Uluntu lwe-Guilt

Ubuqotho

Ngamanye amaxesha ukuvuma inyaniso nokuba nobuqotho kungabangelwa umonakalo omkhulu kunokuhle. Ezinye izinto zbetter ukuba zingathethwanga. Ukuba utyala lukhuni kuwe, ndiyacebisa ukuba uthethe naye kwaye ucele uxolo lwakhe. Khumbula ukuba umphangi uthatha uvuyo lwakho. Phambili, yiba ngcono.

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Uphakathi kobudlelwane nomntu, iminyaka eyi-8 kwaye uyazi ukuba uyamthanda yonke le nto, uziva unombulelo ngokumthola, uziva ngathi ungum 'khaya' owufunayo. Kodwa xa kuphelile, uziva ngathi akukhathalekile. Kukho ukungonwabi okukhawulezayo okanye umphako. Akukho nxibelelwano, akukho mva…funda okungakumbi

Ufumene iindlela ezenze ezi zinto zibe lula? (okanye ungeze eyakho ukuba unento efanelekileyo yokwabelana)

Indlela endijongana ngayo: A. Iimeko zentlalo 1. ukoyika ukugxekwa 2. ukuthula kwincoko uziva ungakhululekanga 3. ukuziva ungumntu ongafanelekanga eqhweni 4. ukuphazanyiswa okanye ukuthethwa ngaphezu 5. ukuhlangana nabantu xa ndingenamandla entlalweni 6. ukoyika ukuba ndiza kubonwa…( ilungisiwe)funda okungakumbi

Uhlanga luhlala luza neziphumo, njengoko sithanda ukucinga ukuba thina sisono.

Imibuzo yemihla ngemihla

Ukuba utyala lungaguqulwa lube yinto ethile oyiphathayo, ibhinqa lakho liza kubukeka njani, kwaye uza kulifihla phi? Impendulo yam Ibhinqa lam liza kubukeka njengesikhumbuzo esiphukileyo seporcelain, sisondele kumhle, kodwa sikhuni kwiindawo ezingalunganga. Ndiza kuligcina lihlala kwi-drawer…funda okungakumbi

Abantu abaphosa

Ndifunde ukuba ndithintelwe kakhulu ngababantu abaninzi, umoya wabo kunye nemvakalelo, ukusuka kubani endivumela ukuba beze ebomini bam. Xa yonke into ethiwe ihlaliswa ngempendulo engalunganga, kunye nomoya, ithintela umoya wam. Ndandizama ukunceda abantu abanjalo, kodwa loo nto yayiyimisebenzi…funda okungakumbi

✨️Umyalelo Ongafunwanga✨️

Ukuba ukufumaneka komntu kuthintela umoya wakho kangaka, isisombululo asikho ekubeni ubagwebe ngenxa yokuba banobomi ngaphandle kwakho. Ukwenza ukuba bangaboni, amazwi aphakathi, ukujolisa kumphakathi, kunye nokudala umgama ngenxa yokuba umntu akavumi ngokuqhubekayo akuzukubenza bafune ukuba…funda okungakumbi

Rant/Vent

Ukukhala ngokuqinileyo namhlanje ebusuku. Umgwaqo wokwazi ukuba ndifuna ukwenza into, kodwa andikwazanga ukwenza nto ngexesha, uyandibetha nzima. Ndihlala ndiphinda ndicinga "ukuba". Utheni ukuba ndandibona ngaphambili, Utheni ukuba ndandijonga kancinci ngaphambili, Utheni ukuba imeko…( ilungisiwe)funda okungakumbi

Kutheni Siphosa Ngoxolo?

