Lydia

Posted Tuesday, March 26, 2024

4mo

INTJ

Aries

4

5

It's not a choice, it's a responsibility

26, cis female and comfortable with everyone, bisexual and second generation here. My big thing regarding kids, I feel like it's not safe to have kids, regardless of my partner's sex parts. Maybe it's just the trauma, maybe I'm in my head too much. But my biological father was a drag queen, they were both bisexual mom and dad. And I got taken from them in the early 200s, and now as an adult, I just keep witnessing the rate of separation and social services being overly involved in the wrong places and it always just getting worse and worse. What is defined as child abuse goes way too far these days. you can't even give a child time off in the corner for 3 minutes anymore, I witness a mother having to explain why she told her kid no, no he couldn't play with the kitchen knives and apparently the social worker just didn't like her tone of voice, you don't have the right to discipline anymore if any of your kids get removed by social services. You can have more kids, you can grieve the ones that were forcefully adopted out, but they'll actively keep you on your radar for siblings, if they tell their teachers about any type of struggles at home, you immediately get put back on social services radar. I feel like I can't have a family and I was already raised as an orphan, and I never even knew until recently that my biological parents kept trying until recently. My bio mom, my chosen mom, the one I feel safe talking too. America is facing an infertility crisis, a baby bust, and those who set the rules in government don't seem to realize that this is entirely of their own making. I don't feel safe having children. because why should I settle for American cis guys who keep disappointing me, I'd love to proven wrong, I'd love for a cis guy to change my mind. But it hasn't happened yet. But even if I'm lucky enough to have a wife in America instead, why would I want to have a baby if those in power take them away from me the first time I say no to them Reposting for a third, because I'm trying to get multiple perspectives and I'm not sure why It's not letting me do multiple hashtags