Finding my person

Question

When I'm honest about my conditions, people back away. They see someone lesser than because I can't do all the 'normal' activities. I used to love hiking. Unfortunately, my body can't support that activity anymore (among some others).

I'm learning about myself and the world around me still. I want to grow and learn with my forever person. I want to welcome kids into the world down the road too.

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JJ · Accepted Answer

If I’m going to be completely honest. Finding the right person is gonna be a challenge because alot of people have high expectations especially with their partner. I would say just be honest with who you are and despite whatever disability you have, the right person will come into your life and accept you for who you are as a person. I used to think to myself I will never find love in this world because of my autism, social anxiety, add and depression but I finally found the right one who’s willing to hold me down and tackle these issues with me. I’m sorry that you’re going through this but just remember there’s 7 billion people in this world you will eventually find your soulmate. It might not be today,tomorrow,weeks, or even years from now but just patient and that special someone will come into your life eventually.

Aubrix · Answer

I feel this. I have chronic fatigue and fibromyalgia, as well as borderline personality disorder. Thankfully my hubby-chan is extremely supportive! However, It's nearly impossible to make friends.

Jeff · Answer

I've always found it better to be up front about my own issues rather than waste anyone's time (mine or their's) by getting to know them and then have them run the other way. I've had some weird reactions over the years, especially on dating sites, but it is part of your life, no need to hide it. Good luck to you.

Bea · Answer

I agree with alot of the other commenters about the fact that there are alot of people out there and you don't want to waste anyone's time.Yours or theirs, so just be honest and idk if this is a popular opinion or not but I don't love getting too attached. Especially if your disabilities can be seen as somewhat taxing or taboo.Im saying this as someone experiencing it,with my own fears.I don't want you to not try to find love and intimacy or whatever if that's what you really want but I also don't want you to get hurt unnecessarily. Be honest,be cautious,be kind,be compassionate,be logical. These are the things that sort of help me get through socializing in some ways.You don't NEED anyone and anyone who thinks your lesser then bc of something you can't control probably shouldn't be in your life anyway.Stress dodged.Keep moving forward and be the kind of person you'd want to be friends with

Rhiannon · Answer

I miss hiking. I hope you find what you're looking for and ignore the rude ones.

Rob · Answer

I'm sorry people can be judgmental. You seem like a nice person

Finding my person

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I feel this. I have chronic fatigue and fibromyalgia, as well as borderline personality disorder. Thankfully my hubby-chan is extremely supportive! However, It's nearly impossible to make friends.

I miss hiking. I hope you find what you're looking for and ignore the rude ones.

I'm sorry people can be judgmental. You seem like a nice person

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