Everyone agrees that honesty and communication are super important to a healthy relationship. But if your only definition of honesty and communication is "Be yourself, say what's on your mind, and don't tell lies," you're still at rookie level. For more advanced levels, try these: Learn to understand that communication is just as much about receiving information as intended, as it is about sending it. "It's not what the word means, it's what the person means, that matters." Learn how to recognize when you feel a certain way now, but you might just change your mind tomorrow. Learn how to recognize when your partner might do the same. Learn to answer questions before your partner even realizes they want to ask them, and not to force them to come up with such questions themselves. Learn how to tell when your partner wants to express something, but doesn't know the right words, or otherwise doesn't understand how to convey it correctly. Learn how to understand when your partner honestly just doesn't know what to think, and isn't actually hiding anything from you. Learn how to read your partner's body language and social signals that they do not even realize they are sending. Learn how to understand when your partner is afraid to tell you something, or can't come up with a way to say it that you wouldn't take the wrong way, and that it's difficult for them. Learn how to recognize when your partner just outright said something on accident, and how to forgive them for it. Learn to understand that your partner has a slightly different definition for every single word in the language than anyone else in the world, and be willing to learn the ones that are important to them. Learn how to tell when your partner is doing something that makes them truly happy, or just going along with what makes you happy, and might not even understand the difference. And that's just the tip of the iceberg. Honesty and communication is not a choice; it's a learned skill, and one that is unique to each individual couple. You can intend to be fully honest, but lack the skill to do so, and that still makes you untrustworthy. It's made more complex by the fact that most communication is nonverbal and involuntary, and that human beings don't always understand their own feelings, or how to put those feelings into words, or how those feelings might change from one moment to the next, or how to have the courage to say something difficult. Only with empathy, chemistry, experience, and a desire to make things work despite the difficulties, will you have a chance to succeed.

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Penel

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You forgot about mutuality.. Both/all communicating parts need to learn, both/all need to try, to be empathetic, etc. Communication is not one way..

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👏 Arguing effectively and communicate well is hard. (edited)

Robin

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I cannot like this enough. So well said.

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Agreed.

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Well said!

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I think dishonest people are rampant here, but the scale of such dishonesty varies.

Some are taken, yet disguised themselves to act single. Some are taken, yet transparent about their attempts to explore their infidelity. So, be careful out there. #datingapps #dating #romance #onlinedating

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Romance is not just for the skinny

The ability to "click" with another person and know deep down you really like someone is more than skin deep. I read the profiles of every person I swipe between and it's just crazy how many people essentially ward off plus size suitors. Guy A might be care deeply for you, always be there to... read more

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Done ✅

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Marianne

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I'm trying y'all 🥺❣️💪🏼🤞🏼

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I don't ,know why I'm helpless When you whisper, don't leave me Don't know where the vibration is felt When you said I needed to be close to you As usual I kept silent Just look at your dancing thin lips As usual I can't promise Can only say I love.

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oh, the disappointment he got...

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Sincerely Wishing

Someone who will match the vibe i am looking. Someone who just gets me.

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When I am lowkay jealous...

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I’m looking for my husband.. have you seen him?

There you are🥰

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Nonoway so 😢

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i want real life...

as much as i enjoy being single, i genuinely want to know what it would be like in a healthy relationship. just once i don't care, i need to know what being a princess in a healthy relationship fells like and not just read about it.

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What's the best romantic comedy movie 🍿

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Hi

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What’s your love language? (Words of affirmation, quality time, gifts, acts of service, or physical touch?)

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ROMANCE 💕

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Pointless Effort

We're throwing away both our money and time on these digital systems - and time is far more precious than money, friends. Have some self-respect, meet people face to face in the real world, at least you'll get an answer - even rejection is better than this silence. Some people put themselves on... read more

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What's The Point?2

Rather than trying to meet people on these dating apps, I'd rather fill an empty well with stones - at least I'd be doing something useful. Send someone a 'good morning' text, and you'll have to wait for the sun to set and rise again just to get a reply. My advice to you: instead of trying this... read more

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Only me and who???

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My soulmate died...

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Cancer

real (edited)

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शायरी

वो देखे तो सही मुझे एक बार, मैं वही थम जाऊंगा,

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I am looking for a deep real loving relationship with a women

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🥺❤️

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Utkarsh

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Are romantics doomed?

Especially in the world we live in where everything is quid pro quo, how exactly will the charisma of romantics live on??

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Marianne

12h

ISFP

Pisces

Being more open👐🏼🫂👐🏼

Going to try and be a little more optimistic about possibilities, I think I've been keeping my guard up so high that it could have prevented me from seeing my destination...we shall see Let's all take a deep breath 🫁💓🫁 and 🤞🏼💗💣💗🤞🏼hope for the best... It's all we really can do at this point