I got married when I was very young. We met when I was 22. We both had a lot of growing up to do, and I didn’t have any role models growing up to give me good relationship advice. I am now 43. My Christmas present last year was my wife telling me she wanted a divorce. And my New Years’ resolution was to stop it from happening. But it was too late, and like most New Year’s resolutions, it failed in February. 😞 The lesson? As a man, EVERY morning of EVERY day, you should wake up thinking of a way to express love to your partner. It doesn’t have to be expensive, just a cute little “have a great day, thinking of you” kind of text message or a sweet note, just something that proves that you love her as much as you say. Flowers aren’t expensive. Get her a gift once and a while just because. Here’s the thing: if you don’t prove that you love her, she’s not going to assume it. The opposite is true. She will assume that you don’t. Saying it when you hang up the phone won’t do. You can’t overcome it with sex, either. Women need constant assurance or they feel unloved. I had no affairs. I did not abuse my wife. I took her love for granted and it’s the biggest mistake I ever made. And it’s the kind of mistake that, once realized, it’s too late because it’s been going on for too long. My mission in the next love life is to make my partner feel loved, just the way I should have made my wife feel.

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Good advice there. Divorced two years now myself. Love definitely needs to be shown constantly and consistently

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For me that didn't make a difference. Sometimes it's just time for that connection to come apart.

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Sometimes even if two people love each other so hard, things would still fall apart due to small miscommunication and such. Do not blame yourself. It would be a long crawl but you can do it.

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Maybe your attracted to high maintenance ladies. If that's the case then your screwed. Plenty of strong woman that do not need or want a man kissing their ass. Never put the P on a pedestal.

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If you really need reassurance that often, it's not because you think they don't love you, it's because you don't love them. And as much as I will love my wife, if working 60+ hours per week to get her everything she wants isn't enough, then I stop getting I what she wants.

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Thank you for the advice my brother, all young men need to hear this because not all of us had good men role models in our lives like you said. Young boys out there should be taking notes rn!

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It's a shame your marriage ended but sometimes people grow apart due to many different factors like change in interests, change in circumstances (kids/parenting), change in commitments like work, death in the family, etc...or maybe ur ex was also unappreciative rather than u just being accountable & u thinking u should have done more. I'm no expert in love or marriage but I don't think it is about continuous reassurance for her. I do think in a relationship there is need to be somewhat consistent with communication & love. I also have a failed marriage but I don't think it is good idea to dwell on it. However, I do like your new mission...Good luck with it! But just remember it takes 2 people to make a relationship work...They will also need to put in the effort or make you feel loved and appreciated too

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Good advice there. Divorced two years now myself. Love definitely needs to be shown constantly and consistently

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Sometimes even if two people love each other so hard, things would still fall apart due to small miscommunication and such. Do not blame yourself. It would be a long crawl but you can do it.

Maybe your attracted to high maintenance ladies. If that's the case then your screwed. Plenty of strong woman that do not need or want a man kissing their ass. Never put the P on a pedestal.

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