Miky

Posted Monday, May 13, 2024

18d

ESFJ

Aries

9

1

Love

Are you with the right partner? During the seminar, the woman asked, "How can I know if I am the right person?" The author then noticed that a great man was sitting next to her, so he said, "That it depends. Is that your partner? "She replied quite seriously," How do you know? "Let me answer this question because they are a great chance of burdening you, the author replied. Here is the answer. Each relationship has a cycle ... Initially; your fall in love with your partner. You expect their calls, They want their touch and love their peculiarities. Falling in love was not difficult. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to do anything. It is Why is it called "falling in love." In love, people sometimes say, "I was swollen." Imagine an expression. It implies that you just stood there; doing nothing, and then something happened to you. Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of living together, the love euphoria disappears. It is a natural cycle of any connection. Slowly but for sure, phone calls become a nuisance (if any), the touch is not always Welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasy, instead of being sweet, drives you crazy. Symptoms of this phase are different from any relationship; You will notice a dramatic difference between the initial phase when you were in love and much bored or even angry later stages. At this point, you and/or your partner can start to ask, "Am I with the right person?" And you think about the euphoria of the love you once had, you can start wanting that experience with someone else. This is the moment when relationships fall apart. The key to success in the relationship is not to find the right person; It is to learn to love the person you found. People blame their partners for their unhappiness and seek fulfillment outside. Extra -marital fulfillment comes in all forms and sizes. Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to business, hobby, friendship, Excessive TV or abuse of substances. But the answer to this dilemma does not lie beyond your relationship. Lies inside him. I'm not saying you can't fall in love with someone else. He could. AND You would temporarily feel better. But you would be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully this): The key to success in the relationship is not to find the right person; It is to learn to love the person you found. Maintenance of love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on this day by day. It takes time, effort and energy. And most importantly, it requires wisdom. You have to know What to do to make it. Don't make mistakes! Love is not a mystery. There are certain things you can do (with or without a partner), As there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relations. If you know how to apply these laws, the results are predictable. Love is therefore a "decision". Not just a feeling. Remember this always: It is up to you to decide who you will let go, who you will leave and who you will refuse to let go! (edited)