Hello everyone, I would like some opinions. I have to go into the city for a few days and am having buyer's anxiety over a hotel room I am planning to bid on. I have a tendency to like nice things. I am not overly materialistic, and I actually live somewhat Spartanly, but I like not just good-quality things, but sometimes like things outside of the budget I allow myself to have. This does not mean I go for whatever I'm admiring by any means, just that I like pretty things from a distance. Unfortunately, recognizing this fact about myself, I also limit or second-guess my choices to the point I often have buyer's guilt even before I actually decide to purchase something, because I don't want to be frivolous. For some context, I grew up poor, and have relatives whom let's just say were more well off, and often flaunted it even when they meant well. There were times I think I was a little envious being the one cousin cleaning up my better-off relatives messes or being one of the only ones in second-hand clothes, and not able to really connect with their nonchalant view of things...I also have a toxic parent who is more of a cheapskate than I am, and has no qualms about using any means they can to get "a good deal" since they are that sort of character. I worked and put myself through school, and struggled for years to get in a better career and am finally seeing positive results- but I'm still very cautious when it comes to spending, because I know myself and I don't want to push the limits of my budget. I'm hesitating right now because I just had an exhausting conversation with this person after making a mistake and telling them my plans, and also I recently had some medical experiences that strained my finances until recently, but am finally nearly done paying those expenses back and I am healed enough to travel so long as I take it easy. I am actually likely to be reimbursed for the hotel, as the car company that made my vehicle and recalled several parts recognizes getting to to the city will take time away from my work, and isn't entirely safe, so I thought it would be nice to go to a more impressive place than the cheap and often questionable motels I remember my relative housing us in "to save money." I want to be a bit selfish, and stay in a nice hotel room as it happens the time I am up there will also be during my birthday, and I have never had the chance or funds to stay in a suite until now. I found a place that is in my budget and that I know I can afford and meets my preferences, I am just hesitating on committing because my relative just gave me 20 minutes of what I'm pretty sure is blatant misinformation, but their pushing just totally deflated my confidence in paying for the room. How do you deal with second-questioning yourself? I would love to hear. Thank you for your time. 💗 (edited)

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Brian

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Only pay what you are willing to lose, it's like stocks. You are paying for a suite that you consider is luxurious and worth your money but if you are doing it in the context of, will I have money for next week or not... You should reconsider That how I second guess my spending! Make sure you factor in the future as well like saving up or money that you have for emergency. Else spend it! You work hard you play hard Also happy birthday (edited)

Kelly

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It's your birthday and it's not at all selfish to stay in a nice suite. One of my cherished memories was a time I stayed in a nice hotel room by myself. You need to live and make memories when the opportunity arises. This other person doesn't live your life or do your finances. If you think it's the right way to spend your money, go for it.

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