Xa singanxibelelani, ubuchopho bethu buya kwi mbono yokungabikho, eyenza sithenge kakhulu ukuxhumana sosial xa kufumaneka. Silahlekelwa zi sithukuthezi se-dopamine ngelixa silandela ubuhlobo de kube kufika inyaniso. Ukungonwabi emva kokuthetha akukhange kube malunga nexesha elilahlekileyo. Kukubona…funda okungakumbi

Ubunzima bokuphuma💔

Kubo bonke abafunda oku… yintoni edala ubuhlungu obukhulu: ukuba nguye ophumayo okanye ukuba nguye oshiyekileyo? 💔 Ukuphuma kuletha umthwalo wesono, imfazwe ethuleyo phakathi kokwazi ukuba kulungile nokuziva ukuba kulahlekile. Kodwa ukusala emva kubamba umoya walo, uhlobo olukhumbuza imibuzo…funda okungakumbi

Xa iFramework ihlangana neReality

UGertrude Bell wayeqonda le ndawo ngokunzulu. Wayazi ijeografi yayo. Iziqela zayo. Iintsebenziswano zayo. Iintshukumo zayo. Iilwimi zayo. Ipsychology yayo. Wakha iimeko zengqondo zabantu ngokucophelela njengoko wayemapa umhlaba. Kodwa, ukuqonda inkqubo akufani nokukwazi ukulawula okwenzeka…funda okungakumbi

Utyala olungapheliyo

Ingxelo emfutshane: ukungabikho kokhathalelo komama wam kwafihlwa kukuphazamiseka komama wam, ngoko ndandithanda ukucinga ukuba unako ukuba ngumakhulu Ndazama kakhulu ukwenza ukuba umama wam eze nam ohambweni lwam lokuphola. Ndamtshela ukuba ndifuna ubomi obuzinzileyo nobuthule kwaye ndifuna ukuba…funda okungakumbi

Uphukuphuku

Kodwa ngenxa yezifo. Awukwazi ukuyibuyisela kumntu okuthumele yona, kwaye ungafumana izifo ezininzi. Ungahlala uyidlulisa, kodwa kufuneka ube nempilo yokuzisola.

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Ikhalenda iyajika, kodwa ndihlala ndingashukumi, Umjolisi ongathandabuzi kumjikelo wesikhathi, Ngidliwa yinjongo engingayigcwalisi, Ngijolise ekudluleleni kwentsha yam enzima. Enye imini iyavalwa, ilanga elinye liyacima, Lishiya ukunambitha okubuhlungu, okushisayo kokuzisola; Ngenkathi umhlaba…funda okungakumbi

Uhlolo lwakho

Ndineengxaki zokuziva ndikufutshane nabantu. Akukhona ukungabi nempembelelo, kodwa mhlawumbi kukhumbuza umphumela we-trauma. Ndandineminyaka emininzi enzima xa ndandisencinane kwaye le nto ayizange ibeke ndandifaneleke ekwakheni ubudlelwane obclose. Kodwa ndandifuna njalo ukuba nobudlelwane obuhle…( ilungisiwe)funda okungakumbi

Ingcebiso mhlawumbi? Okanye nje umbono wakho. (Ndigcina ilungelo lokuphendula ukuba uthetha ngolwaphulo-mthetho 🥲)

Ndixoxa ngoku neentombi ezimbini. Bengingayiceli, kodwa nantsi sikhona.. Ngokwenene kule ndawo, mhlawumbi akuyi kuba mntu. 1 Uqale ukundixoxa emva kokuba ndaziva ndiphosa ithuba neentombi endazibona kwakhona ngexesha leKrisimesi, umhlobo womndeni. Uphule ubudlelwane nebhola yakhe, ndandiphatheke…funda okungakumbi

Ngamanye amaxesha abantu bakupenda njengomntu "ombi" ukuze bakwazi ukugwema uxanduva lokuba baphathe njani. Kuba kulula kubo ukushintsha uxanduva kunokubhekana neempazamo zabo.

--- Kwaye ukuba uthembela kuloo meko ngoku, ndiyaxolisa ngempela ukuba kufuneka udlule kuyo.

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"Ndiyathemba ukuba kufika ixesha apho ndingavula intliziyo yam kwakhona ndamkela omnye umntu ngaphandle kokuziva ndonwabile." Qaphela imvula apha⛈️

Uhlobo

Ndiziva ndinecala elininzi ngokuqwalasela ukuba abantu abaninzi baphakame bangumhlobo wam.

Ubulungisa & Utyando 🥀

Ngokwenene, ndiphumelele kwiiphepha eziyi-600 zokuzisola, ubuhlungu kunye neenketho zokuphila ezithiyileyo.

Ndibe nengxoxo enzulu nomfo malunga nokuba neengane. Wabuza umbono wam ophilayo, kwaye ndaphendula ngovuyo. Waqhubeka efuna imibuzo, kwaye ndachaza iingcinga zam ngemiceli mngeni...

