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Posted Friday, July 12, 2024
10mo
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Humble Self-Concept Method
I came up with this method that solves for a lot of personal development and mental health issues over time if done consistently; promoting openness, rationality, mitigating our lifelong mastered dependency on cognitive self-defense mechanisms (including those that keep us from seeing us using them), self-worth, self-esteem, self-compassion, and cooperation with others by more easily offering them the same. It's 6 life long steps that if we were taught how to do them in childhood, we'd likely have had slightly if not much easier lives in psychological sense. The older you are, the longer it takes to internalize due to cleaning up and restructuring your self-belief system with a more secure center and less threatenable surface area. Let me know what you think 😊 -The Humble Self-Concept Method: A Strategy For Addressing the Species-Wide Skill Gap and Meeting Our Needs- Target Humble Self-Concept: “I may fail at anything and may fail to notice I am failing, but I am the type of person who imperfectly tries to be what they currently consider a good person. For that, what I am has worth whether I am failing or not, and I can always be proud of my imperfect attempt, including when limitations out of my conscious control sabotage it. That absolute self-worth and self-esteem justify all possible self-compassion, such as self-forgiveness, patience, desiring and attempting to seek changes in my life, and establishing and maintaining healthy boundaries against harm others or I might try to cause myself, including attempts to invalidate this maximally humble self-concept as a way of being made to feel shame, guilt, or embarrassment for their sake more than I intend to use these feelings to help me grow.” 1. Understanding each part of the "Target Humble Self-Concept" for the three parts of a self-concept it makes up; the infallible Self-Knowledge and Self-Evaluation, the Ought Self, and how these then relate to the lifelong journey of reaching toward an Ideal-Self from the Actual-Self we are at every point along the way, and how the first three enable the healthiest journey between the other two if internalized, it providing an always available sense of inherent self-worth, always deserved self-esteem, and unconditional justification for self-compassion. It corrects the common misconception that fairness means treating everyone identically, regardless of individual circumstances. Instead, it promotes acknowledging our inherent diversity in abilities and situations, advocating for realistic and compassionate self-evaluations that are tailored to individual needs, fostering an equitable approach to both self-compassion and interpersonal fairness. It can also be used as a self-compassion break which over time, from practice and gaining a deeper understanding of it, becomes more and more automatic. 2. Reframing all memories and beliefs derived from them so that they're compatible with this target self-concept, resolving all currently held and often conditioned sources of internal guilt, shame, embarrassment, humiliation, and jealousy, preventing those beliefs from being intertwined with the self-concept and a comfortable enough misery developing. 3. Learning to enjoy pride when it's felt and first rationalized as coming from a new fallible belief, but then instead of maintaining pride in that fallible belief, intertwining it with the self-concept and causing a greater hypervigilance against threats to that pride and psyche via the self-concept, rerouting the source of all pride directly from the target self-concept, not any specific fallible belief(s). 4. Framing all new experiences and the beliefs derived from them so that they're compatible with the target self-concept. 5. Using the now practiced, developed, and comfortable coping mechanism of using one's own self-concept without cognitive self-defense mechanisms for resolving self-correcting pains as a way to sit with those feelings longer so that one can make better decisions. 6. Acknowledging that the target self-concept that justifies unconditional self-compassion is also true about others, charging us with the moral responsibility to take every opportunity to be as compassionate as we possibly can in place of cruelty or callousness while maintaining respect for all personal boundaries. I also created a custom AI GPT that helps a person through the steps, highly customizing the method per the person: The Humble Self-Concept Method GPT: https://chat.openai.com/g/g-BnUaZTm8B-the-humble-self-concept-method (edited)
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Like with Buddhism, there being so many good teachings, I figured there had to be something that really made a difference between those that avoided it versus were attracted to it. There is a percentage of self-proclaimed Buddhists that are some of the least open(minded) people out there, unwittingly taking pride in what they think they're doing which is antithetical to it. Nearly everyone believes they're not only the open-minded, but that so many people aren't, acting as proof of their being. Something fundamentally had to be going on beyond this "human condition" we were told to just accept. The potential we leave on the table as a species is such a shame.
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