Arianna Woitte

Posted Sunday, August 7, 2022

1y

INFP

Libra

6

7

Question on Dating/Friends Preconceptions

Didn't know what thread to put this in. What do you all think about the preconceptions that come with knowing what type of relationship you want or expect out of someone on this app? I think one thing that always gets me about dating apps is, no matter how hard you try to quell expectations, almost every interaction is working on the end goal of "becoming something more" with someone, and I think this colors how we interact with people, in a way that often feels disingenuous to me. How do you all speak to and behave with people differently when you are expecting a relationship versus how you do when you are expecting a friendship? For myself I think I'm more performative and people-pleasing when I'm talking to someone that I expect might want to date. I worry more about how I look sitting a certain way, and how agreeable what I'm about to say is, as opposed to when I am around someone I expect to be just friends with.