Ndachaza kuye ukuba ndikholelwa ukuba abantu kufuneka babe neengane kuphela xa bephumle ngokupheleleyo kuzo zonke iindawo, ngokomzimba, ngokwengqondo, ngokwezimali, ngokomoya, nangokwemvelo. Ukwamkelwa komzimba, kum, akusiyonto nje yokuba uphilile, kodwa kukwafaka nokucinga ngezifo ezinzima ezidla…funda okungakumbi

Nolan's "The Odyssey"

Ngokweemihla? Ngena, hamba khona, unikeze isizathu sokuhlala kwi-theatre emnyama uze uphume, kuba ngokuqhelekileyo uMatt Damon uhamba ngokuqinileyo phezu kwesikrini sakho ejolise kumthwalo kaOdysseus iminyaka emithathu. Bonke abamjoliseleyo baphumelele kum. Umbala wawumnyama weeminyaka. Iingcwele…funda okungakumbi

Phazamisa kwaye Uthethe Imigangatho Yangaphandle

Ubugcisa obungaphantsi kwebhokisi isikhumbuzo 2 Le ndlela ibalulekile ekwahluleni iMiddle East emva kwemfazwe yehlabathi. Nje ukuba uluntu luhlulwe, kuba lula ukulawula—kuqinisekiswe ukuba ingqalelo yabo iyaphambuka kwiingxaki zabo zangaphakathi iye kwi "migaqo yomjikelo" eyenziwe—imigangatho…funda okungakumbi

Ndifuna ukwazi ukuba ndingayeka njani

Wawuyindaba yokuxwayisa Ukuba ukuba ufuna i-orenge yakho iphume Kufuneka uye emarikeni ukuyithenga Okanye uyithathe kwi-branch okanye uyikhule ngokwakho Wawuyiorenge endiyishiyile kwi-counter imihla ngemihla Usuku nosuku Ndiphosa umbono phantsi kwe-marble countertop Ngalmost uqinisekisa…( ilungisiwe)funda okungakumbi

Mavumele ukuba...

Mavumele abantu bakuqonde ngendlela engalunganga. Mavumele ukuba babuze ngeenjongo zakho. Mavumele ukuba baphose. Mavumele ukuba benze inguqulelo yabo yezenzo - kodwa ungavumeli ukuba kuthintele. Siphosa amandla amaninzi sizama ukutshintsha iimbono zabanye ngathi, sihlala siphinda umphako…funda okungakumbi

Izizathu

Le ayisiyongcebiso kangangoko njengoko mhlawumbi ingumbono olula wokuba indlela abantu abacinga ngayo iguquka ngexesha elithile lempilo yabo. Akusoloko ukuba xa ukhulelwe, akusoloko ukuba xa ufundiswe kakuhle, okanye ube neempumelelo, okanye into ethile. Ngexesha elithile lempilo, abantu bayazi…funda okungakumbi

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Gxila kwiingxaki zabantu abangathathi nxaxheba kwiimeko zabo. Abanye abantu abayi kuhlawula ukungafaneleki kwabo kuba oku kuya kufuna ukuba baphose i-ego yabo emva kwaye bangazifaka emngciphekweni. Bonke baxoxa ngokuqhuba ukungabikho kwemfanelo, bejolisa kumphako, kwaye bezama ukukuxhaphaza…funda okungakumbi

Uphando Olutsha Luvele: I-Guilt-Trip Trap

Hlala uphephile phaya! Ukuthetha okuncinci okujolise ekuphuleni imvakalelo sekuyinto eqhelekileyo. Nantsi umzekelo omfutshane wokuthi ungayivala njani i-guilt trip ngendlela ecacileyo ngaphandle kokuba ubuhlungu. I-Exit Template: 1. Qaphela imeko yabo, ungayiphosa. Sonke singabantu kwaye sonke…funda okungakumbi

Uxolele wena ngezinto ozenzileyo ngexesha lokuphila

Ukuba uthathe umthwalo wempazamo kwiizigqibo ozithathileyo ngexesha lokuphila, yeka. Okwangoku akuyena — lowo yayengumntu ophukileyo. Bonisa wena umusa ofanayo owunikezela kubantu bonke abaninzi. Ukhula, kwaye leyo yinto ebalulekileyo.

