What would you do?

Question

I matched with this lovely lady who shared many similar interests with me. We bonded over many things and decided to meet in person after a week of talking. We had a really good time but unfortunately she had triggers of her previous trauma from her previous relationship. Then she sent this.

Andreas Sauer · Accepted Answer

Give her the space she asks for, I know it's not the way you wanted things to go, but take her kind words and let her move on. Not everyone is ready when we'd like them to be d:

Erick · Answer

She's told you the truth bro,accept it and find someone else. You can't save someone who's unwilling to be saved .

Elle · Answer

I used to think I could be the one who makes a difference in their life only if they'd let me in to try. Sometimes I still do, to be the one that could make thee difference. One day I was listening to some podcasts with rel experts who said when someone say this, believe them, they are giving you fair warning what it's going to be like with them. I know it seems right now like you have much in common and how wonderful it looks, but many a time things only appear rose colored at the beginning before the cycle starts. I'm sorry... 😞

Himanshu · Answer

It's funny that the same happened wimme. I tried convincing, but it didn't work. Do whatever you think you should, my frnd. She liked you, so just be you

Abu · Answer

Leave it and move on 🤗

Anthony · Answer

You've left a positive mark on her and that's enough for her for now.  Time to hitch up the wagon and move on.

♡BirdieBoo♡ · Answer

She has alot to deal with right now and she's aware of it. I hope one day someone can help her realise that she is worth it and that not everyone  is out to hurt her.

Lisa · Answer

She doesn't know what she wants. Never want anyone that doesn't definitely want you.

Wendell · Answer

Do what she asks. There’s still light at the end of that tunnel.

Risa · Answer

Sorry, but she's not ready for now
She's afraid her darkness, problem might changed you too
If you truly want her, and can accept whatever might happen in the future, go for it, because all I see she want you, but her paranoia might turn her fear to hurt you or else

Richie · Answer

You listen to what she had made very clear to you. They say that if you actually listen, someone always says their true intentions in the beginning.

Ryn · Answer

She's so hurt still. Stand with her and be with her. As steady as a boulder in a stream.

Fdud · Answer

Lol

Amanda · Answer

Whatever you do, don't have the hero complex. I'm not just saying this cuz you're a man. I, as a woman, have had the hero complex to this kinda behavior towards men and women and it will destroy you in the end. Your heart may be in the right place, but you cannot save someone that isn't ready to save themselves. You can't force it. It will only hurt the both of you far more. You've clearly done enough for her to say you deserve more. She's also projecting her insecurities. You cannot fix that. No one can fix that. She can only accept love when she learns to love herself and that takes time. When someone shows you who they are, you better believe them. Don't chase someone that thinks of you as an I don't know or a maybe. Chase someone that thinks of you as a Hell yeah!

⏹️ Sûrjît ⏩ · Answer

Not your cup of tea my man! You should be glad that she's honest with her thoughts and doesn't want to drag you along with a false sense of belonging. Move on and have no doubts or regrets upon this.

You will find someone who'd make you feel even more blessed and that's what we all should look forward to.

What would you do?

Relationshipadvice Community

Give her the space she asks for, I know it's not the way you wanted things to go, but take her kind words and let her move on. Not everyone is ready when we'd like them to be d:

She's told you the truth bro,accept it and find someone else. You can't save someone who's unwilling to be saved . (edited)

It's funny that the same happened wimme. I tried convincing, but it didn't work. Do whatever you think you should, my frnd. She liked you, so just be you

Leave it and move on 🤗

You've left a positive mark on her and that's enough for her for now. Time to hitch up the wagon and move on.

She has alot to deal with right now and she's aware of it. I hope one day someone can help her realise that she is worth it and that not everyone is out to hurt her.

She doesn't know what she wants. Never want anyone that doesn't definitely want you.

Do what she asks. There’s still light at the end of that tunnel.

Sorry, but she's not ready for now She's afraid her darkness, problem might changed you too If you truly want her, and can accept whatever might happen in the future, go for it, because all I see she want you, but her paranoia might turn her fear to hurt you or else

You listen to what she had made very clear to you. They say that if you actually listen, someone always says their true intentions in the beginning.

She's so hurt still. Stand with her and be with her. As steady as a boulder in a stream.

Lol

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