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Nathaniel
Nathaniel

8mo

INTJ

Gemini

5
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I’ve only been on 2 dates, and got ghosted by both people, do you think I need to reevaluate myself and see where I went wrong?

Just some context, I had my first ever date in 2019 at 19 y/o, went to restaurant, talked non stop for hours, then we ended the night sat by river watching sunset and we kissed and cuddled in the bench. 2 weeks later she ghosted. My 2nd ever date was a few months ago with 27 y/o, spoke to her for a few weeks prior and we spoke every other day. I arranged a date by a nature park reserve, went to get snacks walked around and chatted, sat by lake and had lovely long conversations as we cuddles on the bench while watching the sunset, then we kissed and cuddled more. I thought had a great connection, chemistry was even better in person. A week or so later, replies were getting slower then ghosted me. I let them both know I really enjoyed time with them and wanted to see them again I’m not upset by either of them, but it made me think if I did anything wrong or how can I be better for the next woman. (edited)

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Thomas
Thomas

8mo

INTP

Virgo

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I hear you, getting ghosted is rough, but it doesn't necessarily mean you did something wrong. Both your dates sounded like they went pretty well, so it's more likely about where the other person was at, not about you messing up. People ghost for all sorts of reasons – maybe they weren't ready for something serious, or they just weren't feeling it. It's more on them than you. Self-reflection is good, sure, but don't beat yourself up. You're already doing things right – good conversation, nice settings, making a connection. It's just that sometimes things don't click in the way we hope, and that's okay. It's part of the dating game. Keep being yourself, stay open and genuine. That's the best way to go. The right person will appreciate you for who you are. Dating can be a bit of a rollercoaster, but when it works out, it's totally worth it. So, hang in there!

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8mo

ENFJ

Virgo

8
7

Well you're at least blessed to have dated 2 people from here...I can't even get someone with the same damn morals as me plus I'm pushing on almost 4 years of being companionless...

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Lorenzo
Lorenzo

8mo

ISFJ

Cancer

5
4

It sounds like the moves are right but you just didn't find someone who appreciates them. At your age you got plenty more chances.

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Maggie
Maggie

8mo

INFJ

Capricorn

Sometimes life just happens. I know there's been several people (friends and otherwise) I've really enjoyed being around but work, responsibilities and just social exhaustion got in the way. Those connections fizzled and it was nothing they did. I'm also an introvert so it happens easier with me than most. I have to work hard to keep in contact, even with my best friends.

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Kristen
Kristen

8mo

INFJ

Pisces

4
5

Hard to tell without hearing their version of how you acted between the date and the ghosting. 🤷‍♀️

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