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Cutie
Posted Thursday, November 18, 2021
2y
INTP
Libra
Socializing
Hello Guys, I'm an Introvert and I'm not good at socializing, Can you give me some advices on how to socialize effectively?
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Colin
2y
INTJ
Taurus
1. People love when you express interest in their interests. 2. Genuine compliments can absolutely make someone's day. This is especially true for guys, who generally aren't showered with compliments the way attractive women are. 3. If they're not investing energy in the conversation too, there's really not much you can do. 4. There's nothing like a good story. 5. Ask insightful questions - don't just ask what they do, ask them why they do it. 6. Ask follow up questions, this allows the conversation to progress into other topics naturally instead of feeling like a stilted interview. 7. Don't be afraid of rejection. Just put your best foot forward and see what happens. 8. Take opportunities to jump off from things they've said to share details about yourself, you don't need to be asked! (edited)
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Wynn
2y
INFP
Pisces
Nothing is more hilarious than the fact that almost everyone responding are introverts. The most important skill you can learn in conversation is asking open-ended questions, not close-ended ones (though the occasional close-ended question won't hurt if it doesn't shut down the conversation). Also like everyone else said, try to not stress! Have fun with it
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Shai
2y
INFJ
Aries
@Cutie I think what you're doing now is a good start. Just having the confidence to put yourself out there little by little and take a chance to ask a question or start with a comment or compliment is good. I'm an introvert too and I don't really like small talk so I tend to open conversations with a fun, interesting question or a comment on something I find relatable on a person's bio. If they respond, cool. If not, just keep it pushing.
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Hector
2y
INTP
Leo
Sometimes you would need to calculate on what do you want to say without hurting yourself or others that ends in awkward situations. It happens on everyone where they often self-monitor themselves to get in touch with their own beings as anxiety blooms. Just thinking and focus on the topic and if fear still kick in. Take a couple of deep breaths to set it at ease
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