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Posted Monday, January 2, 2023
2y
INFJ
Cancer
How does one "find themselves"? How does one get to know themselves?
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Robert
2y
ISTP
Scorpio
The problem with people losing themselves if really by denying their emotions. When people fail to process their emotions because they were too overwhelmed (traumatized) and had to internalize that, or when no one gave any emotional support(so they began to ignore their own emotions) then there becomes a great internal disconnect. The brain adapts to this and you become emotionally dead or certain things will cause you to just shut down as a defense mechanism. Also traumatic things are repressed by the brain to protect you. Even small traumas can build up over time to turn into big ones. I suggest magic mushrooms because they basically force your brain to connect to all these parts that have been shut off and for things to be processed. It also causes huge neuroregeneration and new connections to be made so your ability to overcome past problems and to also be fully equipped to grow beyond them will be better. You’ll also have a greater perspective of who you are. What your story is. And who you want to be. You are not your feelings. Not your thoughts. You are the experiencer of your life.
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Dhruv
2y
ENTJ
Gemini
The same way you would try to get to know someone else. Spend time with yourself, ask yourself the right questions. Think, introspect, be aware of the things you do, subconsciously or otherwise. Figure why you make certain decisions. Ask yourself what your passions, goals, & aims in life are. We are often unexplored because we don't have the time to think in that way, but this is a great question. I hope you do find yourself, & I hope this is of help. Best of luck!
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Daniel
2y
INTP
Scorpio
Talk to yourself. It's insane, you'll feel goofy and crazy, it's a bit disheartening sometimes to let each aspect of yourself talk it out with you as a whole. You'll disassociate a bit. But you get a whole view of each of your selves. Just don't go thinking you can kill some part of you it'll come back to bite you.
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Wayne
2y
ESTJ
Taurus
First, empty your mind. That means letting go of your ego. Then ask those closest to you to give their honest opinion of you, good and bad. Listen to what they say with no judgement. Ask what is their favourite thing about you and what's the worst thing about you. If you're going to react badly to criticism, there's no point. Your ego will get in the way of your personal growth. That's my advice, start there. The people around you say a lot about who you are.
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Caleb
2y
ISTP
Libra
I'd wager, try new things... I've heard this is why people "experiment" in college. Who am I to know though? Seems I've always known who I am and that I'm a rare case. That's what I've been told because I literally said I don't get stuff like this. Sometimes I've had to move the ball around a little to find the right term or nuance but I've never been far off. (edited)
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Curtis
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INFP
Taurus
Put down the alcohols.
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