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Posted Sunday, June 4, 2023
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INTP
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Empathy is useless change my mind
excessive empathy is probably the reason we have such terrible people in the world. Nobody can be honest with anybody so Karen's run amok and kids are terrible cause you can't tell them or they parents how terrible a job they doing. Hardships build character and not being able to give cold hard honesty to ppl just let them stay a terrible person from a child to an adult.
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Dex
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I have a few problems with this: 1. Empathy is not in any sense the inability to tell people when they're wrong and can be doing better. What you described is type of social suppression commonly referred to as 'people pleasing'. 2. Empathy is the true understanding and human reflection of another's state of being; negative or positive. Unlike sympathy which may have no understanding for what a person is going through, but shows compassion anyhow; Empathy DOES understand the emotions and processing an individual is going through. 3. Blaming Empathy for a whole of terrible people, is like blaming others for letting a serial killer run rampant. At the end of the day, the one killing people is the serial killer - they're the problem, even if the people around are complicit. This world needs more empathy. I wish I had a serum to force into people like Karen's, dictators, the rich and power individuals to actually FEEL the hardship they put people through with the decisions and entitlement they hold. So no, the world doesn't need less empathy it needs more. It needs to stop socially conditioning people that the personality traits of egotism, monitary luck/success, and Hollywood attraction standards are of the highest value in our society. (edited)
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Caleb
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Aries
What you describe isn't empathy, but blind love. To be truly empathic is to try to understand where people come from, by also try to nudge them in the right direction, empathy doesn't mean "understanding why someone commits.evil, and letting them get away with it" it's knowing why someone commits evil, and loving them all the same, and trying to help them be better. Like you said, parents tryto help their kids learn better behaviours, that is true empathy unless the parent didn't actually.understand why the child.felt that way.
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JJCARPENTER44
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Capricorn
Not useless but over used. It all about balance. If a veteran becomes disabled I find empathy in that. I mean you was trying to do something good got put in a bad situation and it turned out bad. But if you became disabled in a hanglideing accident I have much less empathy you created your own hardship. I agree, honesty is no long welcome or appreciated. But I don't care, I will never not be honest. In a dishonest world you will be called a lier for telling the simple truth.
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Maxwell
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Leo
No, stop conflating empathy with passivity. Empathy is what drives a person to deliver harsh news *tactfully*, in a way that makes it clear they care about the person's wellbeing. Saying your options are either a) be bluntly honest or b) never speak up is a pretty obvious false dichotomy
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Nick
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INFJ
Gemini
Ok, I agree with you. First. But empathy can also be used as tool to defend yourself. And stay safe like being alert. On a whole other level. Every place you go you feel differently and around each new person. You can feel shifts in people's intents or how they speak or move. And if the world has gone mad. Which, ya it sort of has. It's good to have all the tools you can find. Even if iteans people will judge you. That's a ok. As long as I excape all those zombies.
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Dale
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Scorpio
Empathy isn't the problem here. People are responsible for themselves and their own issues. Being empathetic also requires the empathizer to be responsible for themselves, too. Maybe that means they need to be more judicious about what they're sharing with the person they're empathizing with.
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Anca
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If you go outside USA you ll find a different culture and how things are radical different. America’s problem, from my perspective, is having too much freedom and a lack of traditional values plus lack of ethics on any digital platform. Your population number is incredible and as expected, chaos can emerge. Emphathy makes us human, relate to others and connect to others. (edited)
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