Posted Thursday, November 18, 2021
4ySocializing
Hello Guys, I'm an Introvert and I'm not good at socializing, Can you give me some advices on how to socialize effectively?
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4y
Nothing is more hilarious than the fact that almost everyone responding are introverts. The most important skill you can learn in conversation is asking open-ended questions, not close-ended ones (though the occasional close-ended question won't hurt if it doesn't shut down the conversation). Also like everyone else said, try to not stress! Have fun with it
4y
@Cutie I think what you're doing now is a good start. Just having the confidence to put yourself out there little by little and take a chance to ask a question or start with a comment or compliment is good. I'm an introvert too and I don't really like small talk so I tend to open conversations with a fun, interesting question or a comment on something I find relatable on a person's bio. If they respond, cool. If not, just keep it pushing.
4y
Sometimes you would need to calculate on what do you want to say without hurting yourself or others that ends in awkward situations. It happens on everyone where they often self-monitor themselves to get in touch with their own beings as anxiety blooms. Just thinking and focus on the topic and if fear still kick in. Take a couple of deep breaths to set it at ease
4y
One thing I like to do in a group of people (but can be translated one on one) is just ask what 3 things are that the person thinks nobody there knows about them. Not in a weird inappropriate way but could be a skill they have or something they dream about doing. When I was coaching debate I helped a lot of young people that were very introverted understand that a) that's ok and there's a lot of value that CAN be found in introversion (if you don't let it put you in bad places personallu) and b) you can seem like an extrovert by asking open ended questions and pushing back/asking for expansion. Eventually you'll get to a point where you are more comfortable or you get some piece of information you can connect with and then open up from there. If that doesn't happen though that's ok. It's not always you that prevents a connection from happening, the other person might just not be putting in effort of their own. If that's the case it might just be someone not worth your energy :) (edited)
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