Ukuphola

Ndiyafumanisa ukuba kunzima ukunceda ingqondo yam ukuba iphumle emva kokulahlekelwa utata wam. Mhlawumbi andifuni ukubhekisa kuyo kuba awufumani ukuzwa nantoni na njengoko uphatha amalungiselelo omngcwabo kunye nabantu abakuthintela. Uqhubeka nje ngokuqhuba ngokuzenzekelayo ixesha elide. Awufuni…( ilungisiwe)funda okungakumbi

Ubugebengu ngokuhlanganyela

Xa uluntu lukugweba/lukubiza ngokusekelwe kubantu obahlanganyela nabo... Kuyinyani engalunganga..😣

Nokuba ndilinde ixesha elingakanani ngawe

Nokuba Ndilinde Ixesha Elingakanani Ngawe Nokuba ndilinde ixesha elingakanani ngawe, intliziyo yam ayizange ikhathele. Iseason eziphelileyo azizange zikhuphe ithemba lam, okanye uk silence kungandikhumbuza ukuba ndiyeke. Ixesha lenze umhlobo omnye, ehamba ndawonye nam de kube lolo suku iindlela…funda okungakumbi

“Izandla Ezingcolileyo, Iimemori Ezinobubele”

Ndikhumbula intombazana endandiyiyo— izandla ezithambileyo, amaphupha athambileyo, intliziyo eyayithukutyiswa kukukhanya. Kodwa ndakufumanisa ukuba ukuthula kukhula ngaphakathi komntu, ukuba umphefumlo unokuphuka ngokuqhubekayo, ingxenye ngengxenye, de kube iimpembelelo zoko ubungowakho zibukeke…funda okungakumbi

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Ndibhale umyalezo wangaphambili malunga neengxaki zempilo kubandakanya ikati yam efuna ukuhlinzwa. Iveki emva kokuhlinzwa, ndatsho ukuba unomhlaza. Iintsuku ezinhlanu kamva, intombazana yam yafa ekuseni ibhiyozela edlalayo. Konke endandikwazi ukukwenza kukuyixelela ukuba konke kuzolunga. Ndikhalile…funda okungakumbi

Ushintsho lwabanye luyakukhathaza. Ukulawula umgama? Le yinyaniso yokuhlakanipha.

"Imimandla nemilambo ingashintsha, kodwa ubuntu bomntu buhlala buphakathi." Abantu bahlala bezama ngaphandle kokuphumelela. Zama ukuchaza kumntu ongafuni ukuqonda. Zama ukunceda umntu osele enze isigqibo sokungamamela. Zama ukuhamba nomntu okhetha ukuhlala emile. Emva koko kukhathala. Emva koko…( ilungisiwe)funda okungakumbi

Ukukhetha wena kuthetha ukuhlonipha imida yakho, ukubeka phambili impilo yakho, kunye nokukhusela ukuthula kwakho ngaphandle kokuzisola

Usetyenzisa ifilitha nayo?

Iifilitha azikhethi ubuhle—zikhuthaza into esele ikhona. Ngoko ke ukuba ikwenza uzive unethemba ngakumbi, sebenzisa ngaphandle kokuzisola.

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Ukuba neenergi ezilungileyo kuthi. 1. Asifuni ukulandela uvavanyo kwabanye. (Uyazi ukuba ixabiso lakho alichongwanga ngokuqhayisa nokwamkelwa kwabanye.) 2. Kufuneka sibe nesibindi sokuthi hayi (ukugcina imida akusiyo indlela yokuba mbi, kodwa yindlela yokuzihlonipha kunye nexabiso lethu, ixabiso…funda okungakumbi

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Ukuba neenergi ezilungileyo kuthi. 1. Asifuni ukulandela uvavanyo kwabanye. (Uyazi ukuba ixabiso lakho lokuzazisa alichongwanga ngokuqhayisa nokwamkelwa kwabanye.) 2. Kufuneka sibe nesibindi sokuthi hayi (ukugcina imida akusiyo indlela yokuba mbi, kodwa yindlela yokuzihlonipha kunye nexabiso lethu,…funda okungakumbi