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Jess
Jess

2mo

ISTP

Pisces

I'm not sure how to feel

I need some perspective on something. I was single for like 11 years. I'm now dating someone for the past 4 months. It's a new experience for me. He does have an ex that he conceived 2 teenagers with. I have no issues with parents getting along that isn't a romantic relationship. I think that's awesome. However, it's been bothering me how he puts her in such high regards at times. Other times, he is smack talking her. It's a bit confusing for me. Last night, he and I were hanging out with people and she was present. The person next to me asked who she was. Instead saying 'That's, so and so' he stated 'The mother of my children?' 'That's the mother of my kids, so so'. It pained me to hear him say it like that and the person sensed it. He has a nickname/pet name for her and I don't have one. When it comes to people needing assistance on something, half the time he refers people to her. I get that he and I are fresh with each other (6 months in person, 4 months relationship) and they have known each other for almost 20 years. But there have been a few uncomfortable discrepancies between us in regards to communicating and trust. Other than that, we are good to each other. I'm not sure how I'm suppose to feel about this compared to how I do feel. Am I expecting too much too soon? Is it wrong that I feel like the trophy girlfriend or the second fiddle? Am I wrong for feeling hurt on how he presents her? I'm not sure on what to do or feel. (edited)

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Lucid
Lucid

2mo

INFJ

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You're asking these questions for a reason. The facet that you're asking if you're wrong... Usually means the opp

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ActionJackson
ActionJackson

2mo

INFP

Scorpio

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I have a great relationship with my ex-wife and we were together over 20 years. But there is no more attraction, not any moreso than if she were a sibling. You should be able to tell. He may not have moved on.

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Airy
Airy

2mo

ISFP

Capricorn

6
5

I agree with Lucid, trust your gut!!! Don't try to convince yourself that you're over thinking of being silly; yiu feel this way for a reason.

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Christian
Christian

2mo

INFP

Scorpio

He sounds conflicted about how he feels about her

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