is the uncertainty. Are they going to reply or not? And how long is too long?

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Julia

2mo

INFP
Libra

8w7

8

7

@Guillaume don’t think about it too much. Maybe they will, maybe they won’t. You don’t have to wait for them anyway.

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𝖘𝖍𝖆𝖉𝐲 𝖘𝖆𝖓𝖙𝖔𝖘 ♫︎

2mo

INTJ
Cancer

1w9

1

9

Sometimes people are just busy. Patience is a virtue.

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Stacy

2mo

INTP
Leo

5w4

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I don’t always check in daily. I think a few days is standard waiting. I mean, maybe she’s sick, on vacation, working late, celebrating a birthday, having a family gathering … you never know.

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Snags

2mo

ESTJ

This, exactly. I honestly never "unmatch" anyone. If they message me and then don't respond. Great. I've had people message me 6, 7, 8 MONTHS later.

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Stacy

2mo

INTP
Leo

5w4

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@Snags I’ll unmatch if I lose interest

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Yannick

2mo

ISTP
Taurus

IMO ; Don't bother unmatching. It's a dating app so it's very unlikely that people are gonna be on their toes, phone in hand just to say hi to a stranger that may or may not be completely wack. If you matched and sent your message there's nothing else for you to do, you both shared interest if it doesn't go any further, it's fine too. You've got nothing to lose, just keep matching til you find happiness. Matching isn't a contract, you can match and talk to multiple potential partner or friends, and pick the one that you find the most enjoyable to be with, there's no need to pick only one and feel on edge.

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Asad

2mo

ISTJ
Libra

So far the most up-to-the-mark answer in my opinion i mean pretty much well explained 👍🏼

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Maxine

2mo

INTP
Taurus

6w5

6

5

i work full time i'm also a parent with a homeschooler....i have my phone with me majority of the day. Most ppl do.... so i give 12-24 hours then unmatch....no exceptions, no excuses, no settling for less than what i know i deserve. 💁🏻‍♀️

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Snags

2mo

ESTJ

Having your phone on you doesn't mean you're checking messages. Sometimes I only check once a week.

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Luna

2mo

ISFP
Gemini

8w7

8

7

I will just leave it hang in there if the person i text isn’t answer me. Nothing to lose anw

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Brandon

2mo

INTJ
Sagittarius

2w1

2

1

Pretty much immediately if I can tell they are starting to ghost or not show interest in having conversation. I just don't feel like wasting time with that.

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Aina

2mo

ENFP
Pisces

7w8

7

8

You were too quick. I've liked people a lot and wrote back 1-3 days later max. Nothing personal, I just need to think a bit, I have to keep my "chatlist" short so I don't get overwhelmed, otherwise I don't write back to anyone.

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Snags

2mo

ESTJ

I dont unmatch, I just leave it as is.

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Yammy (Yamyam)🇵🇭

2mo

INFJ
Cancer

9w1

9

1

1 day 😆

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Kofi

2mo

INFJ
Aries

8w7

8

7

You shouldn't have unmatched IMO cos the fact that she ignored doesn't change the fact that you like her. Its one of those nah instances. It's normal. Yes or nah. I got a like from a lady...went through her profile and OMG.! No wonder she liked and matched. I messaged her and its been over a week, she leaves me on read.lol so Guillaume, you see? You'll wonder why someone will make the first move and then withdraw or ignore you for whatever reason they have.It is what it is. DONT TAKE THINGS TOO PERSONAL bro, you're happier that way

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Alexandre

2mo

INTP

5w4

5

4

I don't even care if someone replies or not. Sometimes, they pop back a few days later and I am reminded they exist. Sometimes they don't and I can't even remember. I also don't see a reason to unmatch anyone. Either they stay there or they say something stupid enough to get blocked. My preference is bi-montly communication and as surprising as it might seem, some are into it.

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robin

2mo

ISFJ
Aquarius

bruh, on an app like Boo you are better off unmatching after whatever time is suitable to you. if 24 hours is your threshold then that's it! mine is 1 hour. I'm just not interested in most women as they mostly are not that appealing to me 😉😉😉

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