I’ve recently came to the realisation that getting to know someone’s attachment style before dating them is a must. Wrong attachment style matches always lead to dissapointment on the long run. Unfortunatelly, most people aren’t even aware of their attachment style and they always keep wondering why the people they are dating are acting cold or distant. They are an avoidant lol

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May I say that recognising, understanding and assessing why we have our attachment styles is super important! Secure try to date secure. No matter how sexy avoidant looks, or how available the anxious is…

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Yes but some people may change their attachment style the more that they actually know or connect better with someone. Some people can just be more cautious or more independent first before they become deeper in a relationship. Some people do miss that chance if someone expects more attachment at the start

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Being aware of this can save a lot of heartache down the line. If you're dating someone and they're avoidant, and you're not, it can be like oil and water

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Yes! You are absolutely correct. Some people love differently and also cherish behaviors more than others. I've learned that in psychology class. 😁

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Hmm, interesting. Where'd you get the idea of attachment style?

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Anxious avoidant..yay for me.

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Sure, we sound bring a cv at a date to see if we match the "job" emotional damage,

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At least you didn't reach the magical moment when you get so tired to sit in bars, restaurant, benches and start again and again and again to present yourself to yet another person 🤣

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I've been there, it causes lots of hurt and disappointment

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And good to go 😂😂

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May I say that recognising, understanding and assessing why we have our attachment styles is super important! Secure try to date secure. No matter how sexy avoidant looks, or how available the anxious is…

Being aware of this can save a lot of heartache down the line. If you're dating someone and they're avoidant, and you're not, it can be like oil and water

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