Nick

Posted Tuesday, November 7, 2023

6mo

INTJ

Sagittarius

I hope its OK for platonic advice here

Undiagnosed autism and decades of isolation yada yada. I have no idea wtf I'm doing socially. I've been friends with someone for a while and I felt like we were quite close. Over the last couple of months I've felt like I've been giving a lot more in terms of emotional support than I've been receiving. What's the 'normal' way to handle this? I just told her I'm really overwhelmed with my own stuff rn and won't have any social energy to talk for a while (which is true). Should I have brought up that I felt things were a bit one sided? To me that seems like the sort of talk you only have in a romantic relationship, and I've observed in platonic relationships that people adjust their boundaries rather than try to talk about things? Eg we talked on the phone a couple of times but immediately after she started texting me a lot less. So I assumed I'd said or done something for her to change her boundaries and she didn't speak to me about it because that wasn't a normal thing to do in platonic relationships. (edited)